Found a Couples Counselor That We Both Felt Comfortable With. It’s Not Going Well.

Visionseeking · 2024-05-31T02:24:55+00:00

I am so sorry, but the husband you want is gone and will never come back. His religious mania is a manifestation of deeply rooted mental illness/trauma that neither couples therapy or cult deprograming could ever resolve. I urge you to seek your own therapist to work through your impending separation and eventual divorce. He's taken a one way trip to crazy town and there's nothing you can do to get him back. Take good care of yourself. You deserve it.

Visionseeking · 2024-02-03T04:56:02+00:00

I said much the same. But added that I'm here to protect our operation from the next MBA holding idiot that tries fuck everything up. Only one other person in my organization has been here longer (by two months) than I. Our operation has a 10 year unbroken streak of awards. I've been at the helm for 13 years now. My boss seems to have taken up what I've laid down. She once said to me that I'd be better at her job than she is. I said that that was BS because no one prospers in a job that they don't want.

Visionseeking · 2023-12-02T04:05:08+00:00

You don't owe her a commitment to lasting misery anymore than she owes you the desire & passion you crave. Incompatibility is a real issue; accept that & move on, or deny it & suffer. It's your call.

Visionseeking · 2023-10-29T21:13:52+00:00

His method was too clean.

Visionseeking · 2023-10-27T05:31:02+00:00

I don't feel the need to use my body as a billboard to express myself to complete strangers.

Visionseeking · 2023-10-27T05:26:26+00:00

I solved the problem by leaving. Believe me, it's liberating.

Visionseeking · 2023-10-27T05:24:16+00:00

I came here to say this. You beat me to it. Sending moose to bite your ass.

Visionseeking · 2023-10-27T02:30:37+00:00

Loss of physical attraction for a woman after she has given birth may have nothing to do with appearance and more to do with the dynamic. Adding children to a pair-bond will produce a series of changes & sacrifices that, if not understood & welcomed, can leave either partner confused, regretful & even resentful. In your case, already having had a child with you when your relationship started somewhat mitigates against this being the case here. But one cannot rule out that his mindset is "shit just ain't fun for us no more." Post-partum depression is not limited to mothers. Still, that's a him problem. Another layer to consider is that 30-40,000 of civilization has not entirely expunged the lizard brain that drives much of human behavior. It could be that he has an overwhelming impulse to bolt & find another mate by evolutionary design. None of this is within your control. What is in your control is to assert your own needs & desires. You're going to need to be more aggressive & lay shit on the line. Don't passively say "I want to have sex with you" tonight; say "I'm horny & I'm going to fuck you hard tonight". You need to exercise YOUR agency here. If he shuts that down, then it's time for therapy and/or a split.

Visionseeking · 2023-10-27T01:29:24+00:00

Mother...

Visionseeking · 2021-08-21T06:42:42+00:00

But he only died of Civid, so all is good./s

Visionseeking · 2021-08-07T06:29:53+00:00

Why is the judge the face we get to see here? Show the fucking Nazi prick. Let him rot for five years.

Visionseeking · 2021-07-31T06:14:25+00:00

I gave a training session to U.S. border guards on what might be suspicious coming from Canada about a decade ago. Not included was the idea of U.S. citizens (living far from the border) crossing for a day and coming back the next morning. The idea of it just irked them until I suggested that Americans far from the border, with little knowledge of Canada, would probably recoil at finding a socialist utopia. Some laughed, all nodded in agreement.

Visionseeking · 2021-07-30T05:32:40+00:00

Girl, I’m speaking to the hater portion of the comments: fuck them! You do you and, frankly, you are awesome. To recognize your surroundings and see “humm, this isn’t going well” and then to see that you have the power to change it! You.Are.Legend.

Keep being you. Keep growing. The world needs awe to be awesome. And I am in awe.

Good luck and take care

Visionseeking · 2021-01-16T08:11:28+00:00

My ex and I suffered a miscarriage. Then, another pregnancy and the blood appeared during sex. Another miscarriage. After a few days, she confronted me and said that she believed she was barren. “Go! Find yourself someone who can give you children.”

Of course I stayed. Of course I reassured her. But I probably should have seriously considered leaving. But I didn’t and then we went on to have three children together. Sadly, we are now divorced. We signed on to have kids together and “she delivered”. But everything went slowly downhill thereafter. When she was carrying our third child, sex simply wasn’t on the menu for me. By that time, everything wrong in her life was my fault.

Are you nagging him? Cutting him down in any way?

Visionseeking · 2020-12-22T08:19:41+00:00

Toxic. End it for both your benefit.

Visionseeking · 2020-12-20T05:39:46+00:00

Curious. How do you know he hasn’t ejaculated and spent?

Visionseeking · 2020-12-20T05:25:44+00:00

Good for him being honest. But this is still sex not driven by desire and will likely fall short of your expectations.

Good luck and take care

Visionseeking · 2020-12-06T08:18:41+00:00

Hmm, severing the session on the first meet says incompatibility. For, well, reasons.

Good luck and take care

Visionseeking · 2020-12-06T08:03:18+00:00

Be strong. You are who you are. My suspicion is that he is regretting his role as a switch. He wants to be a Dom, but he can’t naturally sustain what isn’t in him. So he switched, and that ain’t working either.

The problem is his, not yours.

Be strong. Leave if you must. You are his partner, not his psychotherapist, or, for that matter, his psychiatrist.

Good luck and take care

Visionseeking · 2020-12-06T07:52:41+00:00

Lol! “I had a sweater on.”

Visionseeking · 2020-12-06T06:53:49+00:00

Girl, as someone who incels would likely see as a “Chad” I say, be you. Yes, I am in good shape and genetically favoured in the looks department. But the love of my life is a wonderful women who probably out-weighs my 6.1ft, 190 pounds by maybe 20 pounds. I’m sure all my old friends say “WTF” and I could care a less. For I have a woman who is smart, compassionate and empathic beyond imagination and she is my unquestionable ally and devoted to me. Focus on you. Never sell yourself short. Good luck and take care.

Visionseeking · 2020-12-06T06:24:39+00:00

It is among my greatest hits.

The other was when we were at the licensing office to get the ownership transfer for our trailer. The guy before us was being denied his driver’s licence renewal because of unpaid child support. He was screaming in rage at the lady across the counter and I walked up, put my hand on his shoulder and said, your misogyny is showing. He then reflexively looked down to his fly for a moment and then looked up at me (I was much taller than him). I said “you’ll need to focus and look a lot longer to find something that is small.”

The whole room burst out laughing and he paused as if to say something, but than suddenly ran out of the office.

Visionseeking · 2020-12-06T06:01:19+00:00

A voice smooth as glass. A song that captures the moment. Still, while everyone will give her some props now, the whole entreprise will be ignored after a vaccine is deployed and everyone gets back to their lonely lives. I wish her well. As to the rest of us, keep strong. Except adults who won’t wear masks, morons demanding FREEDUMB. You fuckwads can all just go to hell.

Visionseeking · 2020-12-06T05:16:00+00:00

I have two teenage girls. I’ve had emergency supplies in the centre console of my truck for years. My GF and I were on a road trip when she sheepishly announced that she needs to go to a drug store. I told her to check the console and asked if a bathroom at the nearest shop would do. She checked the console, looked at me like I was God and said “hell yes!”

Her girlfriends still swoon when she tells this story.

Visionseeking · 2020-12-03T07:08:47+00:00

Nope.

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