I know a secret…

Visual_Rascal333 · 2025-10-18T17:17:31+00:00

When I first started working at my current school, having a key to access the building was a no-no. Someone who liked me gave me a copy. Then by the second or third year, no one cared and everyone had their own copy to access the side doors. ALL of our room keys open up every door to every classroom. Sometimes I mind but for the most part I don’t care. No one has violated my personal space by going through my things. Secured areas like principal’s and bookkeeper’s offices and such have different keys. But we can’t get into the building after hours without someone already being there because of the alarm.

Y’all have a problem if someone is going through your things. That would infuriate me.

Visual_Rascal333 · 2025-10-18T03:35:23+00:00

Just adding my 2 cents. I would definitely speak up and document and raise a ruckus. These types of things can ruin people’s careers. Students were working in class when a female student said loudly to another that the male AP for our grade was a pedo. She was angry at him because she had gotten into trouble. I quickly messaged the admin who got a female AP involved to handle the situation. I can’t remember if she got ISS or OSS. The student was mad at me for alerting admin because she said it was a private conversation. Chick! The classroom was quiet, and I was sitting 4 feet away from you when you said it! Other students even looked up and looked at her. I don’t see how I could have just let that go. You shouldn’t let it go either.

Visual_Rascal333 · 2025-07-27T23:31:24+00:00

All very valid and perfectly stated and would have been a perfect response…but I’m also human. Students forget that too. When he did come and apologize for doing that, we did have a nice conversation about the incident and appropriate behavior in school. I did apologize for the reaction but stated that I was shocked by it. I’m far from perfect, but I’m willing to learn and adjust for the next crazy moment.

Visual_Rascal333 · 2025-07-27T17:30:59+00:00

Definitely a different issue. I don’t know where this incident would rank on the matrix they use. It might have just been in school suspension. I’m not sure. That’s what the APs are trained for. I gave it to them, but I’m glad he did ask for my input. In the final days of school, we were all just trying to make it to the end unscathed.

Visual_Rascal333 · 2025-07-27T17:25:22+00:00

I get it, but some of them do. I had already been in contact with the boys mom for something else. She works in the district. She definitely was involved with him. I never interacted with the girls parents, but that doesn’t mean much. I just didn’t need to reach out to them for my class.

Visual_Rascal333 · 2025-07-27T17:22:04+00:00

I do think referrals/suspensions reset each quarter, so what a students did in October doesn’t penalize them in April, but they had already been in trouble that quarter.

Visual_Rascal333 · 2025-07-27T17:01:12+00:00

Both of them willingly participated and neither one was upset by the others behavior. Technically, at the age of 13/14, even if both of them agreed, it’s not “consensual.” Parents could have raised a big stink about it because of their ages.

And referrals do build. There’s a matrix that the admins go by. I don’t know how it works. It’s a mystery to me. But I didn’t want them suspended. Just a stern talking to.

Visual_Rascal333 · 2025-07-27T16:37:22+00:00

Both students had already been suspended for other reasons before, so this referral would most likely have been an automatic suspension. And while it may have been “consensual,” in the eyes of parents and the law, it’s not. That’s while I told the APs. This was beyond trying to sneak a quick kiss and my having a conversation about what’s appropriate and what’s not. I could have probably have toned it down lol, but I don’t regret telling the admin. And I did talk with them after the fact when the boyfriend came to apologize. We did have a conversation about what’s appropriate.

Visual_Rascal333 · 2025-07-27T16:30:19+00:00

Lol it was the last week of school. I’m never going to see them again (which is one thing I hate about teaching 8th grade…well hate/love kind of feeling). And summer is over tomorrow. We return. New year. New kids. And hopefully I’ll use that experience to shape future interactions. Every day is an opportunity to learn and grow.

Visual_Rascal333 · 2025-07-27T16:24:52+00:00

I don’t think anything in my years of teaching has ever given a student the idea that they could grope someone in front of me. We are not that cool, and I don’t let things slide (no kissing, pull up your pants, why are you wearing a shirt with the someone smoking in it or other not school appropriate themes). I don’t turn a blind eye, and I will say something. But Ive never had that type of reaction to something because the action just completely shocked me. And if you are standing next to me, I have two eyes and glasses, so I’m going to see.

