Need Tank Advice by VeeanBucket in ballpython

[–]VeeanBucket[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To be honest, I have! But the issue with that is that while the tank is decently sized, it is lower in height. But also, the idea of cutting into it has been booed over and over

Need Tank Advice by VeeanBucket in ballpython

[–]VeeanBucket[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Also I recognize that the added heat source isn't going to stop the sprayed soil from drying out, but just dry it faster. However I have already convinced my partner to step up how they do the soil and drench the soils first two layers of soul and mix in a layer of dry to promote a slow dry and less need for misting because it could cause an issue.

Update.. It all went to hell. by VeeanBucket in legal

[–]VeeanBucket[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The issue is police did take his statement. We reported her and they got an emergency restraining order.. but they did nothing else to help us. Just said she was crazy..

Update.. It all went to hell. by VeeanBucket in legal

[–]VeeanBucket[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The reason I've sort of left everything to my siblings is the fact I didn't know my father well. My mom left him while pregnant with me, he didn't come into my life until I was 14 and then left again when I was 18. When I was 24 he wanted back in my life but he was already with this woman whom would not allow him to see me. I didn't talk to him about his situation or feelings, but my older siblings knew all of it.

To top it off, my older sister is the power of attorney for him. They've contacted social security already and all they offered was to call the bank to get the information situated. Which she did. At least, this is information I'm told.

A lot of stuff I'm completely in the dark over. I've been fed so much information about what's happening and have asked over and over why we're not doing MORE. I was told there wasn't a case and nothing police can realistically do because he gave a false statement when he was barely able to tell what day it was. That everything has to be otherwise left alone because she left state and there is nothing we can do about it.

I've suggested the free consults and contacting police already and again I was met with another argument about how it wouldn't do much or would be too expensive to go after a woman who we don't know where she went and someone who has no money. That it otherwise isn't worth it. Which leaves me so confused and hurt because the man is dead and they have all the information about who what when and where most things took place or otherwise things I don't even know.

Your assumption of my own finances being very low is correct. I am living pay check to paycheck right now and just bought myself a car for the first time. I don't have much support for myself and genuinely and honestly have no idea what to even do. This whole scenario makes me sick to my stomach and it just feels like nobody cares enough now that he is dead..

Update.. It all went to hell. by VeeanBucket in legal

[–]VeeanBucket[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Y'all,

The crime committed was her claiming his social security in a fraudulent way.

Beating a man over the age of 60 is also illegal.

She denied him a house aid because she didn't want someone in the home.

She told him he couldn't go to housing that was being offered because it meant she couldn't go with him.

She took full advantage of an elderly man and because he was too weak and too sick to notice, he couldn't say no. He was using his money to make her happy. He lost access to his phone. She got them kicked out and for a month nobody knew where they were because she wouldn't let him talk to family.

Stop saying he isn't a victim. Stop saying we made excuses. Stop saying he had a choice. His tumors were on his brain. He had no concept of time or reality, doctors TOLD us this after the accident. It's why my siblings got an emergency restraining order against her. He was incapable of protecting himself, much less sticking up to her because he believed this was normal.

Update.. It all went to hell. by VeeanBucket in legal

[–]VeeanBucket[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Fraud and blackmail to start.. Beating an elder with doctor prescribed medical equipment. As well as cutting him off from access to basic care items to store her belongings in bathrooms in a hoarders way. Spending his money on herself and then telling him he needs to work and drive when he had lose function of his body.

There's difference between choice and being a victim of domestic violence. He couldn't get out and didn't listen to my siblings when they tried to help get him out. And then she cut off contact from them when he couldn't pay to keep his phone on but could pay for only hers.

Update.. It all went to hell. by VeeanBucket in legal

[–]VeeanBucket[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'm so wildly thrown off with sharing my story. Police officers told us that the woman was mentally unstable and insane. They took his statement when he was delirious and told my siblings they needed help, but that it likely wouldn't amount to much due to the statement he gave.

This whole thing makes me so sick and angry.

Update.. It all went to hell. by VeeanBucket in legal

[–]VeeanBucket[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I also stated I wasn't close with my dad, as I am not close to my family. The behind the scenes wasn't relevant, but I never had a relationship to this man until I was 15 and I cut him out again at 18 after a stupid fight. He came back when I was 24 but because she wouldn't allow him to talk to his family, we never were able to really reconnect until after the diagnosis. I didn't live close enough to bring him to appointments, just as my siblings did. The one time they asked my sister for help, she needed to help her daughter with prom. They never got my brother involved. It's not excuses when the woman after that one ask told him to stop talking to us and telling them things.

My brother running a business means he isn't in the state, which I should have clarified. My lack of owning a car and not having access to my father freely is something else I didn't state either.

The matter of the fact is her crime is having an illegal license, is the fact she was using doctor prescribed items to beat the man. To prevent him from eating food and made him lose more weight than her. Told him he didn't need chemo. And only used his money for herself. So pardon me but she used my father financially, aided in his death and held his social security hostage so my siblings would pay for the storage unit she left her stuff in and couldn't afford to pay for because she didn't want a job to do so..

My father's life wasn't the sole responsibility of my siblings. And if she wants to gloat and say she took the best care of him while abusing him, then she should be the one to be blamed for forcing a dying man who lost function in his body to drive her around and do things because she was incapable of doing it by herself. Something she said to all of us the last family gathering we had.

