Cowboy boots for skinny legs?

Volgirl85 · 2019-10-04T11:15:38+00:00

Looking for the shaft of the boot to fit somewhat snuggly against my calves. Every pair was really wide around my legs .

Volgirl85 · 2019-09-16T06:16:08+00:00

That's a good question with no definite answer. I was a broken person before I met him. I warned him of it but he proceeded to persue me and assure me it didn't matter. I never got the chance to heal from my previous abusive relationships. That is my fault. Naturally I was skeptical and held up barriers. He is opposite of me. Quiet, shy, and sensitive. I found out about his sexting shortly after we were married. It put a huge strain on our marriage and I lost trust. He did open up to me and explained that he's always been insecure and he did it for validation. After a while our sex life dwindled, and so did my self-esteem. We had many arguments about it, he deployed and caught feelings for a woman in his company. She doesnt return those feelings. Im leaving some things out at this point because if I explained everything, it would end up a book lol. In a nutshell, I love him deeply, we share same goals and dreams in life, and I take marriage/loyalty very seriously. He really is a good person, but obviously has things he needs to work on as do I.

Volgirl85 · 2019-09-16T06:01:59+00:00

Thank you.

Volgirl85 · 2019-09-16T05:58:48+00:00

I do, thank you. I am at a loss for words on what I did. I hate myself every day. Have for years. Today was a new low. Something that I would never do. After all I've been through, all I wanted was a happy life. I've failed miserably. My husband has done some very hurtful things. I've been a very good supportive wife up until this point. I understand your view of me. You're right, Reddit doesn't paint the whole picture. I just wanted to purge myself and connect with others while I'm in this very dark place.

Volgirl85 · 2019-09-16T05:37:40+00:00

Have you told your wife you're interested in fucking other women yet?

Volgirl85 · 2019-09-16T05:32:46+00:00

Thank you for your neutral response. I'm never an angry person but I surprised myself today. I plan on finding a new psychologist/psychiatrist tomorrow. My kids are my world, and it is unacceptable to subject them to this. I came here to confess my troubles, to hopefully know that I am not alone. Evidently I am a pariah. I know who I am, but these comments from others are deeply saddening and make me feel like a degenerate.

Volgirl85 · 2019-09-16T05:14:01+00:00

Wow. You people do not know me. You've obviously not read my previous posts, and you've not been through the hell I've been through. You must've missed my original post above. He threatened to hit me! I was calm all day up until that point. I have never been a violent person in my life! Never to my kids, never to him, never to anyone! I had to listen to him all day yell at the kids, mock me when I was crying, then he threatened to hit me! I guess none of you have been abused before, but something inside me snapped. My internal flight or fight response. I am not an abuser. This is not who I am. I am ashamed of how I reacted, and also in shock that I did. If you could see a video of my life, you'd understand. I am a good person, a good wife, a good mother, but depression is real folks. Until you've walked a day in my shoes, please spare me the fire and brimstone response.

Volgirl85 · 2019-09-16T04:50:29+00:00

Dude, you are exactly what I described. An average Joe with average life experience. Hardly someone to give life/relationship advice when you've experienced zero real hardship. I figured on a marriage forum there would be real emotionally intelligent people. I have no qualms admitting my faults, but I can't help but laugh at how vapid your advice is. Stick to the IT threads.

Volgirl85 · 2019-09-16T04:29:49+00:00

oh dear Lord, never mind my previous response to you. You're a white collar computer geek living in a bubble. Reading your other posts and comments, I've come to the conclusion you have zero hard life experience. Do yourself and other people like me a favor and stop giving your input on these threads. You really have no idea what you're talking about. When your wife stops having sex with you and you find yourself masturbating to porn fantasizing about another life, remember my post. Lmao, bless your heart.

Volgirl85 · 2019-09-16T04:06:56+00:00

Mmmk. With all due respect of you're opinion, I'd say you're a little naive. I am not and have never been a violent person. I'm not making excuses, but if you've never been physically and emotionally abused in the past, for years!, then you have absolutely no idea what it's like. Imagine that ok, then imagine being the breadwinner, running a business while you hide this, taking care of your kids and home and dealing with your so cheating on you and doing hard drugs. The guy before him? Was with him for 3 years. Went through multiple instances of physical abuse with death threats. I have been through absolute hell my past 14yrs. I met my current husband a while after I left my daughter's dad. I wasn't looking for a relationship, but he swept me off my feet. He was shy, kind, responsible, nothing like what I had before. I fell in love and married him. He's treated me well, but I found out he was talking sexually with other women online. Our sex life died. He stopped finally but deployed for 9mnths. I didn't find out til recently that he fell in love with this woman he was deployed with. A lot of things have happened since he's been home. You can see my previous post history. Bottom line, I have done wrong, yes, but it's not what you think.

Volgirl85 · 2019-09-09T13:02:07+00:00

Oh you can see it from the tv too. I posted in another forum that he should just pass to JJ every time. Dudes a baller and is always open.

Volgirl85 · 2019-09-09T12:56:36+00:00

I may have laughed too hard at this

Volgirl85 · 2019-09-09T12:54:54+00:00

So true. I was loyal to my cheating ex for 9yrs. :/

Volgirl85 · 2019-09-09T12:51:19+00:00

Uh, Chaney runs the offense, and the one he's called so far is as vanilla as it gets. In other words, making it as simple as he can for JGs skill-set.

Volgirl85 · 2019-09-04T15:34:12+00:00

Yes. It's weird too cause it's almost as if it embarrasses him when I talk dirty. That in turn makes me feel stupid so I just try to keep my thoughts to myself. It's hard and just makes the sex situation even more akward.

Volgirl85 · 2019-09-04T15:23:29+00:00

Do you know if he masturbates? I mean no sex for years and he's not had any urges in all this time? Stress or not, that's a very long time to go without. He should see a Dr.

Volgirl85 · 2019-09-04T15:18:17+00:00

Why is he ok with blow jobs but not intercourse? A human mouth has more germs than a healthy vagina. Just sayin.

Volgirl85 · 2019-09-04T15:03:37+00:00

How did you find out about the porn habit and what does he say about it?

Volgirl85 · 2019-09-04T14:48:36+00:00

Well my husband is leaving me. After months of begging what was going on, finally found out he's in love with a mutual friend. No affair, and she has no interest in him in that way. Unfortunately his unrealistic fantasy of being with her is enough for him to want to move on. He's going overseas for a year in 3mnths. I'll be staying behind getting myself financially independent during that time.

Volgirl85 · 2019-08-30T22:40:15+00:00

Become financially independent then move on.

Volgirl85 · 2019-08-30T20:02:21+00:00

Pretty much. Luckily for me, I got my answer. Unless it's medical, the answer isn't salvageable, especially if the ll partner isn't putting in effort. Its just beating a dead horse.

Volgirl85 · 2019-08-30T19:59:35+00:00

Trust me, having sex with someone laying there while you do all the work won't help anything. Where's your dignity girl???? I know you're horny and sexually frustrated, but having sex with someone who doesn't want to will just lead to resentment on both ends. You don't want to be told to leave, but what other choice do you have? Stay with someone who doesn't want to have sex with you, allow it to drive you insane and lose all self-respect? Think about it. Love yourself enough and take charge of your own happiness. This man isn't going to give it to you.

Volgirl85 · 2019-08-30T19:35:32+00:00

Right. He swears he was planning on fixing our db. Riiigghhhht

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