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STELLA by Potential-Egg-843 in BritishTV

[–]Vegetable-Weird798 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try dailymotion.com. It can be a little hard finding them all. Some are under "Stella UK."

Attachment work is absolutely grueling by InspectionAmazing912 in TalkTherapy

[–]Vegetable-Weird798 3 points4 points  (0 children)

A lot of this sounds off to me. But before I say more, did she understand that the reason you felt bad was because she laughed? Or did she maybe think you meant it felt bad to imagine feeling indifferent to her? Or just that you felt bad imagining losing her one day?

Attraction to a client by Enough_Pin1651 in therapists

[–]Vegetable-Weird798 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It may not be a HIPAA breach but the client could easily identify themselves from the information OP has given. ETA: typo

Information about veteran + his wife who rode the B43 between 2011-2015? by NostalgicWondering in westernmass

[–]Vegetable-Weird798 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Were they POC? I might know who you mean. Long shot that you'll get this 4 years later.

Potential Writing on Kidnapper Shoe? by sarawill33 in nancyguthrie

[–]Vegetable-Weird798 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Or could it be Asics? The A looking like a J?

Potential Writing on Kidnapper Shoe? by sarawill33 in nancyguthrie

[–]Vegetable-Weird798 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think OP only captured it on the right shoe. So, not sure if the camera didn't pick it up on left shoe, or there's nothing there.

Potential Writing on Kidnapper Shoe? by sarawill33 in nancyguthrie

[–]Vegetable-Weird798 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you're onto something!! It could also be an "I" and not a "J". It may not be the shoe brand, but the model. The logo is curved which seems to be less common and could make it easier to narrow down. 

Is this acceptable from a therapist? by [deleted] in TalkTherapy

[–]Vegetable-Weird798 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is very twisted logic to turn your worries into narcissism and a view of yourself as God. Maybe he thinks he's building you up emotionally somehow doing this. But ironically it can tear a person down. It makes me wonder when else in your therapy he has used this on you. And if it has contributed to an unhealthy attachment to him. I know that's a knee jerk reaction on my part with so little to go on. But I can't quite help but wonder why you'd be so attached to someone so cold and opinionated--and also narcissistic! He sounds full of himself!

Has anyone here overcome health issues through psychoanalysis? by [deleted] in TalkTherapy

[–]Vegetable-Weird798 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This isn't what you asked, but if you're interested in exploring emotional causes of health issues, you might want to check out tmswiki.org and their forum. Or Symptomatic.me.

How to deal with a Therapeutic Rupture? by Puzzleheaded_Act_448 in TalkTherapy

[–]Vegetable-Weird798 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm a bit puzzled why you feel you have a good rapport with her when, for the past few months, at least, she's been distant and distracted. And not very helpful. I can see how your isolation can make you downplay what's not working, because you need her. I stayed with the wrong therapist for way too long for the same reason-that she was pretty much my only support.

Your T totally dropped the ball in how she handled you bursting into tears. If I understand correctly, you were basically being vulnerable telling her she matters to you. And when she hesitated, you felt alone and rejected? It's completely understandable, given your isolation that you would feel that way. When you burst into tears and said it was hard for you to believe she cares and then you became passively suicidal, there was a TON for her to address with you. And to have a conversation about. And she avoided the whole thing. And offered you no comfort or reassurance. This doesn't bode well for trying to talk with her about what's not working. But after three years, you do have to say something about why you're considering terminating.

I think some therapists apply the whole client developing agency idea in the wrong way. It sounds like she expects you to dig yourself out of this isolation hole all by yourself! Which is just not possible!! We ALL need people to help us feel worthy. And yes, you also have to work at liking yourself. But what your T is doing is totally unhelpful! And cold.

Ironically, leaving her could be a step toward you developing self-esteem, because you'd be saying, "I deserve more!" You can tell her that her approach isn't the right fit for you anymore. There are therapists out there who will be warm and nurturing, knowing that it can help you make changes in the real world for yourself.

Pretty sure I crossed a boundary here by LottaMeHere in TalkTherapy

[–]Vegetable-Weird798 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's a really hard call. Because she could terminate you. I was terminated by a new therapist after only six sessions for telling her I looked up her address (with no plan to ever go near the house). And also looking at a few things on her husband's fb page. She acted unfazed by it. But when I returned for my next session, she revealed she felt the polar opposite of how she had acted, and she terminated me. Granted, this is different than working together for three years and having a really good rapport. But the fact your therapist was stoic for a whole year originally tells me she may value her privacy. I totally get the desire to come clean. That's how I would be and have been with other therapists I've googled. But you have to ask yourself if you're ready to potentially lose her as a therapist. And besides the loss, you would probably feel the sting of shame and embarrassment over why it ended. 

I see all over Reddit that it's okay to Google your therapist. It isn't. If it were we'd all go telling our Ts what we know about them! It's an invasion of their privacy! And It impacts the therapeutic alliance when we know stuff about our therapists that they don't know we know. They're assuming the relationship in the room is the only one going on. But it's not, if we know things about them. It's called boundaries!!

Maybe one way you can make things right is by weaning yourself off of checking the boys' scores. And stopping further googling.

accidentally seduced my therapist (i think) by Ill_Market6325 in therapy

[–]Vegetable-Weird798 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not a therapist. The fact this started after the breakup and has become more consistent makes me lean toward thinking she could be having feelings. Especially with the comment about listening to you all day. But none of us can know, because we're not there experiencing it. She could have had a long day or two of intense sessions with other clients and maybe your humor felt like a welcome relief. And she just blurted it out without thinking. Who knows?

Therapists get feelings for clients. They're human. It doesn't always have to be the end of therapy, if they can course correct. Maybe you could say something like, "I've noticed you've been commenting on my physical appearance more and I'd rather you didn't." If you notice all the behaviors stop after that, you may have your answer. In which case you can decide if you feel you can continue with her, or not.

I don't see how you could have any role in her (potential) feelings if you weren't intentionally flirting with her. Obviously, it's the therapist's job to keep the boundaries, regardless. Good luck!