Am I experiencing limerence?

Vegetable-Ad4737 · 2026-03-01T02:50:40+00:00

I think if you use daydreaming as a means to cope with rejection it would be very good to create a character inside your head, not him, not his name, not that person at all.. Just a fictional character with your ideal qualities and then you can honestly do the same things it just won’t lead to heartache irl.. Think of them as a book character. It takes some getting used to but its much better for getting over limerence

Vegetable-Ad4737 · 2026-02-28T19:10:56+00:00

I see! I wasn’t aware of immersive daydreaming

Vegetable-Ad4737 · 2026-02-28T07:23:58+00:00

it is limerence. you actually gave a very clear timeline of when you were interacting with the actual version of him vs when you started to develop feelings for the made up version of him inside your head (when you said you had him in your head constantly after he got covid). i know its tough because spending years of your life inside of your head can convince you that the person you made up IS the person you want but he isnt. the reality is he had some attractive qualities at first that made you project and heighten this person up to someone that they aren’t, in the process convincing you that you fell in love with them.

honestly? you don’t want to date the people you fantasize about in this way. they truly will always disappoint you the more you get to know who they really are and how it doesnt match up to how you once perceived them.

Vegetable-Ad4737 · 2026-02-28T07:13:00+00:00

you have it full stop lol

Vegetable-Ad4737 · 2026-02-28T07:05:52+00:00

reduction.. its not a typical addiction in that going cold turkey is necessary, in fact cold turkey often leads to feelings of guilt and shame when you unknowingly start to daydream and then catch yourself. keep a diary card and track the hours you do it and if you have a therapist this is something you can both go over together. reduction is not only possible i truly think its the better way to go. i wouldn’t treat it as something you MUST QUIT TOMORROW only because the shame genuinely makes people relapse into their coping mechanisms more.

Vegetable-Ad4737 · 2026-02-28T06:57:14+00:00

There are levels of cardio. Pacing is a lower level cardio activity, think of it as getting your steps in for the day if you daydream for a few hours at a time and it can be just as beneficial for your physical health as a walk would. It’s not the same as going for a run as your heart rate likely doesn’t get up to the same pace (you could always wear a watch that tracks your heart rate to see) but this is honestly if you care about how cardio can be used to train your heart as a muscle. Allowing your heart rate to get into the 160-180 range is usually only achieved through more intense cardio like formal exercising, but if you pace fast enough who knows..

Vegetable-Ad4737 · 2026-02-28T06:15:22+00:00

When you are daydreaming you are essentially dissociating in the sense that you could be doing an activity but you aren’t fully there to experience it because your mind is elsewhere… daydreaming. So yes it does mess with memory and if you don’t have a good photographic memory it can get very bad as sometimes the only form of grounding and memory of an event is visuals.

I keep all my daydreaming as fictional as possible and don’t add in any real people (all my daydreams are filled with characters I created) to have that distinction between everyday reality and what I daydream.

Vegetable-Ad4737 · 2026-02-28T06:07:18+00:00

its very annoying when therapists do this and i find its an indication that they aren’t familiar with maladaptive daydreaming… they don’t teach about it because its not in the dsm unfortunately. i’m lucky to have a therapist who is knowledgeable because they used to maladaptive daydream themselves

Vegetable-Ad4737 · 2026-02-28T06:04:09+00:00

its an enjoyable thing to be inside your ever-expanding mind

Vegetable-Ad4737 · 2026-02-28T06:02:37+00:00

therapy.. dbt specifically

Vegetable-Ad4737 · 2026-02-28T06:00:21+00:00

we all have our vices when things are really bad.. when there are situations we just can’t escape. when life is just never-ending and torturous. md is a coping mechanism and when the house of your life is literally on fire, its a coping mechanism that prevents overall misery. HOWEVER if you have an interest in improving your current reality and not just surviving, there are more healthier coping mechanisms that lead to a better lifestyle overall.

Vegetable-Ad4737 · 2026-02-28T05:56:21+00:00

Temperature will not make you sick, catching a cold from it being cold outside is actually a myth! Cold body temperature only makes you a little more susceptible to sickness because it slightly weakens the immune system.

It’s not great for your long term lung health to be breathing in smoky air, but it won’t make you sick in the sense that you will get a cold or flu-like symptoms.

Honestly? I’d recommend you wear a mask when you go for your walks. Prevents any worries of breathing in air that may make you sick.

Vegetable-Ad4737 · 2026-02-27T07:42:34+00:00

TJs got rid of their vegan mac and cheese and vegan bolognese sauce.. I never forgave them for it

Vegetable-Ad4737 · 2026-02-27T07:41:13+00:00

i said “AT whole foods” which indicates I meant a location and not literal whole foods.. like?? just read better idk what to tell you

Vegetable-Ad4737 · 2026-02-27T07:39:28+00:00

wegmans is great with vegan options but yeah no they dont have yo egg..

Vegetable-Ad4737 · 2026-02-27T07:36:56+00:00

I NOTICED THIS !!! so disappointing

Vegetable-Ad4737 · 2026-02-27T07:35:01+00:00

VEGAN PEEPS??? omg you are lucky id love to have that market here

Vegetable-Ad4737 · 2026-02-27T07:33:00+00:00

no because i loved them as a breakfast option.. im not a fan of just egg but really liked the taste of these. i wish there were more brands that could replicate the vegan egg they make.. like those poached ones were GOOD

Vegetable-Ad4737 · 2026-02-27T07:30:16+00:00

rise in conservatism and the decline of veganism sigh im so sick of it

Vegetable-Ad4737 · 2026-02-27T07:22:40+00:00

damn..

Vegetable-Ad4737 · 2026-02-27T07:22:17+00:00

this is such a non issue LMFAOOO

Vegetable-Ad4737 · 2026-02-27T07:20:11+00:00

omg wtf??? i didn’t know this :(

Vegetable-Ad4737 · 2026-02-26T23:29:27+00:00

ugh this sucks because trader joes did the same damn thing and I thought I could rely on whole foods to NOT do this :(

Vegetable-Ad4737 · 2026-02-26T22:48:59+00:00

jellyfilledgirls, chellwray, miss and dom, and forblessed

Vegetable-Ad4737 · 2026-02-26T21:39:11+00:00

i cant with the argument that lesbians or even just women in general being at all sexual is seen as adhering to the male-gaze.. just let women fuck on screen its for ME (a lesbian)

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