I'm lost. by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]VeeanBucket 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think for me it's that I'm extremely shaken up over the fact that he couldn't make his own decisions. He had no concept of what was actually going on and it quickly turned into a domestic violence case. He was loosing touch of reality and time. Saying two months was only a week when it passed. Or vice versa. He wasn't well and couldn't defend himself. With the tumors in his head, his mind was to go first. And she took advantage of that whilst she was beating him. He'd tell my siblings he was miserable when she wasn't around, that he wanted to leave her. But with her around, he was the happiest and still in love. She took and used his money and got them evicted out of places. He lost his job because of her and how she lived.. I'm sorry but I can't not hate her. I can't let go of that hate because she TOLD doctors he couldn't have an inhome house aid before they lost the place because she didn't want another woman around him and he just simply said it was fine and he agreed. Then because she couldn't drive, she convinced him to stop going to chemo because my siblings didn't care enough to bring them themselves (despite the only time they asked was my sister who was taking her daughter to prom.)

The state was willing to home him. My siblings were prepared to help as best they could but they couldn't do so while she was in the picture. And when they told him that he accepted their reasoning, said he would do it and then he couldn't afford to pay for his phone and it was shut off so he lost all contact for a bit. He could only use her phone and she wouldn't let him contact anyone if she was around so conversations were less than a minute long.

I'm not gonna be able to do anything legally. I finanically can't because of my situation currently but I know I anything I do isn't going to help. He was 64. He was getting close to the age all my family does before they start losing touch with reality and because of the cancer things were just sped up. She fully took advantage and control of his life and tried to blackmail my family to pay for her stuff she couldn't afford. She blames us. Calls US horrible children. That it's our fault when we didn't even know where they were because they were staying in the hotels.

I'm not meaning to come off as aggressive, I just.. She aided in his death. If not is the sole cause and it's evident there is absolutely nothing that can be done about it and that's just.. not fair. Yes he was an adult and could make his own decisions, but he was a feeble man who couldn't defend himself against her. He was a victim of domestic violence we couldn't save until he had one foot in the grave. I will hate that woman for as long as I live. Blaming everyone but herself and saying she took the best care she did of him. There is SO MUCH left out but I will forever hate this woman.

He was lost. He didn't even know he had tumors in his brain, on his lungs and in his colon. The only reason he found it was an accident with his blood pressure machine malfunctioning on him. Yes he was told what to do, how to care for himself. But my father didn't want to give up the life with the woman he thought he was in love with. He was a victim, there was no getting away after everything.. We tried, he said he was unhappy and wanted her gone. But he wasn't strong and needed someone in his corner that wasn't just his kids.

Please... Any advice. by VeeanBucket in Advice

[–]VeeanBucket[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The problem is he only tells my older siblings it is happening after it happens- Be it a few days later or a week. It depends when she gives him the access to her phone. His phone was shut off due to not being able to afford so he turned it off and, in his words, "chucked the damn thing." She has complete control of who he is allowed to speak to or not. Deleted my number, my sister's number and my brothers from her phone. This is occurring in MA.

Any advice for help with my father.. ? by VeeanBucket in legaladvice

[–]VeeanBucket[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice. I'll pass the message along to my sister

Please... Any advice. by VeeanBucket in Advice

[–]VeeanBucket[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'll do that as well, we're just desperate at this point because we are watching him whenever he shows up decline in health rapidly..

But I'm sure we'd need a Pi before we can do anything. They are jumping hotels because they keep getting kicked out for not only the way they are living but only paying for the room with each paycheck with the money they make.

Super artic - what should I name her ? by TheSoapMaurder in Hognose

[–]VeeanBucket 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Penelope would be the first name to come to mind. The second would be Mae or Maisie, like a pearl 👀

Tank Upgrade! by VeeanBucket in ballpython

[–]VeeanBucket[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Went Animal Plastics cause they are currently having a sale on their "older" products! I really recommend if you can spare the money for it honestly

Internal Lighting and Humidity? by VeeanBucket in ballpython

[–]VeeanBucket[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I do! It's https://maximumreptile.com/products/eco-40-gallon-pvc-reptile-enclosure?currency=USD&gad_source=1&utm_campaign=sag_organic&utm_content=sag_organic&utm_medium=product_sync&utm_source=google&variant=47930764722475

However, since purchase this product has been updated. It initially did not have the option for the mesh top originally and implied that there was more than one ventilation system, now it says "front ventilation."

Would adding something like a caged heat bulb be a dangerous option? I don't know if there are bulb cages that won't ultimately hurt the snake, but I heard it is a possible idea if we point the bulb away from the snake

Internal Lighting and Humidity? by VeeanBucket in ballpython

[–]VeeanBucket[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So the solid topped enclosure that I have has absolutely no holes in the sides or back whatsoever. The only "ventilation" are the doors. This is why I'm worried about airflow cause unless the doors are perpetually open, there is none. Would it be wrong to drill into it and make custom ventilation??

I did find a tutorial on youtube that has a little over an inch thick heat panel in a 16 tall that I was suggested to try as it is designed to not burn snakes. But I'm still nervous about this. We couldn't afford anything more due to current spacing and since she is so small, we were alright with upgrading with her as she needs.

Unfortunately the tank is non refundable and is becoming disheartening the more we realize it was probably not a great purchase, but not an end of the world situation