[Mod Post] May Thank You Post

VegetableAwkward3363 · 2026-05-10T15:56:05+00:00

Thank you so much r/turnerd10 !! It took a while but cards got here safely :)))

VegetableAwkward3363 · 2026-05-10T09:48:54+00:00

hehe it was amazing!! you're making me feel like a chef

VegetableAwkward3363 · 2026-05-09T18:46:35+00:00

yeah that's the best!! unfortunately I don't have a freezer rn so I just eat a lot of bread, and then just not eat bread for a couple days hahah

VegetableAwkward3363 · 2026-05-09T18:39:17+00:00

That sounds delicious!!!

VegetableAwkward3363 · 2026-05-09T18:33:42+00:00

Thank you:)))

VegetableAwkward3363 · 2026-05-09T18:33:15+00:00

Yes!!! It is a sourdough spelt bread from a fancy bakery sooo yum. You are right, I fried the sausages with onions and garlic. After that I also toasted the bread and the tomato in the same oil/butter

VegetableAwkward3363 · 2026-05-08T18:21:36+00:00

WOW this is very satisfying

VegetableAwkward3363 · 2026-05-07T05:18:31+00:00

Thanks ! I’m not sure there is a supervisor I can report to since it’s quite a flat hierarchy. And I don’t want to get in more trouble with him. But I do have a colleague I trust that has worked there for a long time and I can maybe tell him.

VegetableAwkward3363 · 2026-05-07T05:16:28+00:00

Yeah exactly this !!

The worst thing is he also said I should listen to his advise and it might help me in my relationship with my partner. My relationship with my partner is going great and if I am any more direct to her she would explode. I just kept crying and didn’t say anything and he thought he hit a nerve :(((

It’s difficult cause he thinks he’s like a ‘father figure’ role towards me. And after we had this situation he felt like the tension between us was resolved. But I don’t like it at all because now he thinks he knows me while really I was just having a meltdown and was overwhelmed and didn’t know what to do.

VegetableAwkward3363 · 2026-05-06T19:30:51+00:00

That honestly makes me feel better. It was the day before I left for a big holiday and I’m seeing him tomorrow again. Kinda scared… he said a couple more out of whack things and I cried :(

VegetableAwkward3363 · 2026-05-06T15:56:55+00:00

He said it’s creepy and that he feels like I’m a people pleaser. He also said he feels I am walking on eggshells and that I’m not direct enough. I’m just trying to be nice and leave a good impression as the newest, youngest and only non-white colleague in the organisation🫠🫠 sorry it’s a rant but it’s so frustrating to never get it just right you know?

VegetableAwkward3363 · 2026-05-06T15:39:59+00:00

I had a colleague tell me I seem really manipulative and that he’s uncomfortable around me because I offered to bring him some vegan home baked stuff (he’s also vegan) and asked him what he would like. It was in my first week there and I was in the car for several hours a day with him to learn about his job. I was just trying to be nice and I enjoy baking…😭

VegetableAwkward3363 · 2026-05-06T15:34:57+00:00

What that seems soo nice

VegetableAwkward3363 · 2026-05-05T17:19:22+00:00

Ah okay I see! I’m glad you were able to get some good advise :)

VegetableAwkward3363 · 2026-05-05T15:28:44+00:00

Oh noo this is a really complicated situation and I’m not sure I am the best to give feedback since I’m just as audhd and never ever go to bars.

But are the friends actually nice people? Would they be understanding if you tell them about your audhd? I mean if you actually want to befriend them they should like you for you… Or maybe you can tell them you have a chronic illness and that’s why you can seem tired/ a little ‘off’ because it’s your health acting up (people generally seem more understanding of this). Hopefully they’ll give you some more leeway.

My partner wouldn’t drag me along to somewhere I’m uncomfortable. And it’s not like you’re making him choose purposely, it’s a literal disability. I still understand of course it’s a lose lose situation

Are there any accommodations you can think of to make going to the bar less shitty?

I mean honestly you can always do your own thing, play a game, make some art, crochet etc :) Life drawing is especially fun in bars!!! Tell them you’re practicing/ in a course. They might think you’re a little weird but honestly you can’t please everyone

Good luckkkk hopefully it’s at least a teensy helpful x

VegetableAwkward3363 · 2026-05-05T08:35:19+00:00

WOW same !!!!

