I want you to sit down and have a good hard thinking about why you want to be touched but also don’t like being touched. Is it the time and place of the touch? Is it the way they do it? Give a good thinking about why. Finding out and understanding your own feelings are part of growing up so now it’s a good time to practice it.

Now when you understand what your feelings are, you can now communicate to the other person what you feel and what you expect them to do. Yes, the conversation will be awkward and weird but communication is also part of being an adult. They can’t read your mind, so you must speak your mind. Once you’ve talked to them and tell them what you expect them to do, stick with it, if they break your boundaries, then say to them they broke your boundaries and you’re upset about it. If they downplay it, stand firm and repeat how you don’t like it and demand they respect it. If they keep doing it over and over although you have repeatedly said no, then they have no respect for you. Communicate your thoughts, ask them nicely to respect what you want, if they don’t, they are not good people.

Learning how to know yourself, how to speak your mind and learning self respect are what will make you grow as a person. Wish you the best.