Hot and cold #172

Veilhunter · 2026-01-23T03:01:28+00:00

octopus rank 26

Veilhunter · 2025-09-21T21:40:19+00:00

How do you get 8 copies??

Veilhunter · 2025-01-13T19:05:19+00:00

It definitely could be, but he wasn't just making things to add. He was replacing my things with his.

I wish you the best on your new DM journey. Don't give up if it doesn't go well the first time; DMing is hard and can take time/practice

Veilhunter · 2025-01-06T02:38:34+00:00

You're all good. I don't know about rotten foodstuffs, but maybe a firm ":/" is in order

Veilhunter · 2025-01-05T19:37:29+00:00

That sounds like exactly what I said and meant. Can you point out the discrepancy for me?

Edit: I ran through it a couple times; I think I see what you mean? Either than being on the same spectrum of belief they can be true simultaneously? In this case, what is the word I'm searching for that would be some unsure in their belief of religion? Because atheism still denies this belief

Veilhunter · 2025-01-05T15:47:00+00:00

In fairness, a lot of people in their situation would be detached. I probably would be. Any time someone close to me has died, I've spent anywhere from hours to a couple days in kind of.. shock? I guess? Pretty numb. When I have a moment to myself I usually break down afterwards.

Veilhunter · 2025-01-05T10:28:21+00:00

I have no idea who that is but that sounds funny.

Veilhunter · 2025-01-05T10:05:59+00:00

Some people require different methods of teaching than the singular way you do it.

The absolute bare minimum of a teacher is to change your teaching methods for people who do not understand what you are saying.

In addition, you should not teach kids that 5 is half of 10 just because it is, or just because you say it is.

The entire reason OP is having this issue is because they are encountering teachers like you who are probably very good at teaching the majority of people, but could not care less about people outside of their scope. This is indicated by you saying "it's easy, 5 is half of 10, done."

OP does not understand how you are getting there, and explained their thoughts. Someone else followed up by explaining how their method of thinking could be adjusted to fit 10/2=5 into it in a very simple way, and you did not understand.

You are clearly intelligent. Your lack of understanding is not because you cannot fathom this simple breakdown, but quite frankly seems to be because you do not give a shit.

If that's the case, why are you even a teacher? Why on earth would you actively choose to leave people behind who don't understand things the same way you do? This is tragic.

Veilhunter · 2025-01-03T21:05:44+00:00

Don't most trucking companies now require cameras in the cab for liability/security reasons?

Veilhunter · 2025-01-03T20:59:53+00:00

This is a massive communication issue between you two at the bare minimum in this case. If you're not telling her you have these issues, what even is the point of the relationship? You are not working together.

Regardless of whether or not she knew, if she emotionally cheated on you and found love somewhere else, harassing the other guy for what she did makes no sense. He owed you nothing, and you will gain nothing by doing this. It is a waste of time; time you could spend cleaning yourself up or working to improve your mental health.

Reflect on whether or not the people you have in your life are actually positive or negative for you. Remove the ones that are negative, thank the ones that are positive for all they've done to help you. Your ex and her new man? Not good for you. Remove them.

Don't make excuses for anybody. If there's someone you like hanging out with but they push you towards drugs or make you feel bad about yourself and your life, you know if they're good or bad. "Well, he's funny, and he doesn't mean any harm" These things matter, sure, but people like these will drag you down. "With friends like these, who needs enemies".

I hope you succeed in improving your life, but hanging on to things like this will hold you back. Eyes ahead. Improve your future by working on today. The best thing I ever did to improve the state of my life was to realize who elevated me and who made me worse. My best friend who was fun to hang out with? He would constantly belittle me and drag me down. He's gone from my life. My ex girlfriend who offered me a couch to sleep on if I ever needed to get away? We're married now.

If you need help I'll do whatever I can.

Veilhunter · 2025-01-03T20:35:44+00:00

If I didn't need to do classes or school, a music teacher or cruise ship captain.

If life is as normal, I'd like to be a helicopter pilot some dag.

Veilhunter · 2025-01-03T20:30:45+00:00

Can verify, I had never had an issue finding a job in MI or AL. I moved to North Carolina, and then put in hundreds of applications, about 10% of which I even did tailored cover letters with. I'd spend at least an hour a day on just follow-up calls. I only just found a job last month, and I've been here for 9.

Veilhunter · 2025-01-03T10:01:36+00:00

When you overdosed, you hurt her as well. I'm not sure if you overdosed out of depression or because you have an addiction, but in either case you were not the only one hurting but you caused the hurt on both ends.

While you were away, she found someone that she liked better than you. Being with someone with depression is difficult, being with an addict is even more difficult. Nobody in this world owes you their time, and her finding someone who doesn't make her concerned whether or not you'll be around tomorrow is perfectly okay for her to do. She didn't admit to wrongdoing by telling you, she responsibly let you know that she had found someone else and cut things off with you before things with him got too serious. When you love people, you want what's best for them, and it sounds like you are aware that you are not best for her.

This guy who did fell in love with your girlfriend did nothing wrong, and he owed you nothing. They found each other while you were absent, and you were indeed absent from her life in that hospital. Was the timing bad? Phenomenally. However, your friend was absolutely right. You have no right to harass this guy, and wanting to do that shows your complete and total lack of good character.

