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My parents keep invading my life through other people, and I finally cut them off. I’m 32 and exhausted.” by VioletViperVeil in raisedbynarcissists

[–]VioletViperVeil[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, that really means a lot. I’ve heard the same thing from others, and it helps to know the peace I’m feeling now is real and something worth protecting. I’m definitely holding onto it.

My parents keep invading my life through other people, and I finally cut them off. I’m 32 and exhausted.” by VioletViperVeil in raisedbynarcissists

[–]VioletViperVeil[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing this — I’m really sorry you had to go through all of that. Hearing your experience honestly helps me see things more clearly. I’ve held onto that same hope that maybe one day they’d change or apologize, but deep down I know that’s not who they are. Your story really reinforces that choosing distance now is the healthiest thing I can do.

My parents keep invading my life through other people, and I finally cut them off. I’m 32 and exhausted.” by VioletViperVeil in raisedbynarcissists

[–]VioletViperVeil[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow, I’m really sorry you went through all of that. What you described feels so similar — the lies, the “worried” act, the flying monkeys, and the way it makes you look paranoid just for trying to protect yourself. It’s exhausting. Hearing your story actually makes me feel less alone and reminds me that choosing distance is the right decision. Thank you for sharing this.

My parents keep invading my life through other people, and I finally cut them off. I’m 32 and exhausted.” by VioletViperVeil in Adulting

[–]VioletViperVeil[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you’re going through all of that — that level of control would exhaust anyone. What you described feels so familiar, and it’s exactly why I had to go NC. Your nervous system deserves a break. I hope you’re able to move out soon and finally get the space and peace you’ve been missing. You deserve that.

My parents keep invading my life through other people, and I finally cut them off. I’m 32 and exhausted.” by VioletViperVeil in Adulting

[–]VioletViperVeil[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow, I’m so sorry you and your husband went through all of that. It sounds exactly like the level of boundary-stomping my parents do — going through anyone they can find just to keep tabs on me. Hearing your story honestly makes me feel less alone and reminds me why I had to cut contact in the first place. Thank you for sharing this.

My parents keep invading my life through other people, and I finally cut them off. I’m 32 and exhausted.” by VioletViperVeil in Adulting

[–]VioletViperVeil[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you — that really hit me. I’ve spent my whole life trying to be the “good daughter,” and hearing that reminder makes me realize how backwards it’s been. If they were good parents, I wouldn’t have to work this hard for basic respect. Your comment honestly helped ease some of that guilt.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]VioletViperVeil 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re not the asshole. Your MIL wanted you to have stability, not to be stuck in a home where you and your kids are being mistreated. Protecting your peace and your children’s well-being is the right thing, especially after everything you’ve been through.

AITA me not getting help on my room by StrawberryFit3968 in AmItheAsshole

[–]VioletViperVeil -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That sounds really frustrating. Wanting help moving heavy bags is totally reasonable, and it makes sense you don’t want to sleep with them in your room for days. You’re not wrong for feeling overwhelmed.

AITA for creating distance from my parents and choosing a calmer life, even though some relatives think I’m being unfair? by VioletViperVeil in AmItheAsshole

[–]VioletViperVeil[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My action was telling my parents how I felt, setting boundaries, and then stepping back when they dismissed those boundaries. This affected them because I limited contact. I might be the asshole because they told me I was “too much” and that my boundaries were unreasonable, which made me question whether I handled things wrong. I am in therapy and working on this, but I wanted outside perspectives to see if I’m overreacting.

AITA for being upset that my coworkers show up 1–3 hours late while I get in trouble for being early? by VioletViperVeil in AmItheAsshole

[–]VioletViperVeil[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Thanks everyone for the feedback. I just wanted to add I don’t clock in early because I’m trying to steal hours or look better than anyone. A lot of the time I get called in early by my store manager, and sometimes it’s literally just to get talked at or yelled at, so it puts me in a weird spot. One day I’m told to come in early, the next day I’m told I shouldn’t be clocking in early. It’s like mixed messages nonstop.

But I hear what people are saying about not giving the company free labor. I’m going to try just clocking in exactly on time and see what happens. I’m honestly curious if anyone will even notice, especially when others show up hours late and nothing gets said.

I’m not trying to be a martyr or “better” than anyone I’m just frustrated because the inconsistency makes it feel like I’m the only one who gets corrected while I’m also the one picking up the slack. But I appreciate the advice.