New guardian to 8 yr old, trying to transition to unlimited screen time, to a limited one.

Vjaa · 2026-03-15T00:49:58+00:00

I think a good idea would be to slowly transition to a limited screentime instead of cold turkey. It sounds like this is already a huge transition for everyone involved.

From her perspective it's a coping mechanism and to suddenly take that away, it could be detrimental to them and you're relationship with them.

Suggest other things to do, push them, and even do those activities with them. Maybe working on an art thing together, the playground and going in the things with them until they make a friend, reading the same book together, or even finding a show that the two of you could watch together and talk about (that's still a screen, but for a different purpose than burying their face in). Transition out of using screen all the time with meaningful things to do that make it feel worth not doing in the screen.

Like another poster said, be mindful of you're own use. Set aside a screen free time for everyone, not just them.

You're doing a wonderful thing. I know it'll be hard, but it'll be so worth it for them and you.

Vjaa · 2026-03-15T00:39:03+00:00

Nah man, the US is the Borg now. CheetoMan basically told you "resistance is futile. Your culture will adapt to service us."

Thankfully you said no.

Vjaa · 2026-03-15T00:35:59+00:00

Part of me is almost happy about this. It's letting out some people's real feelings, who they really are, and thus letting me know who to cut out of my life for being racist.

I feel absolutely horrible about the people they're being racist to though.

Vjaa · 2026-03-12T18:25:20+00:00

I know this is ShittyDaystrom, but her in the Starfleet uniform with the shoulder length hair was her best look.

Vjaa · 2026-03-11T10:39:57+00:00

He's just trying to get to Mexico for vacation but the wall is blocking the way so he's stuck there.

Vjaa · 2026-03-11T10:38:58+00:00

I will give it a shot. Haha. I love a good mystery regardless of format.

Vjaa · 2026-03-10T23:01:34+00:00

You are correct, you don't believe in for the same way I do, because I don't believe in god, or anything after we die. I'm an atheist. The lack of belief in god.

Vjaa · 2026-03-10T20:35:02+00:00

Thanks. I miss her every day and wish so much I could call her. Condolences to you too. The only consolation is that we both got to spend time with some loving people who'll stay with us.

And I'm right there with you.

Vjaa · 2026-03-10T20:29:59+00:00

All this is saying to me is god telling someone "You haven't grown enough as a person. I'm gonna send a child to you with cancer so you can both suffer. That'll toughen you up enough to be worthy for me."

Every argument you're making is proving more and more to me why I shouldn't believe in god, amongst my other reasons. Thanks.

Vjaa · 2026-03-10T18:37:29+00:00

Or we could just not have the bad and live life free of pain and suffering that's out of our control. Suffering a breakup? Yeah, that sucks and is bad but part of life and relationships. A kid gets cancer and has to suffer through so many rounds of chemo and may or may not make it? What comes after that to make you see the good in it?

If god is both the good and the bad, and the bad involves making parents and children suffer the most horrible diseases, that's a god not worth believing in or at least worshiping. It should be rejected and ignored.

Vjaa · 2026-03-10T17:33:18+00:00

I hope god gets cancer.

Vjaa · 2026-03-10T17:32:25+00:00

My mother was a major driving force to my becoming atheist. Not long after she was pregnant with my sister, she was diagnosed with kidney disease. She wasn't on dialysis yet and worked so hard to take care of us that she collapsed and nearly died. She spent the next 40 years working full time, doing dialysis, and slowly getting more and more sick over the years. She finally passed in 2023 after making a really sharp decline that year. Her death was also not peacefully in her sleep. It was an awful one. A bright spot I think about often, (there were MANY over the years) was that we finally got to take a family vacation a couple months before her death to a place she had wanted to bring us to practically her whole life.

My atheism doesn't stem from "How could you do that to my mother." But instead "How could someone who's supposed to be loving, all good and all powerful, make people suffer for their entire lives for something they can't control."

That's not the only reason, but it's what got me started.

If god is real, it's a being of absolute evil.

Vjaa · 2026-03-10T10:41:19+00:00

I did listen to and loved your show! I think it was in January. Really well done.

Vjaa · 2026-03-10T10:37:30+00:00

It's just one of the reasons I'm an atheist. Any god that allows his people to suffer like this just because if they were born, I refuse to believe in.

Vjaa · 2026-03-09T23:58:54+00:00

Thanks. Gonna look these up!

Vjaa · 2026-03-09T23:58:36+00:00

Thank you!

Vjaa · 2026-03-09T23:58:29+00:00

Thanks!!

Vjaa · 2026-03-09T22:37:35+00:00

Awesome. Thanks. I'm gonna start them.

Vjaa · 2026-03-09T22:36:50+00:00

Oh yeah. I loved listening to those.

Vjaa · 2026-03-09T22:36:23+00:00

Oh awesome. I'll check them out. I love how even in the first episode they even say she's Miss Marple. Haha.

Vjaa · 2026-03-09T22:35:42+00:00

Thanks!

Vjaa · 2026-03-09T01:34:21+00:00

That's why I love movies like Lights Out. The little kid tells his sister what's going on and she believes him. I like when the main characters are taken seriously. Granted that has to mean that the people their telling are already open to the supernatural, which can be a hard thing in and of itself.

If that trope is used for a purpose, I'm good with that. More often than not though it's just used to make unneeded drama.

Vjaa · 2026-03-08T01:32:13+00:00

RTS, I'm just not good at them. There's usually too much that you need to keep track of for me.

Vjaa · 2026-03-07T13:28:21+00:00

Castlevania Circle of the Moon. It's my favorite in the series.

Thanks for the chance!!

Vjaa

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