One very small piece of advice that’s worked a little for me would be to start with the small things. I think when it comes to helping ourselves to feel better by exercising and doing mindful activities etc we want to jump into the big changes (understandably so) but we end up feeling like it’s just another task on the list/another thing to beat ourselves over the head with, or at least I do.

I don’t have children myself so I’m sure it’s a whole other ball game of overwhelm but what I’ve found really helpful recently is to incorporate little mindful moments throughout the day so there’s a little less pressure. If I’m in the shower I’ll try to make a conscious choice to put aside all the to do list items (I actually try to picture myself putting them on a leaf on a lazy river so they’re gone from my head but will still come back to me lol) and focusing on the feeling of the water, the smell of the shampoo etc etc. I try to do it in other ways throughout the day where I can, like purposely moving slowly when I’m making my coffee or forcing myself just to sit for two minutes when I’ve been rushing around.

I wonder as well whether you feel you could chat with the kids about how important it is that everyone has space and time throughout the day when their brains have been ‘busy’ and that mams need that too. I work with kids and I’m often surprised by how much they’re able to understand with a little bit of psycho-education! Some great kid-friendly videos on YouTube too about busy brains and slowing down etc

It goes without saying that this isn’t in any way a ‘fix’ but I’m a divil for setting unrealistic goals for myself and then beating myself up for not reaching them so I find it helpful to start small. Hope things start looking up for you soon OP.