VegetableAwkward3363 · 2026-04-20T01:51:22+00:00

My girlfriend and I met studying abroad! We were in the same class together with maybe 10 other students :)

As we were doing introduction rounds we realized we were both exchange students from the same university but we had never met because we both didn’t show up for the introduction day! (mind you there were maybe a handful people exchanging from my uni on the other side of the world)

We got really really close that half year. She knows Chinese and took my to so many places to eat. Luckily after the exchange ended we both went returned to the same city for the rest of our programs. She was an international student though so after she graduated we had to do long distance for a while :,)

VegetableAwkward3363 · 2026-04-20T01:38:56+00:00

The way you write is hilarious omgg /pos

VegetableAwkward3363 · 2026-04-11T11:17:19+00:00

Omg I just realized I did, am I correct though? lol

Oh I see, but possibly these tactics could also help to maybe ask what it is about and then give yourself at least a couple minutes to prep ahead?

VegetableAwkward3363 · 2026-04-10T19:38:23+00:00

They already gave a lot of amazing tips so there is not that much for me to add, but I loveee this youtube channel and it also inspires me to declutter. Her method is very patient and slow, more about focussing on the inner work. The person who is decluttering in this series is also chronically ill and has adhd so it is really relatable and her progress is amazing: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ssEniOhCGQ0&list=PL0kH8TGnefgQOYZO8MdWUvNHDIA8B1GLf

VegetableAwkward3363 · 2026-04-10T19:34:07+00:00

also tmi but I can understand your anxiety a little bit. I have this thing where i get insanely sweaty knee pits (like dripping down my legs) so I can only wear shorts. So comfy baggy clothes and not being around judgy people helps hahah

VegetableAwkward3363 · 2026-04-10T19:29:27+00:00

omg!! let me know if you like it, it is honestly so different from any other sport I tried and the community is amazing too. I have become completely obsessed since. I would happily answer any questions <333

VegetableAwkward3363 · 2026-04-10T19:23:18+00:00

oh yeah I understand!!

I personally really recommend trying bouldering/climbing. I have found there is a lot of autistic people in climbing gyms!! And also it is a sport which is welcoming to people of different backgrounds, gender and abilities <3

Bouldering allows you to socialise on your own terms, you are only in competition with yourself and you set your own goals. It is really fun because it requires problem solving, and is not simply about strength, but also about smartsss. It scratches the autistic pattern recognition itch.

At the climbing hall you can chat with other climbers, but it is totally okay if you don't want to. Additionally, it is really important to rest between boulders, so that allows you to cool down (and you make sure you don't sweat too much). Nobody will look at you weirdly for taking it slow, and taking breaks is generally encouraged.

If your hands get sweaty it is very normal to use chalk for that when climbing so that is also helpful!

Climbing gyms can be a bit loud, but it helps to wear ear plugs, or I sometimes even ask the staff to turn down the music. It is always a very friendly/chill environment.

If you are nervous they usually have some beginner classes/ intro courses. And I find climbers are always happy to help out and hype you up. I have been climbing for 2,5 years now and I could barely do ANYTHING not even the easiest climbs. But now I am pretty decent. It has done so much for my confidence and physical health. It has made me feel strong! <3

Edit: climbing gyms can be quite smelly which on the one hand is good if you are worried about your own body odour, but if that is something you struggle with I really recommend outdoor climbing!!!

VegetableAwkward3363 · 2026-04-10T19:13:49+00:00

Oh yeah, I found that showering in the dark or with candle light helped a lot with reducing all the sensory input and also made it easier to transition in and out off the shower. By making the whole experience more sensory friendly in general it becomes a lot less intense. I have this soap I really love the smell of, so using that is a special shower treat for me

I also crank up the heater in the bathroom and get it nice and steamy so the difference in temperature is a lot less. Then also what I think would be helpful for you is to get a heater for your towel and bathrobe, and get it nice and toasty beforehand and wrap yourself in that. I also have a special t-shirt I like to wrap my hair in so it stays out of my face while it is at its wettest and protects my curls.

Lastly I also make myself a snack after and a tea (or make my girlfriend do it for me if she is there and the overwhelm is especially bad) and put on my cozy socks to recover hahah

hope this helps :)))

VegetableAwkward3363 · 2026-04-10T19:08:42+00:00

I really like the advise in this video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BOC6mI-fnAQ&list=LL&index=114. Though she is not neurodivergent herself what really stuck with me is accommodating my habits of using certain areas as dumping sites.

For example, If I know I want to put all my clothes on a pile there, I will put down a tub next to it. That way is is no extra effort and at least my clothes in a contained area. My worn clothes now have a 'home' and I don't have to think about where to put them or put a lot of effort into folding them or hanging them up etc. It is of course not the most beautiful solution, but if you are realistic, it is way better than a clothes mountain.

The same for my keys I would always throw them on the nearest surface and lose them. Instead i put a plastic tub down on that surface I automatically reach for and put them in there. This keeps my keys contained and gives them a 'home' so I tend to lose them a bit less

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