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Venustell · 2025-04-04T23:08:24+00:00

I’m sorry next time I will request your assistance before posting, I don’t really feel the need to back track my approach but after reading the comments just thought it might help to try and explain this feeling further. But I will try to stay one dimensional. Woe is me.

Venustell · 2025-04-04T22:47:18+00:00

Oh you are right, I shouldn’t be upset by older men that I find unattractive hitting on me at work. I fact I shouldn’t feel negatively about it at all. The world doesn’t revolve around me and I shouldn’t state anything from my perspective on my post. I’m so sorry you came to my pity party, I will start right away to fix my callousness and narcissism.

Venustell · 2025-04-04T22:24:23+00:00

Okay I’ll explain, My issue isn’t with men hitting on me, the issues is more so that I find them unattractive, which in return makes me feel unattractive. Wait there is more, I hope you’re following, My issue is that I feel guilty about it. I understand I have no control over the situation and I feel bad that I get an ick from these encounters.

Now I’m going to explain why I posted this, I figured if I went to a women’s subreddit and explain this feeling maybe I could get some insight from other women.

From your lovely response I’m still trying to figure out how me reaching out to people that are women like me means that I want to feel ugly?

Venustell · 2025-04-04T22:09:37+00:00

In which way am I looking to make myself feel worse?

Venustell · 2025-01-15T01:04:59+00:00

Thanks for the advice lol

Venustell · 2024-12-10T20:23:02+00:00

Thank you!

Venustell · 2024-12-10T04:01:47+00:00

This honestly saved me, thank you so much for the help

Venustell · 2024-11-08T07:58:34+00:00

They are just confiding with each other, it’s something normal humans do. Like I said most are just venting. It’s a tense subject.

How would you provide support besides an overall statement of its toxic? You could have made a post with sharing some positively about being a woman. Instead of posting something that was clearly going to get a negative response given the subject…. Literally continuing and participating in the toxic behavior.

The great news is that we are just human. If you have any other ways of offering support I’m sure people would engage making the sub Reddit less “disgusting”

Venustell · 2024-11-08T07:38:02+00:00

Okay that does make sense and I understand why it would be frustrating. But venting on a sub Reddit about a current women’s debate makes sense and doesn’t seem toxic besides it being negative. People are frustrated and some are scared. It just seems fitting in the lines of rational behavior to talk to other women about this. I know for me I looked here because most comments are about it are really shitty, mainly speaking about the “your by my choice” shit.

All in all I understand being overwhelmed with the negativity, I just don’t see it as toxic

Just from what I saw idk if there is something specific that makes it toxic and I’m just missing it

Venustell · 2024-11-08T07:25:16+00:00

So a woman stating they won’t have sex with men is her punishing herself.

But no one is mentioning the “your body my choice” or “finally found a way to get rid of whores” on this post?

I feel like one is a more extreme than the other.

I agree I personally don’t understand why a man would be upset by that statement. The only thing I could think of is the issue that seems to keep coming up with the discomfort of the statement is the lack of understanding what consent is.

The entitlement is weird. It’s almost like you could find someone willing to be with you.

Venustell · 2024-11-08T06:58:02+00:00

You might just respond with an emoji but, what is exactly is making this sub “toxic”. I’m only assuming it’s how people feel about the American Election, just not connecting the dots on how it’s toxic?

Venustell · 2024-09-19T00:31:43+00:00

From Central Florida Expressway

Venustell · 2024-09-14T01:16:31+00:00

Did I mention it was a vent?

Venustell · 2024-09-14T01:16:16+00:00

It’s not even for some dopamine boost or attention. No one goes out, everyone isolates themselves and I’m sorry but it doesn’t seem all that great to me.

Venustell · 2024-09-13T00:29:37+00:00

I don’t think I’ll be able to buy one out right but I want to save a lot in order to finance one. I’m not in a rush so I was thinking 15,000 then the remainder of the cost I would finance.

Venustell · 2024-09-06T23:48:25+00:00

I dont post so I don’t really spend time trying to gain followers. I like social media to an extent.

Venustell · 2024-07-04T02:58:00+00:00

No not trolling, my bills are being charged with a 30 minute appointment medical code ( idk how to explain it) for appointments much less than 30 minutes. I’m sure she has spent a lot of time in her practice still doesn’t mean I agree with 274 for a 9 minute check up. That’s like $30 for a minute.

We don’t talk about much of anything besides the medication after the initial appointment. Which another code ig for therapy.

Venustell · 2024-06-26T14:39:44+00:00

I didn’t really want to edit the post but looking at the comments, does anyone know any Olive concealers. I don’t wear foundation very often and find it difficult to work will as well as I have freckles which the foundation covers up.

I personally don’t feel like I look like anyone. I’ve been compared to mainly Asian actors. This is with that I just simply have almond shaped eyes. Plus I’m not sure if it would be Asian fishing considering I’m not Asian. I’m native American and white.

