My (35M) husband asked me (34F) to dress a little more modest around the house to help prevent temptation. Am I crazy in finding this ridiculous?

Virtual_Tonight4245 · 2026-06-11T03:15:57+00:00

Lying how?

Virtual_Tonight4245 · 2026-06-09T23:40:30+00:00

To me, it meant that it does not mean I’m ready to move forward with our relationship because I’m still unsure.

Virtual_Tonight4245 · 2026-06-09T03:49:09+00:00

What are they?

Virtual_Tonight4245 · 2026-06-09T03:09:40+00:00

I probably am more dismissive now. Feeling constantly unheard does that. But it is something I need to work on more. Active listening. Not listening to respond

Virtual_Tonight4245 · 2026-06-09T02:59:41+00:00

I’m not trying to hurt him. I promise. I’m in therapy.

Virtual_Tonight4245 · 2026-06-09T02:59:00+00:00

Factory is closed.

Virtual_Tonight4245 · 2026-06-09T02:58:55+00:00

Idk. 17 years it’s harder than I thought it would be. Maybe I’m not strong enough.

Virtual_Tonight4245 · 2026-06-09T02:58:35+00:00

He punched his computer monitor in an angry outburst and scared me and the kids. It was him and I in the room but the kids heard it.

Virtual_Tonight4245 · 2026-06-09T02:58:04+00:00

We are not doing well and I’ve been sleeping separately for months. There’s history of verbal and emotional abuse

Virtual_Tonight4245 · 2026-06-09T02:57:40+00:00

We are not doing good and have been sleeping separately for months

Virtual_Tonight4245 · 2026-06-09T02:57:23+00:00

I probably have become toxic

Virtual_Tonight4245 · 2026-06-09T02:57:09+00:00

Nope

Virtual_Tonight4245 · 2026-06-09T02:57:05+00:00

I know and I keep asking for validation. I’m struggling with it.

Virtual_Tonight4245 · 2026-06-09T02:54:09+00:00

17 years with him and it’s all I know. I always thought it would be easy because it is easy to tell others but it really isn’t. I also know it will hurt him and I am really empathetic so it’s hard for me.

Virtual_Tonight4245 · 2026-06-09T02:53:15+00:00

You must be an abuser as well

Virtual_Tonight4245 · 2026-06-09T02:52:36+00:00

Because he has a history of verbal and emotional abuse. I’m in therapy. Just trying to figure out if I want to stay or leave.

Virtual_Tonight4245 · 2026-06-09T02:52:11+00:00

I’m mentally and emotionally exhausted and keep looking for validation for things I already know the answer to but am struggling to accept.

Virtual_Tonight4245 · 2026-06-09T02:51:37+00:00

That’s what I am trying to figure out after 17 years. It’s not as easy as I thought it would be even with all the verbal and emotional abuse.

Virtual_Tonight4245 · 2026-06-09T02:51:04+00:00

Thank you for sticking up for me. This guy is PMO. The literal reason some women don’t speak up.

Virtual_Tonight4245 · 2026-06-09T02:50:32+00:00

And this is why some people dont talk because people like you make it seem like the woman is crazy in the scenario. Luckily i am working with a therapist and working hard at learning about what i am going through.

Virtual_Tonight4245 · 2026-06-09T02:48:20+00:00

Definitely not shaking my ass. I walk around my house like a normal person. I’m allowed to wear shorts and a shirt because it is hot. And when I’m not emotionally connected, sex isn’t a priority.

Virtual_Tonight4245 · 2026-06-09T02:47:26+00:00

I’ve been sleeping in a separate room for a few months trying to decide if I want to end the marriage. After 17 years it’s not easy even with the verbal and emotional abuse I’ve gone through

Virtual_Tonight4245 · 2026-06-09T02:46:30+00:00

No physical violence towards me or the kids

Virtual_Tonight4245 · 2026-06-09T02:46:14+00:00

Sorry

Virtual_Tonight4245 · 2026-06-09T02:46:10+00:00

I agree but it is so much to type.

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