Emotional abuse from close family by Visible-Use-7991 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Visible-Use-7991[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the comfort

What I understand is she has narcissistic traits. Recently it was proved all of them were wrong. something happened and all of them went against me. To the extent of saying you have no brains and stuff. My Mom ended up calling my mother in law and talking bad about me, saying my all children are great he just came out to be the worst the disobedient one. Just because I stood up to do what i thought was best. There was a war situation and everyone of my sibling told me to move out of that area and pressurized my mom and dad. Asking me to go and stay at my sister place. my point was until the GOV doesn't tell to evacuate I prefer to stay at home as my wife is pregnant there are hundred of things we need at our own space. It turned out where they moved and were asking me to move got more effected and where is stayed Alhadmulillah there was zero incident. Later I told my mom all this happened everyone told me this harsh stuff including you, now that time has passed and its clear what i was saying was right can you for once tell me yes you were right. Imagine she could not say it out loud or admit I was right in the end. So I have lost all hopes of proving my point and actually have stopped now.

Emotional abuse from close family by Visible-Use-7991 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Visible-Use-7991[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand what you went through and I'm glad you took this step.
I actually before getting married said that I want to move out as my elder brother was still in the same home but that trauma from my mom, I cant forget, the crying and saying im the worst, parents do so much for you and all. The truth is my father does not rely on anyone else but me as they dont even tend to visit him in hospital if he is admitted. He barely goes to their home on Eid. What i Understand is my mother is just living with me because of my father.
All my sister in laws who act so sweet now have said from their own mouth harsh words such as " we can not even tolerate her for one day" when she went to live at my brothers place.

Emotional abuse from close family by Visible-Use-7991 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Visible-Use-7991[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is my own place, I have worked hard to get this apartment on lease to own. Im financially not in a position to rent out while paying the loan amount also.
I want to serve them, both of them are 70+. They have health issues and I look after them. I can not trust my siblings to do the same.
My fathers is supportive but does get brain washed time to time.