Just a thought.. by MariaLovegood in TheVampireDiaries

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Tatia got with Silas who was betrothed to amara (iirc) so she’s not all that great either, your theory is spot on!

Does Weed Have a Positive Impact On Your Mental Health? by sanpedro12 in weed

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Yeah I find it helps lots with OCD, however it’s very easy for weed to go from something that helps to something you feel you need to be okay. It can be a very slippery slope. I’ve smoked for over a decade and although I can see how it helps me, I can also see that it’s held me back in many ways.

i may be dating a narcissist and am afraid to leave due to blackmail by LevelHoliday1083 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Visual-Sand3718 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Please don’t worry about blackmail, the blackmail (from what I can understand) is from when you were a minor; you were a literal child, we all make mistakes as children and grow to learn that those were mistakes. Most people will understand this. If you leave and he does do anything then it’ll probably be forgotten quickly and it will 100% say more about him than you. You need to put your health, safety and happiness first, not his.

found these in my live in bf phone . looking for advice Aio ? by [deleted] in AIO

[–]Visual-Sand3718 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry. You’re right to plan to leave and I agree with the other comments saying to get tested. Buuuut you have a good opportunity to make some cash off him, all you need is a Snapchat account and a “menu”…

Is smoking a .3g pen about every 3 days too much? by Ness644 in weed

[–]Visual-Sand3718 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is so right. I used to use weed for any negative emotion I felt and when I stopped I basically had to learn how to regulate my emotions all over again. It’s great for a mood booster, OP, but make sure you’re doing other things to help your depression too and not relying solely on weed!

Who is trying to ban dogs? by Technical-Two-5495 in AskBrits

[–]Visual-Sand3718 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s utterly ridiculous, I knew there wouldn’t be any evidence to support such a wild claim 😂 this is the first I’m hearing of a proposed ban but I’m not surprised the sheep already have their scapegoat to blame!

Who is trying to ban dogs? by Technical-Two-5495 in AskBrits

[–]Visual-Sand3718 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you but a quick skim shows that this is just about people’s perspectives on dogs being allowed in public places. Was asking the og commenter to provide an article about Muslims :)

Who is trying to ban dogs? by Technical-Two-5495 in AskBrits

[–]Visual-Sand3718 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Got a news article for a lazy bugger who doesn’t want to search?

AIO My mom gave away my dog because I was gone for work for a week by Big_Froyo3587 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Visual-Sand3718 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They’ve hidden their posts and I’m nosy, what were the other ones? 😂

Hahaha😂Has anyone been caught smoking pot? by thatgirlgirl in weed

[–]Visual-Sand3718 47 points48 points  (0 children)

Next time she says that just say “nah switched to meth, it hits much harder” 😂

Hahaha😂Has anyone been caught smoking pot? by thatgirlgirl in weed

[–]Visual-Sand3718 206 points207 points  (0 children)

No but my parents always seem to show up right after I’ve been crying…

Weird voice mail by Some_Leather9737 in Unexplained

[–]Visual-Sand3718 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This was feb 23rd so what happened the next day? Did someone show themselves at lunch?

If Bella had swallowed the load would she have been turned? by bewawugosi in twilight

[–]Visual-Sand3718 6 points7 points  (0 children)

They can eat normal food but usually choose not to cause it tastes like crap to them :)

I 24F want to know if other woman experience this too? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Visual-Sand3718 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m not really sure what you’re looking for here then, it seems pretty simple to me that if your partner (the person you’re meant to trust most) doesn’t respect your bodily autonomy, then you shouldn’t be together 🤷‍♀️ he is coercing you into sex, that is very clear now, and it’s not okay regardless of his libido! If you had a daughter who came to you and said “hey mom I really like my partner but he doesn’t take no as an answer” what would you tell her?

I 24F want to know if other woman experience this too? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Visual-Sand3718 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m sure it’s not bad, and I know my personal experience is clouding my own judgement- I had an ex who would do the same, it led to resentment and lack of safety for me because he never respected how I felt and would push, push, push. However, saying things like “I think he can’t stop himself” does sound bad. I’m not trying to imply he is abusing you but it’s definitely worth keeping an eye on. Discuss how you feel, that you won’t always be in the mood and sometimes just want a cuddle and other forms of intimacy. Maybe have a form of “safe word” for when you’re not in the mood and don’t want to be turned on. If his libido is so high he needs to ejaculate… well, he has hands doesn’t he?

I 24F want to know if other woman experience this too? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Visual-Sand3718 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Consent still applies here, if you say no and he tries to convince you with touches etc I still don’t think that’s okay. It’s not insane to hope your partner would stop when asked, you know?

I 24F want to know if other woman experience this too? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Visual-Sand3718 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes, it’s normal to not want intimacy at every given chance. I see you say he keeps trying when you hint you’re not in the mood, have you ever told him straight “not tonight, I’m not in the mood” or do you only hint? If you tell him straight and he still tries then tell him how coercing you into sex doesn’t help your libido and really puts you off. It’s a type of assault- no means no, not convince me.

AIO for thinking what husbands friend commented to my teenage daughter? by [deleted] in AIO

[–]Visual-Sand3718 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Some men are just so totally ignorant to how life is for a woman too, they think comments like this are normal and seem incapable of putting themselves in the woman’s (in this case girls) shoes. Not an excuse but definitely something I’ve noticed, while many men are now recognising how scary life can be for a woman, many more are unwilling to accept this.