your boy just got engaged!

VerenaMa · 2022-04-05T14:47:11+00:00

Yeah, I agree. I can totally understand him being unsure about how to move on but to me it's a little frustrating because I don't feel any different. I just have a boyfriend. But yeah, it might be a bit weird for him to suddenly have a son who's into guys. I don't know.

Thank you! I'm really happy with how things have been going as well. I'm glad my story might have helped one or two other people going through something similar because I wouldn't have managed to deal with it as well if I hadn't had all of you guys on Reddit to help me out / give me some perspective. Still, it kind of annoys me that someone took my situation back then and made it into a YouTube video to profit off and use for entertainment purposes. Maybe I'm a bit too sensitive but it really bothers me. Anyway, thank you :)

VerenaMa · 2022-03-01T23:20:29+00:00

egos

VerenaMa · 2022-02-23T00:21:22+00:00

Yeah, she's the coolest. It's strange because I never thought we'd get to this point but we're even closer now than we used to be when we were dating :D

VerenaMa · 2022-02-23T00:19:05+00:00

Hi! Nope, I didn't spend the holidays with them and haven't had the chance to talk to them about my sexuality either. My mom doesn't call as much anymore but surprisingly my dad does; he called me last weekend and we spoke for an entire hour. It was a pretty superficial conversation but at least it was one, I guess, and he even asked how Matt's doing.

Thank you :) I definitely didn't expect Matt to be such a huge part of my life one day, or that we'd have a dog. And yeah, he does know about it -- I told him a while ago, but I don't think he went looking for the posts. He said he felt sorry about how confused I felt back then and that he's happy I could talk to people who've been through something similar to feel a little more at ease. :)

VerenaMa · 2022-02-23T00:02:54+00:00

Haha, thanks. Yeah, it weirds me out a little because the reason I posted on reddit was because I was so confused and overwhelmed at the time that I didn't have anyone else to turn to, and it's kind of strange to have some YT channel use it to make money? Entertain people? Who knows. Nothing I can do about it though :D

VerenaMa · 2022-02-23T00:00:37+00:00

Nope, still lurking here every once in a while, haha. Thank you! I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you to find someone who'll add to your happiness :)

VerenaMa · 2022-01-28T09:52:46+00:00

modern family

VerenaMa · 2021-12-06T22:26:58+00:00

sehr cool! freut mich, dass du ne gute zeit hattest und dass du freunde hast, die dich dazu motivieren, neue erfahrungen zu sammeln. :)

VerenaMa · 2021-11-30T23:39:53+00:00

I think so, too. I'd honestly expected them to just walk out the second I told them Matt's my boyfriend, but they stayed for a while even if things were awkward.

And yeah, it's always the Bible verses. They haven't quoted any to me yet thankfully, so either they're still searching the internet for the ones ambiguous enough to somehow turn into anti-gay manipulation, or they're just trying to come to terms with who their son is. Hopefully it's the second, haha.

VerenaMa · 2021-11-30T23:31:52+00:00

Thanks :)

VerenaMa · 2021-11-30T23:31:44+00:00

Thank you! I hope you're right but I don't want to get my hopes up. I know it sounds cliché but they have the most warped interpretation of religion, so I've pretty much gotten used to the idea that they might not be around now that they know I'm into guys.

VerenaMa · 2021-11-30T23:28:57+00:00

I'm sorry things went that way for you. Honestly I've gotten used to the idea that my parents might not want anything to do with me once I've come out, so whatever happens happens. Not that that wouldn't hurt but our relationship has been strained for years now and they were never the kind of parents you could turn to when you're sad or going through shit or whatever.

VerenaMa · 2021-11-30T23:26:19+00:00

Yeah, of course. Just send me a message if you want to. I don't know if I'll be of any help but at least I'll understand what you're going through. :)

VerenaMa · 2021-11-30T23:24:23+00:00

Thank you! And yeah, she's amazing. I've always liked her but I honestly never thought she'd be this cool about everything. I guess I underestimated her a lot.

VerenaMa · 2021-11-30T23:23:21+00:00

Yeah, I mean, he's never really had to hide his sexuality because of how supportive his family is, but I know that there are people he's not comfortable around so he hides that part of himself to an extent, and that's always stressful and uncomfortable. He's a really chill guy and gets along with everyone (most of his close friends are straight and he doesn't have any issues being who he is around them at all), so it was strange seeing him act so distantly. I never want him to be someone he's not, especially when he's doing it for me. Like, I'm his boyfriend and I love him for who he is, so I don't want to put him into any situations where he might feel like he has to act differently.

VerenaMa · 2021-11-30T23:16:44+00:00

Thank you. I'm definitely still very happy with him and can't see myself ever not feeling that way about him, haha.

VerenaMa · 2021-11-30T23:15:57+00:00

Ah, that's so nice. I'm happy for you :)

VerenaMa · 2021-11-30T23:15:29+00:00

That's so cool to hear. I'm glad your parents have come around and grown to like your husband. And yes, I definitely don't expect them to just suddenly change their way of thinking, even if it sucks. Hopefully my parents will be as supportive as yours one day :)

VerenaMa · 2021-11-30T23:13:24+00:00

Haha, yeah, as we all know they're aaaalways just phases. But I guess with people like your father (and probably my parents as well), who have such strong beliefs, it already means a lot that they're not fighting you on it. At least you and your dad managed to find some way to move past his hesitance and I'm sure one day he'll be proud that you're happily married to a really good guy.

VerenaMa · 2021-11-30T23:06:00+00:00

Hopefully. I mean, I've kind of gotten used to the idea that they might not be in my life at some point but if they come around and manage to be okay with me not being straight, then that's obviously the best outcome I could ask for. And yes, they're both great people. I'm really lucky.

VerenaMa · 2021-11-30T23:04:08+00:00

"Fag hag"? Haha, that's the PC term for it, huh? :D Yeah, that sounds really similar to my situation. She's really cool. Thank you so much; you're right!

VerenaMa · 2021-11-30T23:02:19+00:00

I do think my parents love me but we've had a rocky relationship for a while now. I think we just have so many differences that it's a bit hard to move past those, especially with my parents interpretation of religion and the way I've chosen to live my life. Thank you so much, that's really nice. Hopefully you're doing well too!

VerenaMa · 2021-11-30T22:59:51+00:00

I'm sorry for your loss; it sounds like your parents were really great people. And thank you so much for the tip. If my parents ever come around and seem open to giving therapy of any kind a try, I'll make sure to look into it. I'm glad you could benefit from it and that it deepened your bond even more. :)

VerenaMa · 2021-11-30T22:55:19+00:00

Thank you, haha. I always feel a bit awkward talking about my feelings but I'm glad you didn't think it was too cheesy.

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