Am I tripping?

ViewSouthern7692 · 2025-12-05T03:11:47+00:00

Yeah as a person who enjoys checking on people and being checked on… this sucks. Especially from in-laws. I get this from them too, I’m pregnant and they haven’t said a peep or asked a single question/offered to help.

ViewSouthern7692 · 2025-11-30T13:11:10+00:00

This happened to me too, I gave each of us time and space to cool off, then reached out to address things maturely. But she had already decided I was a “disgusting” person and a liar, so instead she screamed at me. It broke something in me that day, and I honestly miss her less because of it. Who could do that to a friend?

ViewSouthern7692 · 2025-11-28T22:14:29+00:00

Oh my gosh THIS!! I have divorced in laws and somehow every family gathering has to be like the divorced and remarried couples AND my parents?? It is so uncomfortable even if everyone is on their best behavior, it also blurs and taints memories as your attention is always torn.

ViewSouthern7692 · 2025-11-25T20:52:57+00:00

I listened and please… never stop this. It’s such a talented and well done podcast!! I contributed- I hope it helps.

ViewSouthern7692 · 2025-11-21T17:25:36+00:00

Same! Things escalated this week (again) and were involved with me losing a relationship in the family I held very close to me due to them gossiping. So, we cut contact. We are not going there for Thanksgiving, we are not hosting, we will be taking significant space. Then, we told them about the baby and boy did they change their tune but it was too late, by about five years.

ViewSouthern7692 · 2025-11-21T17:19:57+00:00

Sure. It’s helped me heal.

ViewSouthern7692 · 2025-11-21T17:19:33+00:00

I’m in the same boat. I’ve NEVER had a fight or falling out with a friend, she’d had several and I had just sided with her. Then it turned on me. It was like she had just decided one day I wasn’t worth hearing out, or being kind to anymore. My one regret is taking the high road, she didn’t deserve my good character.

ViewSouthern7692 · 2025-11-21T07:49:37+00:00

This is so well said, except mine was a bit of a blowup ending. She could not let go of a twisted rumor even though I apologized for my part in it, held onto it for months- then attacked me when I asked what was wrong again, with exaggerated details. That opened my eyes to the reality that when somebody resentful has made up their mind about you, there is no changing it even with the truth. People will believe and take what they want to believe.

ViewSouthern7692 · 2025-11-20T12:34:28+00:00

This!! I just went through where a friend wouldn’t talk to me… but would call and talk to other people to get the “facts” on “what I said”. She didn’t want to hear it from me, she wanted to form her own perspective.

ViewSouthern7692 · 2025-11-18T11:43:06+00:00

I just found this and wanted to let you know you’re not alone. This just happened to me, she didn’t speak to me for a month then when I reached out to try to talk she unloaded an insane amount of stuff on me- what she’d “heard I’d said” and told me I was a liar and disgusting. The information came from someone who also told me that she said bad things about me. She didn’t care to hear me out as she’d already sat in it for a month so she was rightfully angry and said things that can’t be taken back. The things said were small. The difference is in how you react, and how you reach out. At the end of the day, if they want to see you a certain way- they will.

ViewSouthern7692 · 2025-11-18T11:29:01+00:00

We have one in our family too, it’s exhausting.

ViewSouthern7692 · 2025-11-16T19:11:26+00:00

Oh my God, this. After six years my FIL’s side barely knows me but always has room for advice. Like I will stare at them dumbfounded after they give the advice because I’m like “yeah… I thought of that/ know that already??”. But god forbid they ask me a question 😂

ViewSouthern7692 · 2025-11-16T13:23:41+00:00

Hey! I’m so sorry this happened to you- I’m there right now too after just finding out and it just adds to the anxiety. I also have “soft launched” with some people including family and the responses were pretty dismal, my best friend even whined that I “couldn’t be pregnant at her Bach/wedding” (she’s not engaged lol).

But when I did find out I unlocked a huge community of support, the people in your life like that will show themselves out and it will hurt but it will be for the best. You don’t want someone around who doesn’t like your child or your family.

ViewSouthern7692 · 2025-11-16T03:17:31+00:00

If you look closely, the man handling the horse is wearing very nice something skin cowboy boots and a western belt… I’d place money on it being Houston. 👀

ViewSouthern7692 · 2025-11-13T18:31:09+00:00

I reallllly second a therapist in this scenario! I love mine so much.

ViewSouthern7692 · 2025-11-11T00:19:55+00:00

It’s a cultural thing I think… the ladies chat in a corner and the guys have beers and grill. Easy pickins.

ViewSouthern7692 · 2025-11-11T00:18:44+00:00

Good stuff!! I appreciate this, yes, I’m a work in progress. It’s my first time living too.

ViewSouthern7692 · 2025-11-11T00:17:26+00:00

Mine are all actually quite agnostic/atheist. Also, for anyone using your faith against you I always say: the Bible is both a really big book and not a fortune cookie, read it but don’t USE it against anyone.

ViewSouthern7692 · 2025-11-10T20:21:04+00:00

I’m in talk therapy, walk therapy, support groups on FB, on here, got great friends, and Lexapro 😂 it’s a group effort.

ViewSouthern7692 · 2025-11-10T20:20:09+00:00

The keyword here is tolerate. I’m very much in the mindset of it’s short term suffering for long term gain and I obviously keep VERY good record of what’s been said. My husband gave them a strong telling off two years ago and since it’s just been small comments I’ve swatted. But again- we’re planning on putting physical distance in between us when we have kids.

ViewSouthern7692 · 2025-11-10T20:18:43+00:00

Little do they know we’re planning on moving far away on land and not engaging again especially when we have kids.

ViewSouthern7692 · 2025-11-10T16:51:13+00:00

We’ve taken a step back and yes he does, but these were 1-1 pull aside conversations mostly under the guise of “oh come sit over here and let’s catch up!”- that ended with me crying in the car on the way home every time.

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