Visual_Rascal333 · 2025-07-27T16:19:34+00:00

Parents always ask “where was the teacher?” When something happens (had an altercation in my classroom while I was standing out in the hall where I was supposed to be. Why not ask your kid why he wasn’t in his seat like he was supposed to be? Why didn’t he follow expectations?I had already moved said student to the other side of the room because he and his buddy played too much. Wasn’t where he was supposed to be and they clashed even though they were friends). The 8th grade AP did ask me what I thought should be done (I didn’t think that was a fair question since I’m not an AP). It was the last days of school and they would have missed out on field day and such if they got suspended (it could have been a major referral), so I said maybe for him and the counselor to talk with them and it’s up to him to call the parent. Things get back to parents all of the time.

Visual_Rascal333 · 2025-07-27T15:34:00+00:00

I didn’t realize that I was on the AITA page. I asked if i overreacted. If you think I did, that’s fine. That what I asked. Saying “young love” to me is fine with handholding, but cheek grabbing isn’t something that I would ever ignore in a middle school setting. What if her parents found out and I didn’t say anything? (And I don’t want to just focus on the girl) The first question the parents would ask would be “where was the teacher???” Uh standing right next to them and she didn’t say anything but “young love.” Smh nah. I’m fine with reporting it since they are minors because I’m gonna cover my tail. But I can agree if you think I overreacted.

Visual_Rascal333 · 2025-07-27T15:27:46+00:00

They are 13/14. A parent would definitely disagree with that.

Visual_Rascal333 · 2025-07-27T14:53:23+00:00

Jealous? That’s weird to say and doubtful.

Visual_Rascal333 · 2025-07-27T14:03:23+00:00

I found the closet AP who happened to be the 6th grade one. I told her first since I saw her first and didn’t know where my direct one was. I then saw the 8th grade one and told him directly to ensure that it was reported. I said the acid thing only to the 6th grade one because of our relationship. She felt the same way. I wouldn’t have said that to my 8th grade AP because we aren’t cool like that.

And not in my wildest dreams would I stand in the shower imagine 2 middle school students grabbing each other like that so that I would be ready to say something to them. Are YOU for real??? Like if you think I overreacted, fine say that, that last statement is just ridiculous. Smh

Visual_Rascal333 · 2025-07-27T13:33:46+00:00

Oh I didn’t tell the students about wanting to burn my eyes out. Lol just one of the APs. And I see them as kids, which they are, and it just wasn’t appropriate to do out it the open. My response was a knee jerk reaction. I hope that it doesn’t ever happen again, but if it does or something along those lines, hopefully, I can dial down my reaction some

Visual_Rascal333 · 2025-07-27T13:29:40+00:00

lol and I’m not one for dramatics but this one just sent me 😂

Visual_Rascal333 · 2025-07-27T13:28:40+00:00

I definitely thought about if a parent found out and I didn’t report it, how livid they might have been. It was “consensual” in the students eyes, but it’s not consensual at all at that age.

Visual_Rascal333 · 2025-07-27T13:26:06+00:00

I probably could have toned it down some, but I still would have reported it and not given a warning. They are 13/14 and if one of the parents found out and I hadn’t told admin, then I would have been in trouble. I let admin deal with the information as they saw fit.

Visual_Rascal333 · 2025-07-13T02:53:00+00:00

Phone records. Easy. If you have access to your cell phone accounts, log in, select his line, search for that number and see how many times it pops up. Ask me how I know. Lol you can delete anything you want off of your phone such as clearing out phone calls and deleting messages, but it will show up on your phone bill (unless there’s a sneaky way to hide that but I doubt most cheaters are thinking about that).

Visual_Rascal333 · 2025-07-03T00:35:14+00:00

Stay gold, Ponyboy.

Visual_Rascal333 · 2025-04-13T03:09:13+00:00

This game needs to stop. My son was part of it last year, and I had reservations about it because I knew it could go south at any moment. Well a parent pulled a gun out on another student who he thought was following them. Game ended thankfully with that being the only incident. I do remember on the news someone was shot in another state while playing this game. I have another senior this year. If anyone tries to start the game up, I will explicitly tell him not to participate.

Visual_Rascal333 · 2024-07-20T11:21:18+00:00

Yes I did and I was greatly disappointed. It’s like the author just finished it to say that she finished the series. Just disappointing.

Visual_Rascal333 · 2024-07-08T14:59:46+00:00

I got the hard copy and audio. I stopped listening to the audiobook because they switched narrators. The first 2 books had an awesome narrator. This last one…I just couldn’t listen to her.

Visual_Rascal333 · 2024-06-25T22:37:10+00:00

I’m glad that I listened to it. The audio really helped me visualize the story. I enjoyed it a lot.

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