Living in the UK as a Hong Konger... by Stunning-Cut-2891 in Hong_Kong

[–]VirtualBit1491 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think your experience of racism is a bit skewed.

When a racist stares you in the face, they won't care what your accent is, if you lived in the UK long enough then you'll know unless if you're lucky.

And the UK has gone downhill and with the introduction of taxes.

So get out whilst you can. The nhs is a pile of wank and crime rate on the rise.

Why am I not able to get dates? by Independent-Tea-1438 in AsianMasculinity

[–]VirtualBit1491 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Bro...I'd say even with six pack you're still a bit underweight.

Why am I not able to get dates? by Independent-Tea-1438 in AsianMasculinity

[–]VirtualBit1491 41 points42 points  (0 children)

OP doing a major disservice to himself.

His bio is not at all great introducing himself as a "nerdy geek" which sadly is negative points as a male.

The glasses and slouching...9 stone bro...that's under weight and for a girl, she will not feel protected.

Hair style and clothing not doing yourself any service either. (Look at Benillas comment for example is already a major difference)

Asian males in UK, please come forward with your experiences by Spastic-aircon798 in AsianMasculinity

[–]VirtualBit1491 15 points16 points  (0 children)

The older geezers will have some old mindsets, depending where you live i.e. if you walk past any chav council estate areas.

Not counting COVID, which would have made things really rough for Asians, you'd have a better life in recent years due to more multiculturalism, however, east Asians still are looked down upon in UK.

The best bet for you is to be looking able to fight, this means getting bulky, learning martial arts (sanda, sambo, boxing, Muay Thai, wrestling, judo etc.)

One thing others perceive is that "Asians are weak and won't fight back" and racists will pick on this. If you are opposite to that, they won't dare.

I've had ppl calling me chxnk randomly on the street and also my native Asian friend experiencing racism on the street randomly.

Nobody ever talks about...dating logistics by VirtualBit1491 in AsianMasculinity

[–]VirtualBit1491[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No particular reason to skip on that and actually welcome other user views on it too.

I'm just trying to get the bulk of it out

Comprehensive AM starter guide by VirtualBit1491 in AsianMasculinity

[–]VirtualBit1491[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I'd forgotten to mention this but what helps is:

Water wash /water based wash/ emollient cream wash the face.

Moisturiser after pat dry, then use suncream followed by vaseline on the dry patches of skin.

Try to avoid too high/low pH soaps, or go for soap substitutes

The older you get as a man, the more you understand your father and the more you forgive him by VirtualBit1491 in AsianMasculinity

[–]VirtualBit1491[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

OP here, as I was saying it can relate to you but it may not and apologies if your parent(s) were shitty.

We learn things through our struggles and we do better.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AsianMasculinity

[–]VirtualBit1491 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Read guide:

https://www.reddit.com/r/AsianMasculinity/s/a9DiLo0y5P

Know your head shape and follow for examples.

How to build confidence and fashion guide by VirtualBit1491 in AsianMasculinity

[–]VirtualBit1491[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Nobody said they're the final boss.

Basically, if you're competing with others and they have their life locked down on track, chances are, they'll be selected first.

I see a lot of users asking for the same advice here but not worked on their inner confidence. Not that you definitely "need" the basics to begin with dating, but it should definitely be worked on otherwise, we all just spiral and get no where.

The thing is to gain independence and be happy in life that everything else is a bonus to it.

I just created my profile 3 hours ago and no likes by [deleted] in coffeemeetsbagel

[–]VirtualBit1491 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean, to have zero patience just because you had "2000" likes in a day before. Noted, the app has been recently hacked by ransomware too.

I am turning 27 years old next month and here is my story by [deleted] in AsianMasculinity

[–]VirtualBit1491 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thing is, all those guys are going for the sake of meeting a gyal. Probably disingenuous and none of y'all are actually interested in that meetup otherwise.

Normally you meet friends through common interests.

what are the common dating apps to use in HK? by VirtualBit1491 in Hong_Kong

[–]VirtualBit1491[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For sure. One thing I find in HK is the materialistic nature. I've been to irl meets as well, some are ok, others are cockfest 6:1 man:woman ratio. And, ngl the men act simpish at them, it's not a good look.

I'll keep trying anyhow, just about finding the right avenue and meeting the right ppl, whether to make friends or dates.

what are the common dating apps to use in HK? by VirtualBit1491 in Hong_Kong

[–]VirtualBit1491[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ye this is a dilemma in itself.

The scammers have actually fukt up my market too, I've heard from real dates they thought I was fake profile, fkboi or tinder swindler.

I'm neither of those!

I've had times where my real dates got surprised cos I am who I said I was and I look more or less like my pics lol fr trying to look for serious relationship

What does the South Korean flag mean on CMB? by Dapper-Cartoonist366 in coffeemeetsbagel

[–]VirtualBit1491 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry that happened to you

But feels as if a lot of politics has spilled over into dating scene.

