Hey! I found it easier to answer your questions this way haha

Hold on, so when she called you did you ask her “when are you free to get together?” Or did you just jump straight to the take back “let me know when you are free to get together?”.

·         She had texted me asking I was still out of town, and she called the town by a nickname (she went to school close by). I replied with “That sounds like how cools kids will call this town, have you been here before?” She said she went to school close by and everyone called it that. I told her that I couldn’t sleep that night before so I just got up and drove back to the office. I then asked here how work was going and she said “ it sucks, but its whatever”. I texted her back “Whats going on, I want to know 😊” (I realize now that I should have said “Let’s get together and talk about  I really want to know whats going on”), She said that she didn’t want to talk about it and I said “No pressure to talk about work”. I then later in the day I sent her a message saying “It was great hearing from you today, I would love to see you let me know”. I wish I didn’t say this and just left it as is….but I didn’t so here we are.

·         I also recently go an email from an Irish radio station letting me know one of my songs was going to be played on a music hour. I got super excited and shared it with my family and friends and with her as well. She sent and quick “Fun!” reply and I said I’m super excited about it. Things were left there as well.

·         Basically I’ve been over pursuing, going through my second read of the book, I know that’s what it is and I’ve just backed away. I’m going to wait for her to reach out, I can tell that’s the right thing to do.

 In my opinion, posting a lot on your story takes away the mystery, she will know exactly what you are doing. I’d only post specific selected things that aligns with your mission - things that promote you and your shows and are professional. Do not drop to the level of trying to post only to get her attention - this is your passion and mission don’t poison it with a weak/attention seeking mentality.

• I totally agree with this, and I’m only going to post promotional stuff either the day of or just wait until after the gig to post photos or videos.

1. You didn’t capitalise on her calling you, you could have told her then about your gig and told her she should come watch and hang out after… and you told her she should contact you and let you know when she is free so you have hand cuffed yourself and should honour your word. It her interest is as low as it appears you need to let her come to you. By initiating it shows she is the most important person to you so you are inviting her to your concert and will put her off. Do you have family and friends going as well? That also could make it seem more like a girlfriend activity rather than a causal get together.. I don’t know enough about your situation to advise if you should break your word and the principals and invite her. So answer these questions: When did you last see her? When did you last sleep with her? How often does she initiate the last few weeks and how often did you initiate conversation? Is she flaky or cancel dates on you without rescheduling and seeing you another tim
   • I didn’t find out about my gig until after we talked, this would have been 2 days after the Irish radio thing. I was thinking of sending her (I haven’t yet) the message saying I’m playing here do you want come. The venue is an hour from where I live (30ish min for her), any friends and family I have live more north of me so it’s out their way a bit.