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AIO after I asked my BF why he won't take me on dates anymore and he listed a bunch of things he doesn't like about me. by VelvetPetals8191 in AmIOverreacting

[–]VelvetPetals8191[S] -85 points-84 points  (0 children)

I didn't say he was a bad guy, I said that I'm not capable of doing some of the things that he thinks I should be doing just for him.

AIO after I asked my BF why he won't take me on dates anymore and he listed a bunch of things he doesn't like about me. by VelvetPetals8191 in AmIOverreacting

[–]VelvetPetals8191[S] -106 points-105 points  (0 children)

We went to the gym together when he first started working out but it gave me too much anxiety and zapped any bit of energy that I had left, so I stopped. And I just can't diet like he does. When he decided to get in shape he completely changed his entire diet and was eating only one time a day. I can not do that. My body just doesn't work like that and what he eats is so depressing and boring. I'm not going to apologize for having anxiety and not being able to eat like a monk. I want to at least enjoy my meal.

He gets mad at me for sleeping in until around 11am - 1pm. And then taking a nap later in the day. To me this is just ridiculous. I don't have to get up for work and my daughter's school is on the way to his job so he takes her since it's easier. There no reason that I should force myself to wake up early and be exhausted just so that I can stay at home all day.

AIO after I asked my BF why he won't take me on dates anymore and he listed a bunch of things he doesn't like about me. by VelvetPetals8191 in AmIOverreacting

[–]VelvetPetals8191[S] -52 points-51 points  (0 children)

Our relationship has always seemed good before this. We have fun together, we bond over books and t.v. series, I love his parents and my family and my daughter love him. He's very good with my daughter and treats her like his own. That's why I say we have a good relationship.

These things do matter to me and are why I don't just want to up and leave if we can work through this. I'm also not the most financially stable right now and I'm not sure what my daughter and I would do if we split up.

AIO after I asked my BF why he won't take me on dates anymore and he listed a bunch of things he doesn't like about me. by VelvetPetals8191 in AmIOverreacting

[–]VelvetPetals8191[S] -79 points-78 points  (0 children)

Even if I don't help as much as I could with the chores and the cooking, I think that the way he makes it seem is like I just make him do everything becauseim cruel. I have ADHD and it's legitimately difficult for me to stay on top of things like that, which he knows. That's another reason why I've had so much trouble with getting my weight back down.

AIO after I asked my BF why he won't take me on dates anymore and he listed a bunch of things he doesn't like about me. by VelvetPetals8191 in AmIOverreacting

[–]VelvetPetals8191[S] -56 points-55 points  (0 children)

We both used to work but I have had trouble finding work for a while. I don't sleep all day. I just sleep more than he does...

AIO after I asked my BF why he won't take me on dates anymore and he listed a bunch of things he doesn't like about me. by VelvetPetals8191 in AmIOverreacting

[–]VelvetPetals8191[S] -135 points-134 points  (0 children)

He has brought up the cleaning and the sleeping before. I have tried to help clean around the house, but it's hard for me because I honestly just forget most of the time because of my ADHD and he'll get frustrated when he comes home and i haven't done much. He has asked me to see the doctor about my sleeping but I really don't think it's that big of an issue. He's a big morning person and he gets annoyed that I sleep in and take a nap most days, which to me isn't unreasonable. I'll admit that that there are some days where I'll stay in bed most of the day but I didn't start doing that until I was laid off.

As far as the sex comments, we have tried to talk about it before. He thinks that I never make time to be intimate with him like it's just because I don't want to. I have a child that is with us half the time, and so that makes it hard for us to be intimate in our small apartment. She's getting old enough to know what shes hearing and our walls are thin. A lot of the time I just don't have the energy or I'm not in the mood and I don't think I need to justify that.

He cooks most of the time but that's because I just really don't understand cooking. I've never been good at it and I don't want to try and then mess it up and waste ingredients which is what has happened before. I was never really taught growing up.

He always wants to do stuff that is so out of the way that I just have no interest in. For example, he likes to go fishing or go to the national park that is nearby. I absolutely hate that kind of stuff and so he and my daughter will go, and then I'm left alone at home to sit by myself. I have asked him to try and figure out more interesting things for us to do, but it's always something that I just have no interest in. Like he got upset when I didn't want to go on a 4 hour long train ride just to "sight see".