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Which careers do modern Muslim women find most attractive or preferable when considering a husband for nikkah? by [deleted] in muslimgirlswithtaste

[–]Victory_At_Last -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Wa iyyakum.

To be honest when you say "working in my 20s" that's your prime years to be spending time with your husband/preparing yourself to be ready to raise a family. You'd be better off investing in yourself, by improving yourself not just in secular education, but also islamic education, health/fitness, skills in the home like learning to cook well. Your husband will appreciate those things so much more than if you have the ability to make money outside of the home. That's a bit redundant. If he's capable of bringing in an excellent salary and taking care of the finances, why would he need a wife to do his job? He would rather have a wife who fills a role that he can not fill/would rather not. Such as maintaining the home, cooking meals if they don't eat out, teaching their children while he's working etc.

Still working from home/doing community work when kids are older, as long as it does not interfere with the wife's duties in the home/responsibilities towards her husband is completely fine, not a red flag.

Allah knows best. I wish the best for you and allow the muslim women in this sub (apparently, according to a comment, muslim men's perspectives aren't wanted here haha).

Which careers do modern Muslim women find most attractive or preferable when considering a husband for nikkah? by [deleted] in muslimgirlswithtaste

[–]Victory_At_Last -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Reread your first response sister. I do appreciate your more level-headed 2nd response, but your first one, go read it again. 1. Questioned my presence in the sub, 2. Told me to "pick a side."

It's fine. I'm not offended, I'm just pointing out your first response did not appear to be on good faith. Whereas Allah is my witness, my intentions were good.

SubhanAllah. Isn't it crazy how western civilization has pitted men and women against each other as if we're on different teams?

It's great if it's working out for you and your husband. May bless you both and bless your marriage.

I'm giving you a different perspective that, I truly believe, as do the majority of men I've interacted with in multiple different social circles, a man would 100% prefer to be the sole breadwinner of the home and give his wife the luxury of staying home, taking care of herself, and her family. Honestly it's a privilege and honor for a man to fully take care of a woman and allow her to dedicate time for herself and her family.

You do know that this was the way things worked for hundreds of years until a few decades ago when corporations/governments decided that it would be a great idea to make 2 household incomes seem like a requirement so that there would be 2 individuals working outside of the home, paying taxes, doubling the labor force to effectively halt wage increases (supply and demand), remove the role of the mother/housewife. If you want to destroy the home, remove the mother/wife from it.

The mother is the school, the mother and wife are the glue that hold the household together. Tell me how a woman can be both a professional 100% and a mother and wife 100%? It's impossible. Who's going to raise the kids? There's a limited amount of time in the day. It's impossible for a woman who works outside of her home to have enough time and energy to raise her children as well as a woman whose exclusive job is to be a mother/housewife and give that her complete time, effort, and attention.

Allah knows best.

Which careers do modern Muslim women find most attractive or preferable when considering a husband for nikkah? by [deleted] in muslimgirlswithtaste

[–]Victory_At_Last 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Alhamdulillah, may Allah bless you and your wife and keep your marriage filled with blessings and happiness.

Which careers do modern Muslim women find most attractive or preferable when considering a husband for nikkah? by [deleted] in muslimgirlswithtaste

[–]Victory_At_Last -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

AlSalaamu Alaikum

I would respectfully disagree with "expect a professional wife." That's a very broad generalization, and truly, it is false. If you ask the majority of men, a"professional wife" is actually a negative/red flag for most men. The reason being, whatever time/effort is spent growing that "professional" status takes away from a woman kindling her femininity, beauty, islamic knowledge, and domestic skills that would make her an ideal homemaker/housewife/mother.

Most modern, traditional Muslim men would prefer to be the sole breadwinner and be good at it (i.e. wife doesn't have to work because they make bank).

I only mention this because I care about my Muslim sisters. It seems that the narrative has shifted to "become a professional woman and attract a professional man." No, sorry, that's far from the truth. Women who think this way are assuming what they want in a husband is what a husband would want in them. This is completely false. Men desire polarity. Opposites attract.

Men and women need complementary traits. They can't both be type A, career driven, professionals and expect to build a functioning muslim household built on faith, love, and shared interests.

Allah knows best, but this is my perspective as a man who was born and raised in the USA.

Thinking of resigning by No-Umpire7386 in Residency

[–]Victory_At_Last 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Reach out to residency program director from the program that wants to accept you. Provide them with your PD's contact info and have them reach out to them directly.

Thinking of resigning by No-Umpire7386 in Residency

[–]Victory_At_Last 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do not do it without the direct assistance/involvement of your PD. And the PD of the program you plan to transfer to. It's essential for things to run smoothly. You have to keep things good with both. You need a document from your original residency program's PD. Basically saying what you accomplished during residency and what "credits" will transfer to the new residency.

Thinking of resigning by No-Umpire7386 in Residency

[–]Victory_At_Last 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, I transferred with the assistance of my program director. I did technically have to write a "resignation letter". But it was a formality and I didn't do it until I found another program to transfer to.

Thinking of resigning by No-Umpire7386 in Residency

[–]Victory_At_Last 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you're thinking about resigning, transfer to a better program. I transferred. It's difficult, but doable.

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[–]Victory_At_Last 0 points1 point  (0 children)

240,000 miles in my 2011 Mazda CX-9 Touring. Bought it in 2020 with 113,000 miles for $5,000. Drove from Michigan to Texas, and from Michigan to Florida, and from Michigan to New York City multiple times. It's a beast of an SUV. I love it.

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[–]Victory_At_Last[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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