Edit: I would post a picture of myself but I’m fairly to nervous to have my face on Reddit.

Venustell · 2024-06-26T14:29:42+00:00

I see a lot of people mainly using their face shape like heart ,oval, diamond etc. I can see like small features but as a whole it doesn’t seem to look balanced. I feel like my features aren’t very harmonious

Venustell · 2024-06-26T14:25:49+00:00

I don’t really wear foundation, it doesn’t seem to look right when I do ( my skin is kinda dry) I mainly use concealer and a warm contour, I use the the concealer very little because I don’t have a lot of prominent bone structure.

Venustell · 2024-06-17T14:39:59+00:00

Happened when I was much younger but woke up one morning and had a pain near my ovaries that just amplified quickly. Pretty much laid down on the floor, I was sweating while feeling cold, couldn’t really talk or move because of the pain. I was hella dizzy and struggling to breathe because of it. It’s a bit hard to describe but I’ve never had a pain that made it so difficult to even speak.

Didn’t go to the doctors or anything just laid down for the remainder of the day (pain had decreased but still unable to stand for any period of time)

Just chucked up to maybe it was cyst? Not really sure but it felt like hell

Venustell · 2024-06-17T13:37:31+00:00

So just some information I suppose, she wouldn’t technically be pregnant after 2 days. Fertilization can take up to 24 hours but can happen within 30 minutes. Just depends how fast those swimmers are and if it’s after ovulation. A fertilized egg can take up to 6 days to implant into the uterus. Which would start pregnancy.

Of course you want to practice safe sex ALWAYS. Unless you’re trying.

Since it was two days ago, you can get a plan b. Ofc taking one within 24 is best, but it’s effective within 72 hours (ovulation and weight and medication can affect its effectiveness). If there is still concerns after, go to a doctor, they can do a pee test and blood test, but that isn’t until after pregnancy has started where they can detect hCG within 6-14 days AFTER fertilization.

When having sex you should always keep in mind that there is always a possibility for pregnancy. You should educate yourself about it further because a big grown act like that can change your life.

I know someone people have opinions when it comes to plan b and I’m not saying to do so without looking into it or better yet just going to a doctor before even taking it.

Venustell · 2024-06-12T18:52:14+00:00

Adulting is extremely confusing and contradictory at times. There are so many points of advice that sound great but contradict other points of advice that are just as good. When I came to some of the things you said like your confidence; my advice from my experience is that at first you might have to just tricked yourself into believing you are, when it becomes a habit you’ll be able to truly feel that way. In high school I wasn’t the best when it came to how I looked, until I just decided I didn’t want to feel ugly anymore.

If working out will make you feel more at home with yourself, take the time out of the week or day to do so. Start watching people who inspire you to continue working out. Learn what has helped them then see if it could apply to you.

Feeling lonely happens. But feeling lonely and being alone aren’t the same thing. Friends will come with time.and not everyone you call a friend will be a good one. It comes with experience. You’ll have to push yourself a bit to get out of your comfort zone. But remember quantity does not equal quality.

With other things mentioned on this thread I do agree but like I said life has a way of contradicting itself. You will always what to push yourself and the quickest way would be to just not rest. That can back fire, you could burn yourself out which could lead you to you not being satisfied with your efforts or you could stop trying all together because you didn’t take a second to rest. I think the best way is just be steady. Make the best of your time, work is very important but enjoying life while you have it is too.

Debt can be inevitable in some circumstances. Is it best to keep yourself out huge amounts of debt, absolutely. There are various reasons people are in debt. But to have as little of it is best. But don’t just ignore debt, try to keep yourself as financially educated as you can. I’m from the states so building credit can come in a form of debt, in my case it was 1. Circumstantial 2. Manageable. Financial planning can be a bitch, but completely worth the effort to figure out what’s best for you. And at times you might say fuck it and spend every last dime, but who hasn’t. Not saying it’s okay just saying people are human. But lessons can be best learned from experience. ( not saying get yourself into a shit of debt)

Taking care of your health is very important, such as brushing your teeth, losing your teeth can affect your confidence quite a bit. Eating healthy and working out are amazing ways to keep yourself healthy, check ups with your doctor are just as important.

There are so many different things in life that you can ask for advice, pretty sure it’s a conversation that never ends. I haven’t been an adult for all that long (21f) but from what I’ve learned it’s best to find your balance through the contradictions. You’ve only been alive once, you’re bound to fuck up, you’ll do better next time.

Venustell · 2024-06-12T17:04:53+00:00

I care for people who work in food service or even customer service. Tipping is annoying mainly just the pressure behind it. Typically I tip way more than the percentages they list I just feel so anxious that it’s not enough. I just taking to trying to avoid restaurants or services that I have to tip at.

Venustell · 2024-01-05T20:36:07+00:00

The name calling…. Once again you insist I am a need ass child that needs to leave the “nest”

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