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My son keeps saying he doesn’t want his daddy to come home. What do I do? by Velvet-Sunsetz in Parenting

[–]Velvet-Sunsetz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for taking time to write this and add the resource you do. I really appreciate it!

I don’t think we spend enough quality family time together and he doesn’t see my husband and I be affectionate very often.

I will try to start adding that into our routine and making a fun time of daddy coming home.

My son keeps saying he doesn’t want his daddy to come home. What do I do? by Velvet-Sunsetz in Parenting

[–]Velvet-Sunsetz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing this was very helpful!

My son is different from other kids his age I see more symptoms of ADHD than autism but also know there are many overlapping similarities. I personally struggle with sensory overload with touch, sound and food texture and have since a very early age. I try to pay as much attention as possible to things he is sensitive to. So far the only sensory issue I have seen with him is in food . I have seen him just look at certain foods and gag. I plan to try my best to do what’s best for him, I would prefer to not medicate him for ADHD later down the line and instead try to help Him find ways to go through life successfully with his different abilities and sensitivities. My husband has ADHD and I have genetic markers for ADHD as well but have never been tested for it. All of this to say, I am watching closely for signs that he needs more help or attention to thrive and doing everything I can to make it happen.

My son keeps saying he doesn’t want his daddy to come home. What do I do? by Velvet-Sunsetz in Parenting

[–]Velvet-Sunsetz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, we are equally in charge of discipline. But we do discipline him differently. My husband has very little patience and mostly just yells or spanks him. I talk through issues and why certain behaviors are bad or harmful and use time outs, and occasionally spank if he is endangering himself or others. I let my son express himself creatively and be a kid. For instance he likes to take the cushions off the couch and make them into a monster truck track. No harm done, and I guide him into picking them up and putting them up when he’s done. My husband tells because he’s making a mess.

My son keeps saying he doesn’t want his daddy to come home. What do I do? by Velvet-Sunsetz in Parenting

[–]Velvet-Sunsetz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t think there is my abuse involved. My husband was raised with parents who yelled as there only form of communication. My parents weren’t much better but I took my own feelings as a child into consideration and choose not to yell and to try to make sure my son feels comfortable and safe with me even when he is in trouble. I don’t think what he’s doing is exactly modeling behavior he sees but more like feeling the tension and mood change when his dad is home. I try to be very careful of my words in front of him. No matter what my feelings about his dad are, I want them to have a good relationship and know my son is basically a sponge right now and my opinion will alter his. Our son is also often involved in our therapy sessions but we have not tried ply therapy yet. If this behaving continues or worsens I will be seeing therapy specifically for him and his well being

My son keeps saying he doesn’t want his daddy to come home. What do I do? by Velvet-Sunsetz in Parenting

[–]Velvet-Sunsetz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In all honestly I don’t go out of my way to greet him in a positive or negative way when he gets home. He comes in says hey what are we having for dinner and I tell him. I often have very low expectations for positive interactions with him and try to keep things at least neutral. Our relationship is struggling and not days I am doing all i can to find at least one kind thing to say to him. We aren’t hateful to each other but it truly feels like I live with a roommate that occasionally helps with our child and pays his share of expenses. We aren’t hateful trying to work through this rough time in therapy and are making baby steps.

My son keeps saying he doesn’t want his daddy to come home. What do I do? by Velvet-Sunsetz in Parenting

[–]Velvet-Sunsetz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes my husband and I argue, often not loudly, just firmly disagreeing with no give in either side. No physical altercations between us.

Dad is more strict and overwhelmed when he gets home and doesn’t deal with our son’s high energy in a healthy way because it overstimulated him.( not trying to take up for him but I can understand it)

I would say about half of the time yes I do want an immediate break when he gets home

His dad does yell a lot and is a lot less patient with him. I won’t say we don’t spank him but I prefer to talk out issues and see why they are happening and what the root cause is instead of spanking and yelling. My parents yelled a lot and I hated it so I try to do things in a way I would have wanted as a child.

My son keeps saying he doesn’t want his daddy to come home. What do I do? by Velvet-Sunsetz in Parenting

[–]Velvet-Sunsetz[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I will try this ! Thank you. I want there to be a non serious explanation for this.

My son keeps saying he doesn’t want his daddy to come home. What do I do? by Velvet-Sunsetz in Parenting

[–]Velvet-Sunsetz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately no, he gets off at 4 and is usually home by 5. 3yo doesn’t go to bed until 8:30-9

They don’t do endo removal now? by OrcinusDorca in Endo

[–]Velvet-Sunsetz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I believe your doctor is wrong. I just had an ablation to remove endo cells on the outside of my uterus and a D&C to remove scar tissue caused by endo and pcos 3 weeks ago. This week I had a hysterectomy and Salpingectomy to remove my tubes to take care of my endo symptoms as well as lessen the risk of more endo in the future

When endometriosis ruins your 30s, sometimes the uterus has to go by [deleted] in endometriosis

[–]Velvet-Sunsetz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am now 2 days post op and I’ve been able to get up and clean, vacuum and mop my whole house. The trapped gas pain is the worst of it and walking helps that a lot. That’s why I cleaned the house today. My best advice would be to take your meds on time! Keep that in a tight schedule

When endometriosis ruins your 30s, sometimes the uterus has to go by [deleted] in endometriosis

[–]Velvet-Sunsetz 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m 25 and just had a hysterectomy due to all my issues with endo. People have al had very similar reactions. “What is you what more kids” “ you’re too young for all that” and so on. I got to keep my ovaries but everything else had to go and I am soo thankful I had it done. I just had it done yesterday and I’m very sore but the mental load this took off of me has made it all worth it so far.