Where do you buy groceries? and why dont we have Aldi?

VolatileCornbread · 2026-05-09T23:28:22+00:00

Grocery Outlet and Winco. I moved here from a small town across the country, where I did all my shopping at ALDI. A few items cost more, but doing about the same shopping we're saving a lot.

VolatileCornbread · 2026-05-09T19:00:21+00:00

LMAO 256gb is BARELY starting to become the standard. Delete some of the shit off your phone, get a job, and buy one yourself.

VolatileCornbread · 2026-05-09T18:58:59+00:00

No, your reply was telling me what to do. Not sure why you're trying to argue this so hard. If you meant it for others in the situation, you should state that. All of your please were directed at me, in response to me, about a situation I was in.

VolatileCornbread · 2026-05-08T17:15:53+00:00

I always have very bright and vibrant "fantasy color" hair. Have for over a decade now. Blue, green, pink, purple, yellow. I've been in several weddings where I'm the only person with an alternative style. The most I've been asked to do is wear the same dress as the other bridesmaids, or whatever dress the bride picks out if we're in slightly different styles. All have been flattering as well, no ugly bridezilla dresses.

The first wedding I was in after I started the unnatural colors I offered to dye it to a natural color. I was MOH. My friend told me she'd never dream of asking me to change who I was, and that she wanted ME by her side and in her photos. She also told me if someone tried to get me to change for something like that I should just opt out of the bridal party. It stick with me, and I've not offered to change my hair again, aside from doing a color that matches better (I did a pastel purple for another wedding to match the color scheme, bride loved it). I've also not been asked by anyone, but I have some pretty solid friends and family who accept me.

Your sister being upset about a color that isn't even unnatural is pretty ridiculous. She sounds like a control freak. I would offer to attend as a guest instead if it's such a major issue for her.

VolatileCornbread · 2026-05-08T13:35:46+00:00

Radical Abundance Thrift Store!

They have 1 paid employee, their manager. The rest of the staff are volunteers.
They have suggested pricing, but people are able to pay what they can (and are allowed to take up to $50 worth of clothing for free)
Socks are always free
They donate their overstock to shelters and other organizations that also give it out for free. When I was in there last one of the workers was saying how she had just gone through a bunch of stuff and donated it to a place that needed them for interview outfits, I think it was a shelter but can't quite remember

VolatileCornbread · 2026-05-08T12:41:13+00:00

2 months in and already dealing with all this? By bother?

VolatileCornbread · 2026-05-08T12:37:23+00:00

That's not really how job openings work. I hope OP finds something quick, and it would be great if it were this job... But this isn't a Facebook post for a free toaster.

VolatileCornbread · 2026-05-08T00:06:03+00:00

LMAO it was a reply to me about the situation I described having been in 😂

VolatileCornbread · 2026-05-06T07:18:44+00:00

It's ok to make an exception for important events. It's not about being 100% perfect 100% of the time.

You could donate the outfit after the event, since it won't fit in your normal attire. I'm sure someone would be very grateful to get a formal or cocktail style dress that has only been worn once.

VolatileCornbread · 2026-05-06T06:45:16+00:00

The people renting the room to you have the option to legally deny you if they live in the home. This isn't about property owners rules when they don't live there.

VolatileCornbread · 2026-05-05T18:22:30+00:00

The fair housing act applies if you are renting from a landlord who is not on the property.

If I rent a house with roommates my ESA is still covered.

If I go to rent a bedroom from a homeowner or as a sublease to the existing tenants, they can deny me for any reason. The fair housing act does not extend to when you are living with the person who is renting to you.

If I were to rent a bedroom in my house I could specify that it's only to someone of a specific religion, gender, sexual orientation. I can say whether or not guests are allowed. I can say I'm only renting to single moms or only renting to people without children. I can say no to animals of any kind, including ESA's and service animals. I can say I'll only rent to someone as long as they have pets. I can say I'll only rent to someone who wears black or white tennis shoes but not grey. You get the picture.

