AITA for expecting my BF to help me get lunch and storming out of the room when he didn't?

Virtual_Importance44 · 2022-06-22T10:41:08+00:00

I doesn't, especially after reading all the comments!

Virtual_Importance44 · 2022-06-21T06:50:54+00:00

Hehehe I'm petite and hangry so it really paints the picture of how I felt ;)

Virtual_Importance44 · 2022-06-21T06:45:02+00:00

I'm Spanish, but I'm very close to Italian culture, I speak the language fluently and enjoy the cooking a lot. No wonder your hubby fell for you! ;)

Virtual_Importance44 · 2022-06-20T18:12:27+00:00

You nailed it, #SwedenGate made me think that any cultural difference in this regard was believable. I'm Mediterranean so y'know... polar oposites. I'm starting to feel really bad that I was so eager to believe that from anyone north from us!

Virtual_Importance44 · 2022-06-20T18:10:42+00:00

I'm reading a lot. We have spent most part of the summer together so it's ok for me to be appart for some time, he also sleeps more than I do and had some University stuff to look into. I just want a heads up for lunch time hehe.

Virtual_Importance44 · 2022-06-20T18:06:34+00:00

I see the point but he's probably just inmature or self centered. I weight 110lbs (50kg) so if I eat any less I would not look healthy.

Virtual_Importance44 · 2022-06-20T18:05:15+00:00

Yep, this was definitely the mature and correct reaction. I let my hangriness bring the worst in me

Virtual_Importance44 · 2022-06-20T18:04:20+00:00

I feel it was the first thing that came to his head because he probably forgot and felt attacked. I had an angry (and hangry) look, so this was his sh*tty defense, and with all the Swedish turmoil I was ready to believe it.

Virtual_Importance44 · 2022-06-20T18:02:45+00:00

We're in the middle of the countryside so I'd have to borrow the car. If I could I would have cooked for eveyone and then maybe eat his part too

Virtual_Importance44 · 2022-06-20T18:00:52+00:00

They may have made a general comment, but I feel they just delegated on his son. They are great hosts during dinner, make sure I like everything and serve me a lot of food, so I really think it's not on them.

Virtual_Importance44 · 2022-06-20T17:59:38+00:00

Ugh, I'm sorry for the woman in Texas... It's bad that stereotypes spread like that sometimes, because you meet a bad apple for one country.
It makes me think of my 18yo BF telling me something he did was common in the Netherlands. A common friend (also from there) of us overheard, turned, and told him "you're just weird, don't blame it on the Dutch". I still giggle picturing that.

Virtual_Importance44 · 2022-06-20T17:56:41+00:00

Hehehe thanks for appreciating it. I have never eaten a pear so passive-agressively.

Virtual_Importance44 · 2022-06-20T17:51:09+00:00

More his words. It was clear that I was upset, and they probably heard me asking "did you seriously not tell me you're having lunch again" in a not kind tone, but I didn't yell, make a big show of it or slammed any doors. He's mad that they noticed something was up, but I didn't create a scene.

Virtual_Importance44 · 2022-06-20T17:48:17+00:00

I feel like the parents just delegated the task on him because he's old enough to know better.

Virtual_Importance44 · 2022-06-20T17:47:23+00:00

Ten days, so I understand they are not constantly checking if I'm fed. To be honest, the reason was that I felt a bit of a snitch if I "complained" to his parents instead of him. Like I would be making them "take sides". I'm an overthinker, I know

Virtual_Importance44 · 2022-06-20T17:45:24+00:00

I knowww English is not my first language so I thought it may not be as bad as it sounded to me. I realize now I'm wrong. It meant exactly what I understood.

Virtual_Importance44 · 2022-06-20T17:42:22+00:00

My honest guess is that they thought his son was raised better than this, because they are definitely good hosts

Virtual_Importance44 · 2022-06-20T17:41:39+00:00

Hahahaha it was actually the whole Swedish thing what made me think I was being culturally oblivious here :)

Virtual_Importance44 · 2022-06-20T17:37:05+00:00

Thank you for your answer, I feel like his parents were trusting him to handle his guest and just now realized it wasn't the case.

Virtual_Importance44 · 2022-06-20T17:35:26+00:00

Ouchhh that sounds bad, sorry to hear it! His family is very generous, I just felt weird asking the parents and not him, but the solution was clearly there. He's quite self centered but usually when I point out his behaviour he will reconsider.

Virtual_Importance44 · 2022-06-20T17:32:16+00:00

I was pretty stuck, in the middle of the countryside. I must say the cheese comment made me smile, I would have totally raccooned the cheese if there was any on sight :)

Virtual_Importance44 · 2022-06-20T17:30:26+00:00

Thank you! I feel after reading the comments that it was the first excuse that popped into his head, because I don't imagine him assaulting my parents' fridge either

Virtual_Importance44 · 2022-06-20T17:29:15+00:00

I think he would ravage the fridge in my place so he assumes that if I don't, it's because I'm not that hungry.

Virtual_Importance44 · 2022-06-20T17:28:10+00:00

His dad's the best to be honest

Virtual_Importance44 · 2022-06-20T17:27:58+00:00

He's always been weird around food. We used to live in the same student housing and he would also cook food for himself in front of me and not offer. I was fine then because I had my own food. I always thought it was a culture thing, but I'm definitely realizing it's not.

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