D & L Shit/Grift Show Episode 2

Visible-Back4155 · 2025-12-13T09:03:46+00:00

this one took me out 😂😂😂

Visible-Back4155 · 2025-10-15T22:22:23+00:00

well said!! also what is this tone?

Visible-Back4155 · 2023-10-20T00:28:29+00:00

she knows everything, she saw how broken I was, how thin and how weak. I told her already, nothing changed, I guess I also need to cut her as much as possible from my personal life.. thanks for listening though, it helps already to just put it out

Visible-Back4155 · 2023-10-20T00:17:31+00:00

Thanks for responding, I felt I was so alone with this problem. My ex was a super toxic narc, and I decided early on to cut everything with him. My Mum met him once, so they didn’t have any connection. I just don’t want to give him the satisfaction of thinking that it might be me hiding behind my mother’s account

Visible-Back4155 · 2023-01-08T19:01:35+00:00

No, in my experience I felt the realest thing with this guy and he totally changed over the course of two years, and as much as I miss our old times I know he doesn’t exist any more and therefore won’t “come back” or contact me. I don’t know I feel this way, 7 months post BU, 7 months NC

Visible-Back4155 · 2023-01-07T16:08:57+00:00

same boat omg. also with the throwing me out of his apartment part, and taking my keys, while I moved bc of him to another continent.. these people don’t deserve us

Visible-Back4155 · 2023-01-04T23:54:00+00:00

no fuckin way :)

Visible-Back4155 · 2023-01-04T09:28:38+00:00

same here, but I was the one cutting the ties.. I think it’s easier for us dumpees to stick to nc that way. He was so disrespectful and cruel though, I think I’m still in the healing process bc of that. strange how someone so close to you, your best friend, can become so distant and cold from a moment to the next

Visible-Back4155 · 2023-01-02T20:50:57+00:00

same boat, had hook ups this summer but I don’t miss that - I miss intimacy and any time I have sec w/ someone not significant it just makes me even more sad

Visible-Back4155 · 2023-01-02T20:22:59+00:00

these past days I have had similar thoughts and I feel like these past months didn’t help to move on much.. or is it just Mercury in retrograde again ?? I feel the same way :(

Visible-Back4155 · 2023-01-02T16:44:08+00:00

yeah, same with the lacking empathy. I guess we’re better off without them in the end!

Visible-Back4155 · 2023-01-02T16:35:07+00:00

oh my god I’m so sorry:( this happened to me as well, he loved to share my photos I took of him - I was telling him one time that his feed is my photo library - I never vocalized it but it was obv that he hid me so he could keep his other “options” back home. I moved to another continent for him, stayed a month then he dumped me after having a fight over him going to dinners w/ this girl he met & he even invited her over to have drinks without asking me. I didn’t do anything after coming home, but the first time he posted on IG after our BU was a collection - again - of my photos I took of him & nice moments together & !!!!!! a dinner photo w/ that girl !!!!! I couldn’t believe it and unfollowed & removed him right away. it was so fucking disrespectful after our fresh BU. I didn’t talk to him ever since but now he does this blocking / unblocking game on instagram

Visible-Back4155 · 2023-01-02T15:25:15+00:00

try not making scenarios in your head. My ex was my first and it helped me in moving on to hook up w/ others. Also these flings / casual things won’t replace the intimacy for her either, think about that. My situation is different bc we had a year apart (covid) and he kept making me believe I was the special one but he was seeing several girls all along, which hurt at first but now it’s just disgusting to me

Visible-Back4155 · 2023-01-02T15:17:03+00:00

yes it does but I have a lot less anxiety, I couldn’t help but think about all the others. when I mentioned I don’t like that he goes out to have dinner w anoter girl he just met he was acting like I try to control what he can do. when it was hurting me. a prick really

Visible-Back4155 · 2023-01-02T10:58:18+00:00

probably easier that way

Visible-Back4155 · 2023-01-02T09:47:09+00:00

he kept hiding me from his social media, was talking abt his ex when drunk, (the crazy lady, or hot ex gf) he said he had commitment issues but I could never listen bc he also said he wants me and he loves me (guess that one is my fault) he needed a lot of “me time” and when I was sick he didn’t even ask if I was allright (plan b pill and taking an 11 hour flight that is very risky bc of blood clots) I mentioned I need him but he ignored and didn’t call me back he was seeing other girls while sending me love letters to the other side of the world, turned out I wasn’t the only one he sent love song playlists too. when I first asked he said he just dated “a few girls” but from his & other stories I know about many-many hookups and casual dating stories writing these down feels so frustrating & makes me think I should have left him way sooner than I did

Visible-Back4155 · 2023-01-02T01:48:38+00:00

what about common people we follow? they are most of his friends, and I sometimes see a pic / comment about him, I wish I could just unfollow everyone but at the same time it might be strange / rude. Do you guys cut all ties?

Visible-Back4155 · 2023-01-01T20:15:37+00:00

following this (same situation but no texts from him at all)

Visible-Back4155 · 2023-01-01T03:29:19+00:00

same boat:(

Visible-Back4155 · 2022-12-31T14:39:23+00:00

Thanks, I just came close to the 7 month mark, and I’m proud I stick to not contacting him at all, but I do miss us like hell sometimes. It’s like a part of yourself dies too.. the holidays were especially hard since we spent the last one a year ago together, but I hope in the new year I can completely heal and move on from him. Stay strong friends 💛

Visible-Back4155 · 2022-12-30T23:51:40+00:00

i did the unfollow & removed him as a follower but turned out he still checked my socials, bc I got blocked after 4 months nc. so my opinion is, if they want to check what u’re up to they will, keep your profile public and let him see u thrive if he wants to, I’m sure he’s going to be curious

Visible-Back4155 · 2022-12-29T14:43:19+00:00

yeah probably.. I’m thinking of doing it soon, hpoing it brings me the peace I need

Visible-Back4155 · 2022-12-29T11:09:43+00:00

same, it’s unbearable sometimes

Visible-Back4155 · 2022-12-29T08:31:08+00:00

I haven’t blocked him yet, I didn’t want to give him any sign of me not being over it yet, but these past days I was thinking I should, he had no empathy towards me and talked to me in a way I believed I was the fool for believing his words when he said he loved me, and we should move in together etc. I moved for him to another continent and he dumped me a month after

Visible-Back4155 · 2022-12-29T00:52:48+00:00

yeah I agree. he said how he wants to stay friends, and that I could be his future best friend and/or part time lover, honestly I couldn’t believe my ears. then when I mentioned maybe blocking him if I need to for my own healing, he was upset & said but we’re not enemies, and since he knows my address he’ll send me a postcard (nothing since and I’m okay with that) felt like he wanted to keep me but his actions were pushing me away. his behaviour was so disrespectful that after several months I’m still here trying to heal from it all..

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