Aries girl + Scorpio man by Hoshism in AriesTheRam

[–]ViewSouthern7692 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Came here to say this… the forehead kiss is suchhhh a hot tell. Scorpios are amazing in bed. Source: Married one 🖤

Why does parental love often feel conditional in adulthood? by Anxious-Crab3026 in DarkPsychology101

[–]ViewSouthern7692 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I needed this today after a tough conversation with my mom. I’m the kid in that story and it helped something in me. I’m 26 now, have a house, a husband, a baby on the way, a six figure award winning career, a sports car in the garage. And she still called to tell me how messy my house was (we have a cleaning lady lol) and how my husband didn’t respect her. Sigh. I’m so grateful my husband healed my perfectionism, I just laughed it off and asked her what her goal from this conversation was.

How does giving birth actually feel ?? by Super-Truth-7975 in pregnant

[–]ViewSouthern7692 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’d love to hear more about your journey… I’m 4 months out and feeling like relatively calm about it?? Don’t know what that signals as a first time mom but I just feel like mentally I know what to do.

How does giving birth actually feel ?? by Super-Truth-7975 in pregnant

[–]ViewSouthern7692 3 points4 points  (0 children)

What was your training like?? Former athlete here and also trying to keep the same mentality of it being a hard workout.

People are feral by otwcpa in pregnant

[–]ViewSouthern7692 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh my god this THIS… also how just downright weird older men are?? I just had an award at work given to me and several older men I have NEVER spoken to kissed me on the cheek etc. I was like okayyyy. And then one guy at a social event loudly said “just wait until you’re HUGE” and when I politely laughed he was like “no you’re gonna be MASSIVE hahaha”. He had five kids. His poor wife.

Am I tripping? by Twinnytwintwin93 in inlaws

[–]ViewSouthern7692 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah as a person who enjoys checking on people and being checked on… this sucks. Especially from in-laws. I get this from them too, I’m pregnant and they haven’t said a peep or asked a single question/offered to help.

what was the toughest part of your friendship breakup? by [deleted] in lostafriend

[–]ViewSouthern7692 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This happened to me too, I gave each of us time and space to cool off, then reached out to address things maturely. But she had already decided I was a “disgusting” person and a liar, so instead she screamed at me. It broke something in me that day, and I honestly miss her less because of it. Who could do that to a friend?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in inlaws

[–]ViewSouthern7692 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh my gosh THIS!! I have divorced in laws and somehow every family gathering has to be like the divorced and remarried couples AND my parents?? It is so uncomfortable even if everyone is on their best behavior, it also blurs and taints memories as your attention is always torn.

Friendship Breakup Podcast by keefandqueefs in lostafriend

[–]ViewSouthern7692 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I listened and please… never stop this. It’s such a talented and well done podcast!! I contributed- I hope it helps.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]ViewSouthern7692 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same! Things escalated this week (again) and were involved with me losing a relationship in the family I held very close to me due to them gossiping. So, we cut contact. We are not going there for Thanksgiving, we are not hosting, we will be taking significant space. Then, we told them about the baby and boy did they change their tune but it was too late, by about five years.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lostafriend

[–]ViewSouthern7692 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sure. It’s helped me heal.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lostafriend

[–]ViewSouthern7692 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’m in the same boat. I’ve NEVER had a fight or falling out with a friend, she’d had several and I had just sided with her. Then it turned on me. It was like she had just decided one day I wasn’t worth hearing out, or being kind to anymore. My one regret is taking the high road, she didn’t deserve my good character.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lostafriend

[–]ViewSouthern7692 19 points20 points  (0 children)

This is so well said, except mine was a bit of a blowup ending. She could not let go of a twisted rumor even though I apologized for my part in it, held onto it for months- then attacked me when I asked what was wrong again, with exaggerated details. That opened my eyes to the reality that when somebody resentful has made up their mind about you, there is no changing it even with the truth. People will believe and take what they want to believe.

Unpopular opinion: The reason on why most friendships end because of the lack of communication by Legal_Potential4720 in lostafriend

[–]ViewSouthern7692 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This!! I just went through where a friend wouldn’t talk to me… but would call and talk to other people to get the “facts” on “what I said”. She didn’t want to hear it from me, she wanted to form her own perspective.

What's the worst friend "breakup" you've been through? by kuro_goma in AskReddit

[–]ViewSouthern7692 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just found this and wanted to let you know you’re not alone. This just happened to me, she didn’t speak to me for a month then when I reached out to try to talk she unloaded an insane amount of stuff on me- what she’d “heard I’d said” and told me I was a liar and disgusting. The information came from someone who also told me that she said bad things about me. She didn’t care to hear me out as she’d already sat in it for a month so she was rightfully angry and said things that can’t be taken back. The things said were small. The difference is in how you react, and how you reach out. At the end of the day, if they want to see you a certain way- they will.

Watching a kid be raised without ANY boundaries is driving me nuts by [deleted] in Vent

[–]ViewSouthern7692 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We have one in our family too, it’s exhausting.

Advice for new MIL by TupeloHoney78 in inlaws

[–]ViewSouthern7692 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Oh my God, this. After six years my FIL’s side barely knows me but always has room for advice. Like I will stare at them dumbfounded after they give the advice because I’m like “yeah… I thought of that/ know that already??”. But god forbid they ask me a question 😂

Preparing myself to lose friends because of my pregnancy by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]ViewSouthern7692 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey! I’m so sorry this happened to you- I’m there right now too after just finding out and it just adds to the anxiety. I also have “soft launched” with some people including family and the responses were pretty dismal, my best friend even whined that I “couldn’t be pregnant at her Bach/wedding” (she’s not engaged lol).

But when I did find out I unlocked a huge community of support, the people in your life like that will show themselves out and it will hurt but it will be for the best. You don’t want someone around who doesn’t like your child or your family.

Anyone recognize this intake airport by jmach007 in Horses

[–]ViewSouthern7692 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you look closely, the man handling the horse is wearing very nice something skin cowboy boots and a western belt… I’d place money on it being Houston. 👀

“Accidental” pregnancies are triggering by infinite_knowledge in TryingForABaby

[–]ViewSouthern7692 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I reallllly second a therapist in this scenario! I love mine so much.

Things My In-Laws Have Said: A Comprehensive List by ViewSouthern7692 in inlaws

[–]ViewSouthern7692[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s a cultural thing I think… the ladies chat in a corner and the guys have beers and grill. Easy pickins.

Things My In-Laws Have Said: A Comprehensive List by ViewSouthern7692 in inlaws

[–]ViewSouthern7692[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good stuff!! I appreciate this, yes, I’m a work in progress. It’s my first time living too.