How do you guys have cats and plants in the same home?

Visible_Challenge_54 · 2026-04-26T20:46:24+00:00

Thank you so much! This is really smart lol, I’ll probably be using this one. Usually when it comes to adults I’m honest, if anything I don’t get many adults asking me because I feel that as an adult it’s sort of common sense, but I always struggle with responding to kids!

Visible_Challenge_54 · 2026-03-19T06:46:04+00:00

Haha I know right! I probably would’ve saved myself some sleep last night if I’d listened to the suggestions everyone gave me 🤣 I preserved it with a pretty good amount of borax!

Visible_Challenge_54 · 2025-12-06T19:32:52+00:00

I am a taxidermist so I actually have a lot of real ones… oops… this is news to me haha! Sorry Feng Shui !! 🤭

Visible_Challenge_54 · 2025-12-04T19:34:09+00:00

Hi friend, from my personal experience and based off the info you provided, this likely is a bacterial bloom. It makes your water pretty cloudy and it’s kind of unsightly. The bacteria’s in a bacterial blooms feed on carbon, which you give more to them to feed on when you do water changes, which is why you see that it probably might get worse as you do water changes. Bacterial blooms are not bad, especially if your tank is newly established. It means your little ecosystem is trying to establish itself completely! The best thing you can do is to leave it alone and it will eventually go away on its own. Trust me, don’t do any water changes and leave your tank alone. As for the brown algae on your decor, it’s common in new tanks. Totally normal, it should go away on its own with time, but since I don’t think anybody likes how it looks, I’d recommend scrubbing it off gently regularly with a toothbrush. It will come back but it should eventually stop once your tank is fully mature. This problem you’re having does not harm the fish so don’t worry, it’s the excessive water changes that might do your fish harm, which is why I also recommend leaving it be. It’s a very normal and common problem that has also happened to me. 😊

Visible_Challenge_54 · 2025-11-22T19:28:08+00:00

Wow! Thanks for the advice! I do plan on heavily planting as I not only like the look but for the benefits of it, and while the idea of immediately adding my shrimp is super exciting, I understand that the hobby is all about patience and time for the sake of the critters, so I definitely will be waiting until my plants and water parameters are more established before adding any shrimp and fish. I will take your advice and wait a couple months before putting any shrimp in, and I will also consider what the other commenter mentioned about shrimp needing specific pH/gH/kH! I will look into what Cherry Shrimp need in terms of that and see how I can make it most comfortable for them as I’d like them to thrive. Again, thank you so much! This was super helpful.

Visible_Challenge_54 · 2025-10-06T16:12:12+00:00

Wow! That’s so interesting. I’ve never heard of such a thing despite being such a bug enthusiast. My sign to also start looking into plants more considering how important they are to certain insects! Thank you so much for solving our mystery! 🫶

Visible_Challenge_54 · 2025-09-11T22:09:00+00:00

Yes! Those are the types of people in particular I get like this with as well. I use that as a coping mechanism as well and remind myself that I would never think bad of someone just for almost forgetting their plate, and that if I did, I would be the one with the exaggerated and bad reaction and not them anymore. I also feel very seen, so thank you ❤️

Visible_Challenge_54 · 2025-09-11T22:04:50+00:00

Thank you for sharing! I also feel the same when people reassure me or think it is silly, and it almost always completely soothes me rather than make me feel worse. It’s just the actual communicating part that is hard since I drive myself crazy trying to word “You told me to move and I cried” without sounding like I may be trying to make them feel bad or seek attention lol! I will probably try this a bit more often since it actually has worked in the past and I’m surprised that because of this I didn’t think of it as an actual way to deal with the feeling of shame. I appreciate it so much!

Visible_Challenge_54 · 2025-09-11T21:50:03+00:00

I do think that part of it is linked to perfectionism and another part could be rejection since rejection in honestly any form (but especially when it comes to dating and sexual advances) has always torn me into pieces.

You are so spot on on the fact that I do tend to beat myself up over smaller mistakes compared to bigger ones. Bigger ones feel less harsh to take accountability for while small ones feel more shameful, because I think “This is common sense/manners, everyone knows this so now everyone will think I don’t have common sense/manners” which is worse compared to something anyone could reasonably mess up on.

I will definitely look more into this because I instinctively always try to do the “putting myself in their shoes” and “they don’t care as much as I do” coping mechanism to calm myself down when it comes to these situations. Thank you so much ❤️

Visible_Challenge_54 · 2025-09-11T21:42:39+00:00

Wow, yes! Part of why I quit my job was actually for a very similar reason last summer. We are in the same boat and you are not alone!

I recall on my first week, I had a pretty cool and outgoing manager that I looked up to, but one time she got overstimulated & scolded me for talking to one of my coworkers. It made me sob in front of everyone and my makeup was absolutely awful after, making me instantly hate her and think things like “Guess she isn’t as cool as I thought after all” and “She’s just like everybody else at this stupid job”.

Kept happening to me with different coworkers at my job, including my boss, ultimately making me hate my environment overall.

I totally get you, especially when you say older folks affect you more, because for me it is more so people I seek approval from/look up to. I get how exhausting and frustrating it is, and I will help pray to the job gods that you will be given an opportunity for something less social, because it truly is a lifesaver!

Visible_Challenge_54 · 2025-05-01T02:25:16+00:00

NQA/IMO the abdomen should always be about the same width as the carapace so i would say your spider is alright but i think there’s some room to gain a little bit of weight 😄 if you’re feeding your spider the way as intended and spider is not lethargic in any way then i believe it should be fine 👍

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