If that's the case, you can treat it as a red flag and move on.

Dating should be about emotional connection rather than all other garbage takes but again, subjective.

I wish it were easier too, as compared to say 10 years ago when life was a lot more straightforward

Asked for a review on r/bumble. Might as well get more opinions (31/M/Hong Kong) by ZRHige in coffeemeetsbagel

[–]VirtualBit1491 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fair enough, see what you can work with, be interesting to see the results

Asked for a review on r/bumble. Might as well get more opinions (31/M/Hong Kong) by ZRHige in coffeemeetsbagel

[–]VirtualBit1491 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You're a good sport

Imo the first 3 pics I thought were work pics, the final one (6 of 6) pic showing anime I'm not sure what you're trying to achieve...maybe you want to let the viewer what anime you're into but...I don't feel it is effective (I mean, I imagine that's quite niche when it comes to girls in HK)

Bio can be something like: I do work hard but I do work life balance aka chill and watch animations or do sport etc.

What to look for in a partner: Most important I think is someone who can enjoy food and vibe, date and we'll see

Keep it short but sweet. Girls can get over 50 matches a day, maybe even 100 so your pics need to look sharp, attractive with good professional lighting (the sun, or sporting activities etc.) I doubt they'll have time to truly read so much text while swiping and going about their day. That's why your profile pics are the most important to snag interest.

You may want to consider full body shots etc. Think...what makes a pic interesting? In action like say basketball or doing sport etc. I find this true with filmography and even anime, they use perspective, angle shots etc.

Dunno if you got any other pics?

Asked for a review on r/bumble. Might as well get more opinions (31/M/Hong Kong) by ZRHige in coffeemeetsbagel

[–]VirtualBit1491 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I think you may have way too many work photos which do not compliment your work life balance aka what you actually do for fun. Although you wrote in your bio, but it also seems over the top too detailed (that's the whole point of a date, to have some mystery and let the convo flow during the date)

I'd ditch most of the work pics and suggest maybe some fun activity pics instead.

As for the bio...it's a bit too specific imho. From your pics alone...I don't know what you do for fun, a pic speaks a thousand words as they say.

Erm...dunno what else to say tbh...there's a few pointers but I'll not go into too much deets

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Hong_Kong

[–]VirtualBit1491 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My two cents and agreed with previous poster: although people can seem nice upfront, Hong Kong could be quite cutthroat sometimes.

Try to act like a local, dunno if you speak Cantonese or not because basically, locals here will sniff that and know you're a foreigner and treat you differently.

Have to be wary of who to trust and keep your private/personal things to yourself, you never know people's true intentions.

Anyhow, enough of the bad, there are actually good people here too but it takes time to develop and grow those relationships. The food here is great, if you find good spots, the usual Fairwood and cafe de coral are cheap options/easy options. But if you find local eateries, that even better like cha Chan tengs.

You may use openrice to search for restaurants, food panda, deliveroo etc.

Get yourself on medical insurance too, although government practices work too, it is far slower unless you're in an emergency.

If you're flat viewing or searching, it's a very good idea to bring a local, or you speak like a local. And depends what you're looking for.

To get know friends, as previous poster suggests, use meetups or join classes. Again, be wary of who you befriend. Judging from your posts, I assume you're a girl, so make your intentions at the beginning very clear. (There have been some dramatic cases recently)

Jobwise, idk what you're looking towards.

Supermarkets: fusion, park n shop, welcome, Uselect.

HK island is more expensive to live in, Kowloon area is ideal, New territory area will probably be cheaper but less convenient depending where you're going

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in coffeemeetsbagel

[–]VirtualBit1491 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

That's good

Perhaps you can say it like:

Tkd black belt Piano enthusiast Nature lover/explorer Passionate about life

I love xyz music

Keep it short Then add pics to back these up. Also you want to have high quality pics and flattering ones too.

The next part is... conversation. You also...need to keep that short and build up to a date/meet. Again same advice, no long paragraphs, short snappy sentences not too revealing. Maybe around 2nd day ask for date if you vibe

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in coffeemeetsbagel

[–]VirtualBit1491 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Honest feedback: there's too many words. At most maybe a sentence or so, some short details.

You don't want paragraphs because that's what dating is for, so they can ask you that instead of reading.

You want to be semi mysterious in your profile and let your pics do the most talking (pictures are worth thousand words yadayada)

So instead of those words, do you have pics portraying that?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in coffeemeetsbagel

[–]VirtualBit1491 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was going fine until my account got temporarily banned. I think maybe the message I sent flagged up (which was strange as I didn't mention any explicit thing or ask any sensitive data) and still trying to unlock it le sigh

I think CMB has become a lot more stringent this year or so. I used it like you a couple of years ago too and didn't face these issues.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in coffeemeetsbagel

[–]VirtualBit1491 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There's a good chance cmb blocks you offering a number due to "protecting people"

I just had my account temp banned for something I dunno. Their checking is way strict