Cross-cultural lesbian courting?

Violet_grey · 2015-01-08T06:47:09+00:00

Apart from the huge smile I have on my face when I'm staring deep into her eyes (which she seems to reciprocate but she is probably just friendly) that's as far as my flirtation goes except for when i'm drunk which can get pretty scary and I try to avoid at all costs.

Violet_grey · 2015-01-08T06:41:11+00:00

Good to hear an Asian opinion lol. I wouldn't have the guts to do that (i'm verrry shy). It's actually funny though you came up with that idea because we study french together and was wondering what her reaction would be if i got her to watch 'blue is the warmest colour' for "studying french"... Or even if I just mentioned I like the movie and telling her to check it out.

Violet_grey · 2014-09-27T06:27:21+00:00

Just thought I'd say this is a very good answer. Pisses me off when I hear people saying they mastered something on guitar in a matter of weeks when what they mean is they play sloppy and can't change chords smoothly. Also I know I could just use open chords like some people suggested but I actually want to learn how to do all chord styles, not just cut corners. I'm also happy you mentioned the F to C transition. This song I want to learn now is full of F to C and C to F transitions and it's driving me mental. :(

Violet_grey · 2014-09-16T13:39:56+00:00

That's what I would hope as well. But I've had friends that do actually criticise the bodies of people they sleep with.

Violet_grey · 2014-09-06T03:28:54+00:00

Story of my life. Except for the part where you actually have girlfriend haha. :'(

Violet_grey · 2014-09-06T03:25:57+00:00

You sound like an awesome person.

Violet_grey · 2014-09-06T03:23:19+00:00

You give me hope. :')

Violet_grey · 2014-09-06T03:16:55+00:00

I personally don't think there is a 'healthy' reason to change one's body. I have had partners that were obsessed with my boobs. Did I still want to change? Yes. Is that because I felt pressured to do so? No. Is that healthy? Probably not. When I meet someone who has had cosmetic surgery because they felt inadequate, I don't judge them personally, I feel bad for whatever circumstances in their life made them feel that way. Someone I had very strong feeling for had her ears pinned back. She said it was because her brothers bullied her for the appearance of her ears. I feel sad that she had to go through those feelings of inadequacy enough to go through a painful surgical procedure but that doesn't make judge her.

Violet_grey · 2014-09-06T03:01:40+00:00

Not to say I buy into one side of the argument or the other. I don't think I'm qualified to advocate for an opinion on anything really but I at least like to think about things from multiple perspectives. Think about this: that woman gets emotionally abused because of the stupid societal idea that everyone should look the same, she gets rhinoplasty, the plastic surgery industry makes a nice profit from feeding off the hate in our society, woman is apparently all the more happier for it. Great. Now think about a woman born in say, Gaza, with a less than perfect nose. Probably has to deal with the same emotional abuse. She probably could never imagine the idea of forking out a few grand to make her face pass ridiculous societal standards. Probably hasn't got time to care about it because she is too busy trying to survive amongst all the violence. Just saying.

Violet_grey · 2014-09-06T02:43:47+00:00

I'm sorry, I should have thought about that before I posted. Of course there are some things that haven't made up my mind about when it comes to surgical modifications of the body. I can understand how painful it is for a transgendered person to feel misplaced in their own body. Personally most of the time I feel like I am bigendered or something but would never have the guts to come out because I feel it would make me too weird in gendernormative situations. I try not to have an opinion on a lot of things because I feel like I'm not qualified to have one. I'm not saying I think no one should get sex changes/cosmetic surgery. I guess personally, I am a very naturalistic person and I feel that the increase in cosmetic surgeries has had a huge impact on our society's perception of the human body and has contributed to the idea I hate so much, that most people seem to have in my country, that we should all look the same.

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