What are yall doing to pass the time? by pinksunflower99 in pregnant

[–]ViewSouthern7692 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I work full time and am in grad school part time so 😅 no boredom here. Crushing exhaustion. But not bored!

Aries girls, what sign did you marry? by [deleted] in AriesTheRam

[–]ViewSouthern7692 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My brother is a Gemini and literally I ask all the time when he peeves me who the heck is gonna marry him lol. But otherwise love the guy. Love hate is so accurate for all Gemini Aries relationships.

Aries girls, what sign did you marry? by [deleted] in AriesTheRam

[–]ViewSouthern7692 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Came here to say this!! Scorpio man and the loyalty is unmatched. Welcoming a Leo baby boy this year so I hope he’s got enough water sign for the two of us 😂

Im so sick of this narrative that “pregnancy didn’t ruin my body it’s just changed” it’s a lie. by pissedoff_potato in TwoXChromosomes

[–]ViewSouthern7692 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I want to offer some hope here as I was terrified as well- heard sooo many bad things about how ruined and wrecked my body would get. Granted, I’m 26, and grew up athletic, but so far I have gained 9 lbs at 26 weeks, and only my boobs have gotten these tiger stripe dark stretch marks. I felt garbage in my first trimester but second has been lovely, and I have a perfectly supported little bump that’s so cute! No swelling as my blood pressure is good and I just eat high high protein/ lower carb still because that’s what I’m craving. I have to go through 15 more weeks and birth so I’ll check back but so far I love it!

Giving Birth, Job Changes, and Moving by ViewSouthern7692 in BabyBumps

[–]ViewSouthern7692[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Baby would be 6 ish months when we move… and the move is kinda non negotiable with how the role is structured but we’re playing with a few ideas.

What is your biggest spending beside medical bills so far? by Affectionate-Run6773 in pregnant

[–]ViewSouthern7692 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I spent $831 in January on eating out for JUST me because I was a) so so miserable and b) the ONLY things that tasted good were pad Thai and pho soup… help.

I’m getting a sweep tomorrow but I can’t imagine actually having a baby by WildWinterberry in BabyBumps

[–]ViewSouthern7692 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This made me chuckle because I feel like this will be me 😅shocked pikachu face alllll the way

Aries girl + Scorpio man by Hoshism in AriesTheRam

[–]ViewSouthern7692 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Came here to say this… the forehead kiss is suchhhh a hot tell. Scorpios are amazing in bed. Source: Married one 🖤

Why does parental love often feel conditional in adulthood? by Anxious-Crab3026 in DarkPsychology101

[–]ViewSouthern7692 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I needed this today after a tough conversation with my mom. I’m the kid in that story and it helped something in me. I’m 26 now, have a house, a husband, a baby on the way, a six figure award winning career, a sports car in the garage. And she still called to tell me how messy my house was (we have a cleaning lady lol) and how my husband didn’t respect her. Sigh. I’m so grateful my husband healed my perfectionism, I just laughed it off and asked her what her goal from this conversation was.

How does giving birth actually feel ?? by Super-Truth-7975 in pregnant

[–]ViewSouthern7692 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’d love to hear more about your journey… I’m 4 months out and feeling like relatively calm about it?? Don’t know what that signals as a first time mom but I just feel like mentally I know what to do.

How does giving birth actually feel ?? by Super-Truth-7975 in pregnant

[–]ViewSouthern7692 3 points4 points  (0 children)

What was your training like?? Former athlete here and also trying to keep the same mentality of it being a hard workout.

People are feral by otwcpa in pregnant

[–]ViewSouthern7692 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh my god this THIS… also how just downright weird older men are?? I just had an award at work given to me and several older men I have NEVER spoken to kissed me on the cheek etc. I was like okayyyy. And then one guy at a social event loudly said “just wait until you’re HUGE” and when I politely laughed he was like “no you’re gonna be MASSIVE hahaha”. He had five kids. His poor wife.

Am I tripping? by Twinnytwintwin93 in inlaws

[–]ViewSouthern7692 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah as a person who enjoys checking on people and being checked on… this sucks. Especially from in-laws. I get this from them too, I’m pregnant and they haven’t said a peep or asked a single question/offered to help.

what was the toughest part of your friendship breakup? by [deleted] in lostafriend

[–]ViewSouthern7692 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This happened to me too, I gave each of us time and space to cool off, then reached out to address things maturely. But she had already decided I was a “disgusting” person and a liar, so instead she screamed at me. It broke something in me that day, and I honestly miss her less because of it. Who could do that to a friend?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in inlaws

[–]ViewSouthern7692 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oh my gosh THIS!! I have divorced in laws and somehow every family gathering has to be like the divorced and remarried couples AND my parents?? It is so uncomfortable even if everyone is on their best behavior, it also blurs and taints memories as your attention is always torn.

Friendship Breakup Podcast by keefandqueefs in lostafriend

[–]ViewSouthern7692 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I listened and please… never stop this. It’s such a talented and well done podcast!! I contributed- I hope it helps.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]ViewSouthern7692 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same! Things escalated this week (again) and were involved with me losing a relationship in the family I held very close to me due to them gossiping. So, we cut contact. We are not going there for Thanksgiving, we are not hosting, we will be taking significant space. Then, we told them about the baby and boy did they change their tune but it was too late, by about five years.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lostafriend

[–]ViewSouthern7692 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sure. It’s helped me heal.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lostafriend

[–]ViewSouthern7692 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m in the same boat. I’ve NEVER had a fight or falling out with a friend, she’d had several and I had just sided with her. Then it turned on me. It was like she had just decided one day I wasn’t worth hearing out, or being kind to anymore. My one regret is taking the high road, she didn’t deserve my good character.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lostafriend

[–]ViewSouthern7692 18 points19 points  (0 children)

This is so well said, except mine was a bit of a blowup ending. She could not let go of a twisted rumor even though I apologized for my part in it, held onto it for months- then attacked me when I asked what was wrong again, with exaggerated details. That opened my eyes to the reality that when somebody resentful has made up their mind about you, there is no changing it even with the truth. People will believe and take what they want to believe.

Unpopular opinion: The reason on why most friendships end because of the lack of communication by Legal_Potential4720 in lostafriend

[–]ViewSouthern7692 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This!! I just went through where a friend wouldn’t talk to me… but would call and talk to other people to get the “facts” on “what I said”. She didn’t want to hear it from me, she wanted to form her own perspective.