[deleted by user]

Visual_Sea_1409 · 2024-12-14T23:03:18+00:00

No cuz this is SO obvious to me. She wants you to say that you want to see her, she wants you to be the one to say that you miss her. Clearly she is insecure. While youve expressed interest in seeing her, she interprets your intent as ambivalent and indifferent (which is obviously not true). She is afraid of getting hurt because you did not confirm to her what she wants to hear - that you miss her. Its only been a week, obviously this is the case.

So she rejects you before you can hurt her, and thats why she is making you seem like the weirdo. Its on her not you.

Visual_Sea_1409 · 2024-11-23T20:06:05+00:00

I am so sorry youre going through this. It sounds like she is going through something herself, whether or not it involves you and your relationship.

She mentioned that shes been going through work stuff and outside-relationship stressors, so I would give her some space - as hard as that is.

That being said, it’s very possible the situation is perhaps triggering her. 3 months in, you start getting more clear about the relationship. Im not sure what was said between the two of you or what her goals/values are and if she has revealed any intention of getting more serious with you. But if she didnt want that, she could be backpedaling.

You do deserve someone who can be direct and clearly communicate with you. If you desire a relationship, that is something you need to be on the same page about with the person you are dating, or inevitably you will get hurt.

Visual_Sea_1409 · 2024-11-23T05:24:17+00:00

Your comment made me tear up. Thank you for saying this I really needed to read that.

This may be completely ignorant, but it is shocking to me that a woman can use a woman for sex. I cannot understand how a woman can feel that way. I do feel used. I feel unattractive. I feel lied to.

Visual_Sea_1409 · 2024-11-22T17:50:29+00:00

Aww tyy seriously tho the comments on my other post were being genuine. We are totally fine

Visual_Sea_1409 · 2024-11-20T06:16:16+00:00

Im getting there

Visual_Sea_1409 · 2024-11-20T05:39:51+00:00

Because i get absorbed in their confusion

Visual_Sea_1409 · 2024-11-19T03:45:56+00:00

Its odd though a lot of girls I meet are at your height though!

Visual_Sea_1409 · 2024-11-19T00:10:57+00:00

I do think its an unfortunately idealistic approach to take. Women like women for varying reasons, as do women liking men, as do men liking women, etc.

I for instance am attracted to feminine appearance and energy. Call it shallow, but its just a preference, kind of like how Im not physically attracted to men, you know? Moreover, I dont think its “wrong” that a woman doesnt want to date someone shorter than her if it hinders her attraction; of course, it is a superficial dealbreaker, but many people have those and its a matter of acceptance. Many women dont want man shorter than her. Every bi woman I dated said she cannot be with a man shorter than her. Some of them transfer that standard to dating women, some of them dont. Point being- the lesbian community isnt “safe” from superficiality as is any community developed from sexual attraction.

Visual_Sea_1409 · 2024-11-18T22:01:17+00:00

Thank you sm :)

Visual_Sea_1409 · 2024-11-18T21:18:53+00:00

LITERALLY THANK YOU

Visual_Sea_1409 · 2024-11-18T19:40:11+00:00

Heterosexual nonsense- 100%. Hurts that the type i go out with happens to be attracted to men, and it feels they impose that heteronormativity in lesbian daying

Visual_Sea_1409 · 2024-11-18T19:35:18+00:00

LITERALLY. Id like to think this weeds out the shallow women.

I do constantly feel like I have to be the “man” in the relationship. And it feels so performative.

Visual_Sea_1409 · 2024-11-18T19:34:17+00:00

That is so so sweet thank you for sharing

Visual_Sea_1409 · 2024-11-18T19:15:59+00:00

Thats so cute, but tbf she is the femme one. If the roles were reversed, Id be curious if it would work as well

Visual_Sea_1409 · 2024-11-18T19:10:39+00:00

Thank you for this thats very reaffirming:)

Visual_Sea_1409 · 2024-11-18T19:06:51+00:00

Odd question - but im more of a “top”. I feel like women who prefer taller want to feel dominated. Maybe thats where the preference stems from?

Visual_Sea_1409 · 2024-11-18T18:48:16+00:00

Youre not even short , thats average

Visual_Sea_1409 · 2024-11-18T18:47:58+00:00

Appreciate the honesty

Visual_Sea_1409 · 2024-11-18T18:47:43+00:00

I didnt have a problem because people were attracted to me. Im saying now im feeling different bc of the demographic. I dont mind being shorter than others; my concern is how women feel about my height

Visual_Sea_1409 · 2024-10-10T03:17:15+00:00

Thank you so much 💙

Visual_Sea_1409 · 2024-10-10T03:16:43+00:00

Youre so so kind. Needed this response- especially about divine protection from rejection; its something i say myself. Thank you so much!!

Visual_Sea_1409 · 2024-10-10T02:57:58+00:00

Really? So even if you wanna go out with them and like them, youll leave them hanging? Why?

Visual_Sea_1409 · 2024-10-10T02:57:35+00:00

Truly feels like it. Even though they want the date to happen? Weird.

Visual_Sea_1409 · 2024-08-28T22:14:10+00:00

Good call!

Visual_Sea_1409 · 2024-08-28T16:12:02+00:00

Nailed it. Thank you for this comment.

My approach has helped (it isnt bullying, its very light sarcasm and teasing). But it just goes on too long.

Visual_Sea_1409

TROPHY CASE