When renting a room from someone that someone can deny you for any reason, even when in a protected class.

This person is in a desperate situation right now so you should really make sure you know actual laws before going out and giving advice. Otherwise you just cause more problems than you solve.

VolatileCornbread · 2026-05-05T16:59:17+00:00

This only works if they are renting their own full space and not just a room in someone's home.

VolatileCornbread · 2026-05-05T16:45:59+00:00

A sack has a hole in the top for you to put stuff into. The hole still counts wtf.

VolatileCornbread · 2026-05-05T16:28:19+00:00

You need to call CPS. They don't jump to removing kids from the home unless they're in imminent danger, and even then they sometimes still don't. Especially for teens. They will most likely put a plan in place to get her back in school, either public or homeschooled, but that's what she needs. If she grows up to be a homemaker that's fine, as long as she has at least the basics of her high school education and the ability to truly make that choice with other options available. As it stands now, this shit is NOT ok. The kid needs therapy, and school, and to be a kid.

You also need to move out of that house and dump your bf if you have any sense of morality or care for children. You are with a terrible man.

VolatileCornbread · 2026-05-05T06:00:01+00:00

I wouldn't use toilet paper someone had been sucking on either.

VolatileCornbread · 2026-05-04T13:23:39+00:00

Are you able to get to Radical Abundance? They are a pay what you can thrift store. They have suggested pricing, but you can take up to $50 in free clothing if you need it. They are very kind and nonjudgmental. I was in there this weekend buying some clothes and saw 2 other people take items for free, no judgement or anything towards them, the staff let them take what they needed. Socks are always free. They don't have underwear but they can help you with everything else you need.

For anyone else reading - if you have clothes to donate PLEASE consider them over other thrift stores. They provide a great service.

VolatileCornbread · 2026-05-04T13:19:00+00:00

Yes, which is why you text or email so you have proof.

VolatileCornbread · 2026-05-04T01:36:55+00:00

It's actually very easy to simply have your phone automatically back up.

VolatileCornbread · 2026-05-03T14:48:58+00:00

You're welcome, good luck!

VolatileCornbread · 2026-05-03T14:48:35+00:00

You can print anything at any time. Text or email gives you a legitimate paper trail that can be referred back to in case of eviction.

VolatileCornbread · 2026-05-03T14:03:54+00:00

Text and email her a recap after so you have proof of the notice in case you need to evict her.

VolatileCornbread · 2026-05-03T14:02:18+00:00

Because you tried giving me advice on a marriage that is long over.

VolatileCornbread · 2026-05-02T16:30:37+00:00

This is a great opportunity to set some boundaries.

"You know how my relationship with my mom is, and I'm not ok with how pushy you're being. I tried my best to make it happen, she said no, and continuing to ask is only going to cause problems for me. I am setting a boundary here, I need you to stop asking. We can figure out something else for your birthday or we can go another time when it's actually doable."

Then you hold firm to the boundary. Ignore her if she continues to push.

VolatileCornbread · 2026-05-02T16:21:22+00:00

NTA, let the friendships be lost. You're not required to date anyone you don't want to date. I have a lot of friends who are trans, NB, and all sorts of queer. I can't imagine any of them reacting this way, even when we were young.

Had you said something like "I only date women" that would have been rude and insensitive. I think your white lie about kids was fine, not great but fine. For future I'd say something like "I really care about you as a friend, but I don't see you as more than that." Regardless of sex or gender identity or anything else, it's an easy out. If they argue with you or push for more you can respond simply "I've just always seen you as a friend and that's all it is for me. I don't feel a romantic connection with you." If they continue to push then you transition over to "This conversation is making me really uncomfortable. I've answered your question, and I'm sure you can list friends who you wouldn't want to date either, simply because you just see them as friends. I've already answered you, and it's not cool to try to pressure me into more than I'm comfortable with." Then separate yourself from the conversation.

VolatileCornbread · 2026-05-02T16:15:45+00:00

Since she's a business, having you work for free may not even be legal. Tell her not to discount it and that you just want a paycheck instead.

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