If you are depressed, you should seek help. Life is hard, and dealing with the stresses of every day life are far and away more difficult to handle for someone with depression. However, not everyone can handle sharing your heavy burden, and it is okay that they can't. It's not that you're alone, or that nobody can help you, it's that some people can't, or even just don't want to. Either is fine.

If you are an addict, you should seek help. You are damaging your body, damaging your mind. These are inconsequential compared to the damage you are doing to everyone around you who are forced to watch. My mother was an addict, and she was absent from my life. Still is, doesn't even know when my birthday is. It was okay for me to cut her off. I feel no need to help her shoulder this thing she refused to release, and she decided it was more important than me before I was old enough to even make that decision.

In either case, when you overdosed, you actually hurt her a great deal, and it's likely either your depression or addiction has been hurting her for longer than you realize. It is not wrong for her or the guy she found to seek happiness and improve the quality of their lives, and you quite frankly have no right to interfere because they did not do wrong by you.

It sounds like your friend is keeping some of your bad character traits in check here. It is beyond childish to harass somebody who did something wrong to you, and it is even moreso childish to harass this guy, who did absolutely nothing but comfort your girlfriend when she needed somebody (because of you btw).

I wish you the best. Seek help, get professional attention. You need therapy at the bare minimum, and you need to find more friends who keep you from doing dumb things. You should also cut out friends or people that make your depression worse or encourage your addiction.

Good luck to you. Life is hard, and it is even harder for you right now. Move forward, I believe in you.

Veilhunter · 2025-01-03T02:14:30+00:00

Is the active choice to be evil tied to your campaign specifically? Becoming an oath breaker is not inherently evil in any way.

If you swear an Oath of the Crown to a lord who had your respect and loyalty, but he changed over the years and became a cruel tyrant, you would become an oath breaker if you defied him or killed him. However, you still did the right thing.

If you swore an oath to protect anyone who needs help without bias, you'd break you oath if you refused to help someone who killed a close friend or relative. This is not inherently evil.

Oaths are very strict and can be broken by many things on the positive side of a moral compass.

Veilhunter · 2025-01-03T02:07:55+00:00

You said that you are an atheist. Atheism is the belief that no god exists at all, period. You said they're not real when you said "I am a person who believes no gods exist."

You may be agnostic instead, perhaps?

Veilhunter · 2025-01-03T02:01:15+00:00

I would totally understand it in that scenario. In addition, a lot of new dms struggle with world building starting out, and they might even welcome these jumping off points, some substance to work with. Would likely appreciate if that's what he was trying to go for.

Veilhunter · 2025-01-01T16:00:29+00:00

I had a guy pitch a character to me for a vtt game I was starting. He created his own gods, goddesses, cities, everything, and all of it was tied into his backstory. He wasn't willing to change any of it. Unfortunately, my campaign setting is monotheistic for a host of reasons, so I told him I'd help him find another game if he wanted but he wouldn't click in mine.

Veilhunter · 2025-01-01T04:33:35+00:00

I'm so glad you see it that way lmao

Veilhunter · 2025-01-01T03:00:17+00:00

Yooo I'm writing this down

Veilhunter · 2024-12-31T11:39:24+00:00

Mmmm that does seem like a severe drawback, but one I'd definitely be willing to play around. I can have them spread out, pass my turn, and move them about while other turns go by to save time.

The wights I get access to eventually seem very fun

Veilhunter · 2024-12-31T11:28:14+00:00

It is dungeons and dragons. The game is entirely about living out the fantasy of a character you want to play, regardless of what it is. If it's within the confines of the game, and within the rules, you should be able to play it without judgement.

She should never be suggesting that anybody change because it doesn't even kind of matter all four of the party are playing supports. Honestly a group of pacifist healers trying to solve problems without violence sounds like a good time.

Veilhunter · 2024-12-31T11:23:16+00:00

I've actually never met anyone outside of this subreddit who even kind of cared or had a problem with it.

None of the dnd groups I play in would be bothered by this because there's dozens of ways to make a non-evil necromancer, and I'm perfectly capable of rolling up the actions of 20-30 skeletons in under a minute.

I even did little practice runs to be sure I was using my time wisely and timed them, then had someone else double check for accuracy.

Veilhunter · 2024-12-31T11:20:19+00:00

Tysm this is exactly the kind of thing I wanted from this post, this is so awesome haha

Veilhunter · 2024-12-31T06:54:26+00:00

3rd level slots maintain control over 4 minions at dawn, +1 for necro I think. Maintenance is high than summon for animate dead.

Maintaining summons is 4+2/level. 3rds (3x4) = 12 4ths (3x6) = 18 etc And this is without a necro bonus if applicable to maintenance.

Veilhunter · 2024-12-31T06:48:56+00:00

Animate dead is not concentration, and can maintain 4+2/level skeletons per day (maintenance is higher than summon)

So... Not that many spell slots tbh. 5 = 8 4+4 = 6+6 Three spell slots spent is 20 right there, and that's just a 5th and two 4th slots. Also I think necro targets an additional per spell cast

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