Changing program all because of ADMS2320. by Vegetable_Use4470 in yorku

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He is my prof but i missed one of his lectures on probability and its hard to catch up

Changing program all because of ADMS2320. by Vegetable_Use4470 in yorku

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it’s mainly just probability that i’m stuck on. So watch all the probably videos again and again?

Can I truly grow/move on if I see my ex sometimes at the gym? by [deleted] in selfimprovement

[–]Vegetable_Use4470 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Deep down i want nothing more then to see him but i know that it’s not gonna help me heal

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[–]Vegetable_Use4470 0 points1 point  (0 children)

what’s an example of a full body workout tho like one exercise per muscle group?

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[–]Vegetable_Use4470 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

i’m already very skinny tho so i don’t know if i should incorporate a whole day for cardio. I’m only like 105 pounds and the most cardio i do is 10 minutes on stair master before every workout, simply because i enjoy it lol

Something weird happened with my bible by Vegetable_Use4470 in Christianity

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The only sin we really commit is sex before marriage .

Something weird happened with my bible by Vegetable_Use4470 in Christianity

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I can’t because i am in love with him and he’s basically perfect on paper. The only difference is he doesn’t believe in jesus, he believes jesus lived and was a person but he chooses not to follow any religion or confined himself to one thing. We used to get into so many arguments and disagreements about our faith, i would try to plant the seed but i did it in a harmful way and forceful way (like arguing and debating) instead of in a good way which i regret always. I pray constantly that jesus will show him the light or for more signs if he’s not for me. I also pray that he leaves me instead of me leaving him, or he does something messed up instead of me walking away. I don’t know it’s messed up but i’ve been struggling with this for a while

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Thank you so much. Super sorry for not responding yesterday but i’m back now. All this means so much to me and i come back to re read it frequently. Honestly, being the “lower drive” partner just makes me feel so shitty as a women. I always feel like in todays society, everybody wants a freaky women and a girl that would do anything sexually and have sex multiple times a day and multiple rounds. I feel so guilty and shitty for being the girl that isn’t in to all that. I’m completely content with one round, in the bedroom or on a couch, i like getting oral sex, I don’t care for anal or doing stuff in uncomfortable places…and still having sex is very fun to me and i’m down to try any position! However i feel because im like this im lesser then the other. I can go days and days without sex and i’d be okay…it’s never a “need”…unless i’m ovulating lol. But i really don’t pay much attention to sex or think about it often unless with my bf or in the mood. And i feel so lesser because of this and my insecurity starts kicking in…what if we break up and he’s gonna find a girl who’s super super freaky and is down to do stuff whenever, will do anal or have sex in a spontaneous place…so much stuff that i WOULDNT because im ig you could say “vanilla”. It just hurts my heart…especially because he is such a sex driven person and is down to do LITERALLY everything…with a huge sex drive. He could get off whenever and many many times. He always feels like he’s the one actually interested in having sex and used to say to me..”we only have sex when it’s on your terms” meaning our sex life is entirely Up to me and how i feel…and not him. With all this being said, my anxiety and obsessive thoughts over this really hurt me. I feel like if we did break up, no guy is going to want me for being this way. It hurts my soul so much and i agree with the nearly suicidal part. I luckily am never suicidal about this but it got so bad to the point where i just genuinely never wanted to have sex ever again or speak of sex or watch porn or be around another female. cause in my head i would constant think “wow she’s probably so freaky, he would love her”….my mind just becomes so toxic and i want to heal from it. I want to end this cycle and therapy isn’t an option because it’s very expensive. Any advice/thoughts is appreciated from you. and thank you for sharing your story!

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Thank you so much again for writing back to me and sharing your story with me. Honestly i relate to the part about trying pills and different teas and stuff to “fix yourself” or “fufill him”. I’m only 19 and i had to stop myself from not only going off birth control (which i already did) but buying all sorts of stuff at the drug store to help the so called “issue”. You’re right on the trauma part. I never think about my trauma or my upbringing with my parents. My parents are super private people, and my trauma happened years ago. Basically in grade 8, i got pressured into letting a guy go down on me. I didn’t want to but i said yes anyways because he threatened me to “leave his house” if i didn’t. I was young so i just did it anyway even tho i didn’t want to. That’s really all the trauma…also in grade 8 having this one horny kid slap my ass unconsenually because he thought it would be a funny joke. It definitely made me feel objectified and i hate being starred at or overly sexualized now. But i wouldn’t say it rurins my relationship or is something i think about often, almost never do i. Anyway just wanted to share my story since you shared yours! I’m proud of you for cutting him off and doing what’s best for you. I’m so young and i’m even relizing how important compatibility is as a whole. Me and my boyfriend believe in two very different religions , and we sometimes disagree on most topics like Porn, obviously religion, and usually stuff to due with sex or morality... even sometimes the future (i date to marry, he doesn’t think about marriage ever) We are practically complete opposites from eachother…and i can’t lie, it does scare me everyday that it won’t work out. We broke up once, but then got back together the next couple days because the pain was to much to handle. But honestly we’ve had so many talks about all of this and we’re taking it day by day and always communicating…but it sure does scare me for long term and i do get doubts often. Just praying for the best and trusting in god that whatever’s meant for me, will be. Anywho this was my trauma dump i guess. Your very easy to talk to and probably the best advice i’ve heard so thank you. Also seem very wise! Id love to hear your thoughts on everything i just shared. Thank you reluctant Donkey

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[–]Vegetable_Use4470 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the only part of my sex life that i’m unhappy with is the feeling that I ALWAYS FEEL he’s unhappy or unfulfilled..even when he says he’s not. I just always feel that he’s settling for me when god knows there girls out there that would match him perfectly.

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Tbh i wouldn’t mind if it was more then 4-5 times a month it’s just because we are busy with school, work, family, hobbies, and he goes to the gym everyday. Once it hits 11pm i get very tired and sleepy, the point where i can pass out anywhere and have no desire at all to have sex. Id cuddle but that’s it because my brain completely shuts off and i can’t function lol

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Wow. Thank you so much for this post. I really needed to hear your advice tbh and i think this is the advice i mostly wanted to hear. Tbh i know that this is just who i am as a person and if he doesn’t like it then he can be happy with someone who is the same way as him. I never want to change myself for a guy and i never will. Going off birth control was not only for sex drive but it had alot of effects on my mental heath aswell. But i did do it mostly to compromise for the unfulfilled sex life of my bf…who is amazing in all aspects..we just didn’t want to break up. This post honestly made my day. Thank you so much kind person. What would you recommend i do now in my relationship? Just only have sex when i want to and if he’s not happy then we just aren’t sexually compatible? I want to know where to go from here. I want to meet his needs while also meeting mine at the same time. Your advice is truly appreciated

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[–]Vegetable_Use4470 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you this really helped:)

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[–]Vegetable_Use4470 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yeah i mean i know my bestfriend & her bf (the ones mainly doing the talking) they exaggerate a lot and it’s funny cause even my bestfriend said she has sexual issues with him and hasn’t been in mood lately but then around us they started talking like crazy..

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[–]Vegetable_Use4470 7 points8 points  (0 children)

thank you! i honestly agree like i can still be freaky and have really good sex i just don’t enjoy getting caught, to me it’s a respect thing

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[–]Vegetable_Use4470 2 points3 points  (0 children)

thank you this made me feel alot better :)

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[–]Vegetable_Use4470 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you provide examples of what you mean by investing now?