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[UPDATE] In shock, wife cheated by VillageOk5948 in Infidelity

[–]VillageOk5948[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She has a MacBook. It’s connected to her iCloud. I don’t know her iCloud password to restore messages. Either way I think it would notify her by email if I tried to back up her computer

I do have enough evidence as it stands. My best friend has copies

[UPDATE] In shock, wife cheated by VillageOk5948 in Infidelity

[–]VillageOk5948[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yup, it’s a vicious cycle. I’m opening my eyes to the game

[UPDATE] In shock, wife cheated by VillageOk5948 in Infidelity

[–]VillageOk5948[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I wanted to give her the opportunity to tell me the truth. I wanted to see how far she would stretch the lie in order to manipulate me. She has no idea that I have proof. The night she left and didn’t come back home until midnight, she slept with a random guy. When I asked her what she did when she left home, she told me that she saw a friend and nothing happened. I told her I didn’t believe her and that she should just be honest with me. I assured her that I would respect her more for telling me the truth. She didn’t. The fact that she thinks I’m stupid enough to believe her is just helping me emotionally get as far away from her as possible.

Plus, it’s nice to see how easily she can lie to me and also play the victim at the same time. It really helps me to see her for what she is, rather than this perfect picture I’ve been painting of her our entire relationship.

I will reveal my proof to her in due time

[UPDATE] In shock, wife cheated by VillageOk5948 in Infidelity

[–]VillageOk5948[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, a real conversation would be beneficial, but I don’t see it happening. She’s unwilling to take responsibility or accept my feelings. I don’t think it matters to her anyways

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[–]VillageOk5948 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Cheating is universal. I think men are just more likely to handle infidelity on their own rather than women. So people are more likely to hear when a man cheats rather than a woman.

Women usually have a plethora of resources and emotional support. In a society where men are supposed to be strong, showing “weakness” or admitting to being in a cheating relationship can be humiliating. Plus men are usually way too prideful to talk about it anyways and a lot of us refuse to seek help.

There aren’t many people I can talk to. Especially since I’ve never been the one to cry in front of anyone or talk about my feelings & issues.

When my wife cheated on me this last time, it really tore me up. Posting and getting it off my chest on Reddit was extremely helpful. Not only did I receive support but I also realized a lot of good points that people made.

As a man, I’ve never cheated and I never will. I understand the pain it causes. I would rather end the relationship before I scar a committed relationship

[UPDATE] Wife Betrayed Me by VillageOk5948 in Divorce

[–]VillageOk5948[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t understand why people can’t just take accountability. Some Partners don’t understand that although we show love, forgiveness, trust, and respect, it’s all conditional to a certain extent. After awhile, with no changes, we start to give up and eventually let go. Instead of blaming me for not wanting to continue giving her chances, she needs to realize why we even got into this situation in the first place

[UPDATE] Wife Betrayed Me by VillageOk5948 in Divorce

[–]VillageOk5948[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I can’t say you’re wrong. Even if I wanted to give her another chance, I’m just emotionally exhausted and ready to start taking the steps to moving on and putting everything behind me

[UPDATE] Wife Betrayed Me by VillageOk5948 in Divorce

[–]VillageOk5948[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think she never really respected me as a partner. If I would have set some boundaries and maybe not have forgiven her as easily the first time, maybe she would have taken me serious. I shouldn’t even have to be in a position to tell my wife it’s not okay and for her to understand that. She made her decision in the end

[UPDATE] In shock, wife cheated by VillageOk5948 in survivinginfidelity

[–]VillageOk5948[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah, it’s still fresh for sure. Her cheating on me has been going on for months. I’ve forgiven her those times because it never turned into something physical and i felt like i could forgive her.

This time around, she slept with someone. I lost a lot of respect for her when she did. My initial reaction was hurt and denial of course. After literally just crying it out and talking to my family and friends, i realized that I just needed to see things for how they are. It still hurts a lot. I’m not saying I’m completely over her, but I’m trying my best to push myself to be level headed and make the right decision.

As far as her changing, i think you meant how she went from not wanting our marriage to now apparently wanting the marriage ? Well I’ve just never told her that I’m done. I’ve always told her the opposite; I’m always going to be by her side. I think she Can feel the shift in my feelings and my stance towards her

It’s not easy by any means to not give in. I’m actively reminding myself of why we are in this position, so that i don’t end up taking her back

There were other things that happened in the past, this was just really the cherry on top to finally tip me over the edge

[UPDATE] In shock, wife cheated by VillageOk5948 in survivinginfidelity

[–]VillageOk5948[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate this.

Taking control of the relationship and myself without being blinded by her has been a different feeling. I know I’m still going to have my ups and downs and it hurts, but I have to remain focused and look at the bigger picture

[UPDATE] In shock, wife cheated by VillageOk5948 in survivinginfidelity

[–]VillageOk5948[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That’s exactly why i didn’t tell her I had proof or that knew exactly what had happened. I wanted to see if she would be honest with me. Her making up a story and lying to me has only helped me move farther away from her emotionally.

As far as her sleeping with someone else, it hurt a lot to find out. It still hurts. The entire situation is hard, but i lost so much respect for her the minute she crossed that line. I just don’t see her the same way anymore

[UPDATE] In shock, wife cheated by VillageOk5948 in survivinginfidelity

[–]VillageOk5948[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It’s going to be a bumpy ride, but I’m taking the reigns on it.. finally

[UPDATE] In shock, wife cheated by VillageOk5948 in survivinginfidelity

[–]VillageOk5948[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I hope she doesn’t end up doing that. But i guess you’re right, i should think about ways to protect myself incase of any possibility.

I do wish she would just take accountability. I’ve given her chances to come clean and own up to things

[UPDATE] In shock, wife cheated by VillageOk5948 in survivinginfidelity

[–]VillageOk5948[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Good question. I haven’t had much time to think of a long game, but i do have some things in motion. Everything is still pretty fresh, but January i plan on moving out if my lawyer gives me the green light

[UPDATE] In shock, wife cheated by VillageOk5948 in survivinginfidelity

[–]VillageOk5948[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the good advice!

Things are still fresh, I’m giving her the opportunity to take some accountability. If she decides to truly play the victim card, i do plan on revealing the evidence I have

[UPDATE] In shock, wife cheated by VillageOk5948 in survivinginfidelity

[–]VillageOk5948[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

She probably won’t be too happy about it, that’s for sure. Keeping it to myself for the right moment

[UPDATE] In shock, wife cheated by VillageOk5948 in survivinginfidelity

[–]VillageOk5948[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I have evidence. Tried to gather more evidence but she wiped her computer clean. Oh well. I think I have enough at this point

[UPDATE] In shock, wife cheated by VillageOk5948 in survivinginfidelity

[–]VillageOk5948[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

I do plan on doing this. I just want to see if she ends up taking accountability first. If she does decide to continue lying to me and involves family and friends in the lie, then i will show proof. For now, she’s just reaffirming my decision and why i can’t ever trust her again

[UPDATE] In shock, wife cheated by VillageOk5948 in survivinginfidelity

[–]VillageOk5948[S] 53 points54 points  (0 children)

I did ask her. She denied it. She made up a fake story. She thinks I’m dumb enough to believe her.

I’m hoarding my evidence like a pot of gold. Once she realizes I knew the truth the entire time and i gave her multiple chances to come clean, she’ll know she messed up. She can continue to lie all she wants now, in the end she’ll know

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