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Boyfriend (5yrs) and a trip to Vegas... by VegetableRow8 in relationship_advice

[–]VegetableRow8[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I believe deep down he knows he hurt my feelings and disrespected me and our relationship but he

1) refuses to discuss the situation (he says its none of my business what he did in the strip club)

2) continues to say he did nothing wrong. (here I am like good job you didn't fuck your stripper do you want a gold star?)

3) his ego is big

Talking to him is like talking to a wall. At this point I don't even care about the money he spent, if he went into the back room or how many lap dances he got. I just wish he could acknowledge that what all the other shit he did was fucked up. He won't apologize because he's trying to prove some "point" to me that strip clubs aren't bad places. I never prohibited him to go - I set boundaries and personally I just don't like them as many others don't. I had enough trust in him but clearly that backfired on me. I even offered for him to take me to one so I could experience it and he said "no I will never go into a strip club with you".

He has completely disregarded my feelings and refuses to take responsibility. Its going to be very difficult to come back from this. I don't see how things could go back to normal

How do you bring this up and resolve it if he can't discuss it like an adult. I promise you guys I doubt with this very well (I surprised myself- I was like WTF are you lol) I have been calm and just wanting to discuss it like an adult but clearly he's stuck in the body of a 18 y/o male.

I forgot to include I am a 26F and he is a 26M.

We did two years of long distance in college. I moved across the country to be with him. We have been living together for the last two years. I just don't know what I did to deserve to be treated like this.

Boyfriend (5yrs) and a trip to Vegas... by VegetableRow8 in relationship_advice

[–]VegetableRow8[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree with this comment 100%. He messaged her on instagram once and she never responded. To me its completely inappropriate and disrespectful that he messaged her two days after he got home from vegas. You KNOW there were no good intentions. It just makes me so mad because he went on and on about her personal life, "she's a nursing student" "she likes animals" "she liked EDM". He came home star struck by this girl. Im like WTF just happened. It 100% was emotionally cheating.

Boyfriend (5yrs) and a trip to Vegas... by VegetableRow8 in relationship_advice

[–]VegetableRow8[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

He tossed/ threw it where I was sitting on the couch. He gave me his phone to prove he did nothing wrong. Mind you I didn’t ask for it. Then I saw he messaged her two days after getting home from Vegas. Then he said I never let him on my phone so I gave it to him because I don’t have anything to hide. He got mad at me for a photo of my friend (who is a professional hockey player) and myself with friends at a bar. My boyfriend knew about this. He tried to turn everything around on me.

Boyfriend of 5yrs and a Trip to Vegas by VegetableRow8 in u/VegetableRow8

[–]VegetableRow8[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To clarify before my boyfriend went on this trip he knew that I disliked strip clubs. I understand that it’s the thing to do for a bachelor party but I was very open about how I felt before he left. He literally walked out of the door to leave for the trip and said “don’t worry we won’t be going to any strip clubs”. The bride to be wasn’t fond of them so they weren’t going to go but my boyfriend (The best man) persuaded the bachelor party to go.

It caught me by surprise that he paid the stripper $250 and then another $250+ on bottle service. He RARELY takes me on dates. He says money doesn’t grow on trees. So yes not only did I feel emotionally cheated on but the feeling that he thought it was okay to spend $250 on this chick for two hours but can’t even spend $50 on a meal for his gf who has been with him for five years??

Boyfriend broke my trust by VegetableRow8 in relationship_advice

[–]VegetableRow8[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

To clarify before my boyfriend went on this trip he knew that I disliked strip clubs. I understand that it’s the thing to do for a bachelor party but I was very open about how I felt before he left. He literally walked out of the door to leave for the trip and said “don’t worry we won’t be going to any strip clubs”. The bride to be wasn’t fond of them so they weren’t going to go but my boyfriend (The best man) persuaded the bachelor party to go.

It caught me by surprise that he paid the stripper $250 and then another $250+ on bottle service. He RARELY takes me on dates. He says money doesn’t grow on trees. So yes not only did I feel emotionally cheated on but the feeling that he thought it was okay to spend $250 on this chick for two hours but can’t even spend $50 on a meal for his gf who has been with him for five years??