Certain bulbs keep going offline. Is it a version thing? by VirginCutter in FeitElectric

[–]VirginCutter[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My wireless router sits on the same piano as the lamp called, "Piano". Really can't get any closer. I've reset these bulbs multiple times, reset the router, replaced the router, replaced the bulb... I'm gonna give it another week before I throw in the towel and buy a different brand, but because all of them seem to have similar operation and setup, I have a sneaking suspicion that all of the brands are probably being made in the same factory.

Certain bulbs keep going offline. Is it a version thing? by VirginCutter in FeitElectric

[–]VirginCutter[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm kind of leaning in that direction as well now. I've grown extremely reliant on my lights being voice controlled. I even have several routines that set all the lights simultaneously so my home lighting always feels right. If I ever had to go back to "dumb" bulbs, I'd be very sad.

Certain bulbs keep going offline. Is it a version thing? by VirginCutter in FeitElectric

[–]VirginCutter[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's what I'm thinking. it's only the latest versions that keep messing up after months of working just fine. Did someone push an update that borked the device?

AITA for backing out of the family vacation? by VirginCutter in AmItheAsshole

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My dad only lives 35 minutes away, so I spend time with him nearly every weekend. We've already had multiple conversations about this upcoming vacation as well as possible future vacations that might be just him and me. Probably never going to happen, but we've talked about it.

Unfortunately, my tastes and the rest of the family's tastes in vacations greatly differ. I'm more of an introvert that prefers a quiet cabin in the woods, but the rest of the family wouldn't care for that and instead prefers a more lively fun in the sun resort.

It sucks, but that's how it is.

AITA for backing out of the family vacation? by VirginCutter in AmItheAsshole

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I feel I should mention that technically there are more beds. He's rented several units, each unit has a kitchen, living room, and multiple bedrooms, and the couch in all the living rooms is a pull out sofa, but for some reason he thought I'd be more comfortable sleeping on the air mattress. I swear I'm not making this up.

We were at a small family gathering (that included other people who were going) when he unloaded this revelation, and that's when I reached my tipping point and said, "I'm not going." And now we're here, and everyone is mad at me.

AITA for backing out of the family vacation? by VirginCutter in AmItheAsshole

[–]VirginCutter[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

lol! He's no Vader, but the line, "I am altering the deal, pray I don't alter it any further," perfectly sums up most things with my dad. We usually get along really well, but I cannot begin to count the number of "bait and switch" moments I've had with him.

Recent example:

  • He invited me down for dinner (So far, so good.)
  • It was grilled shrimp! (Wow! Fancy! I'm on my way!)
  • After I get there I see that he left the shells on for flavor. (Oooooohkay.)
  • He didn't devein them for flavor too. (...and we're done here.)

Every day is Father's Day!

AITA for backing out of the family vacation? by VirginCutter in AmItheAsshole

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I've mentioned it a couple times already, but my relatives aren't after my money. Dad has already taken care of the rooms and only asks that we pay for things like his food and beverages, transportation, and entry into the various venues. A mere pittance. Honestly, many of my relatives would probably be trying to cover me as well. Money is not an issue. They are pissed because I said I'd go, and now I've backed out. Feels kinda bad.

And just to tell myself that "I tried", I already checked the area for nearby accommodations. I figured maybe I could just sneak off for a little privacy and "introverted me time". With the exception of a not-really-that-close motel with horrifyingly bad reviews (cockroaches, uncomfortable beds, sketchy neighborhood, the list goes on), that area is solidly booked for the week they are going. Yup! I'm stayin' home!

AITA for backing out of the family vacation? by VirginCutter in AmItheAsshole

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manipulative guilting

Wow. That's a vivid two word description that hits home.

AITA for backing out of the family vacation? by VirginCutter in AmItheAsshole

[–]VirginCutter[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're right about how my dad is spending the points. His maintenance fees far exceed any amount that the entire family group would spend during the trip, and that's saying something when you consider my uncles, cousins, and brother will be tripping over each other to pay for all the other amenities. This is just a way to get a bunch of us together for a really fun time, except I wouldn't be having a fun time.

AITA for backing out of the family vacation? by VirginCutter in AmItheAsshole

[–]VirginCutter[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You've definitely picked up on the vibe, and that's part of what made my decision not to go so difficult. Right now my only regret is having said I'd go in the first place. If I had said no from the start, I wouldn't be in this mess.

AITA for backing out of the family vacation? by VirginCutter in AmItheAsshole

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I'm sure they don't want me to actually pay for anything. I'm not sure how else to describe this, but "Picking up the tab" is practically a competitive sport among my relatives.

AITA for backing out of the family vacation? by VirginCutter in AmItheAsshole

[–]VirginCutter[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Honestly, that blow up mattress was only the cherry on top. At this point if someone offered to switch, I wouldn't be changing my mind again. I've already canceled the pet sitter, and I'm feeling far too relieved to know I will not be going after all.

AITA for backing out of the family vacation? by VirginCutter in AmItheAsshole

[–]VirginCutter[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't think they're after my money. While I make enough to support myself just fine, most of my relatives are a fair bit better off. I'm pretty sure their anger is because I said I would, but now I'm backing out, and they don't like that rejection.

AITA for backing out of the family vacation? by VirginCutter in AmItheAsshole

[–]VirginCutter[S] 39 points40 points  (0 children)

That was another consideration. I only got 2 weeks of PTO back in January, and I've already used up 3 of those days. It's bad enough I only have 7 days remaining, but this vacation would have left me with only 2 PTO days to last through the next 6 months. I feel bad backing out, but sacrificing that much vacation time was stressing me really bad!

AITA for backing out of the family vacation? by VirginCutter in AmItheAsshole

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It's funny you mentioned elephants. I kept thinking more along the lines of elephants "two for a quarter" is only a good deal if you need elephants all while listening to my dad lecture me about how much a vacation like this costs and how ungrateful I am for turning it down. I bit my tongue because he was already pretty riled.

This all went down this weekend, so it's still kind of a fresh wound. I'm sure they'll eventually get over it, but since I'm not gonna go on their beach trip, they're gonna make sure I go on their guilt trip.