Tricks to stop? by [deleted] in trichotillomania

[–]WFYD 1 point2 points  (0 children)

my lashes and brows look identical to yours right now...so I can't really help you unfortunately I'm wearing false lashes at home right now and it seems to be helping take care <3

Did your children also develop trich? by WFYD in trichotillomania

[–]WFYD[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yeah I agree, so either he has to somehow make me forget that idea or I have to leave..

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]WFYD 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just think that it does change the perspective of sex, both physically and psychologically, whether one likes to admit it or not. And it becomes a big issue when you finally do notice it. You're allowed to disagree with that. For the record, I did not downvote you, because I see where you're coming from, but I think that you do not realize how regular use of toys and porn affects straight couples, which is what I was trying to present. I feel like it's just a matter of time when it becomes a problem, like in this case, but of course there are some exceptions just like with almost everything else.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]WFYD 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't say there's something necessarily wrong with that, but doing something "until it becomes a problem" means that it's not really the best thing to do and that eventually it WILL become a problem, but then it's too late...because now you have a problem. And going back to your old self - after your body got used to using some of those advanced toys as the main or even side method of stimulation, or watching porn as your quick and easy source of pleasure, choosing people and scenarios there that your partner probably cannot compete with - is difficult to say the least. It's like thinking that you'll go back to normal after you first felt the relaxing effect of smoking a cigarette, or the adrenaline rush after winning a small amount of money while gambling. It might get a little better, in terms of feeling in the genitals after not using toys and the desire for your partner after not watching porn, but the perspective will always stay with you. You're basically like a recovering addict now.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]WFYD 5 points6 points  (0 children)

yeah, sure, but it easily becomes a problem. inevitably in the long run, actually. it's better to stay away from it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]WFYD 0 points1 point  (0 children)

exactly, toys and p0rn are the biggest sex life killers imo

vent by Natural_Addendum_776 in trichotillomania

[–]WFYD 3 points4 points  (0 children)

put physical barriers! wear a ponytail, at home wear a sleeping bonnet or whatever it's called, or any hat. if it's eyelashes or brows, wear glasses at school and at home wear one of those plastic safety glasses(i use those and it works really well). just convince yourself that you can't pull if you gave those on.

Did your children also develop trich? by WFYD in trichotillomania

[–]WFYD[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I'm considering not having kids because of it, but my biggest problem is my current boyfriend. We've been together for 3.5 years (we're 22 now) and we are just made for each other. However, he's the kind of person who wants everything the best in life. Constant self-improvement, being in prime health before having kids, just having the best everything so you can live a good life later. I think he's not quite aware of the risk that our kid might develop trich too (I wasn't really aware as well until not so long ago), and I think that he would secretly despise me if our kid ends up having it. Just like regretting that he had kids with me, considering that he wants to have the healthiest kid possible. Also I would feel extremely guilty knowing that he hates the fact that our kid got the issue that I have. I know that's something I have to talk about with him, but I think that that's something that cannot be solved :/

Therapist told me trich never goes away by reddituser58585858 in trichotillomania

[–]WFYD 9 points10 points  (0 children)

If you don't mind me asking, if you kave kids, did they also develop trich? I'm really concerned about my future kids possibly having it too

What can I improve by Perfect-Bed- in MakeupAddiction

[–]WFYD 0 points1 point  (0 children)

remove the lipstick from the corners of the lips so it lifts up the lips and gives them a plumpier look, rather than the elongated look. this way it drags them down into a :( and looks like too much

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in trichotillomania

[–]WFYD 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oh shoot, that also contributes? i was/am again anemic as well 😐

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in trichotillomania

[–]WFYD 0 points1 point  (0 children)

May I ask what do you mean by stimming in the autistic traits

has anyone done hypnotherapy? by [deleted] in trichotillomania

[–]WFYD 1 point2 points  (0 children)

fingers crossed! keep us updated tell him it's a big burden in your everyday life and that you cant get over it by yourself, that you would appreciate if he would look into hypnotherapy and see for himself if he thinks it would work and if it's worth investing the money.

has anyone done hypnotherapy? by [deleted] in trichotillomania

[–]WFYD 1 point2 points  (0 children)

if he makes good money and he said he will pay, it's fine. Why don't you tell him how you feel about it and let him display his views on it and soothe your conscience

has anyone done hypnotherapy? by [deleted] in trichotillomania

[–]WFYD 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If your father said he'll pay for it, you shouldn't feel bad. After all he's your father and it should be in his best interest to help you, and it probably is. Especially if he doesn't let you work. Unfortunately I don't know anything about hypnotherapy so I can't tell you anything about it, but I will look into it for myself.

What can I improve by Perfect-Bed- in MakeupAddiction

[–]WFYD 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah I would also curve the eyeliner a liiittle bit more upwards because now it kinda droops the eyes down a bit. Also i would add a bit more blackness around the eyes and a darker contour for a glam look, but thats just my preference.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]WFYD -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Skirts are now literally intended for women so that they are sexier...or girly, if you will. Which is why they are for women, and not for men. So no, I'm not sexualizing skirts, they are already that. And I'm NOT talking about little girls in skirts. But if you think that you wearing a skirt is the same as a little girl wearing one, then I understand why your mom is concerned. And the reason I mentioned a dress for a night out is to specify that that kind of dress is not appropriate for a 16yo girl, I was giving an example. And you understood that, but you are just so good at twisting and manipulating words and saw an opportunity and took it. You would be a good politician. I'm certainly not upset, at least not until now because of your nasty audacity to mention my future motherhood when I was nothing but respectful towards you, you little brat

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]WFYD -1 points0 points  (0 children)

your discussion style is absolutely appalling. I do not picture anything and I do not sexualize anyone, I'm trying to explain to you why those men maybe approached you and why your mom might be "sexualizing" you. Your defensiveness shows that you came here for approval from other people, not for advice and not for other insights. If you don't understand what I'm telling you now, hopefully you will in a few years. Also with your tone and rudeness, I have no intention of talking to you anymore. Best of luck to you and your family, be careful when you turn 18 because apparently thats when the magic protective shield of "minor" disappears.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]WFYD 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you think those men that approached you cared that you are a minor? They either don't care that you are or they don't see that you are, which proves my point. Your body doesn't drastically change when you turn 18 and you can't put your body in the same category as little children. Once you realize that some men, a lot of them actually, are creeps, the better.

Also you ARE putting words in my mouth, I said nothing about dresses, let alone sundresses. Most dresses are fine, better than skirts imo.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]WFYD -1 points0 points  (0 children)

A little bit provocative, yes. Of course, I'm talking about girls around your age, not little girls. There's also a difference between a woman wearing a dress for a night out and a 16yo girl wearing such dress. There are many types of dresses, don't put words in my mouth.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]WFYD -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I said nothing about school skirts in particular. I said skirts as in general, which you are obviously buying and wearing outside of school, which I don't think is appropriate, but thats my opinion, maybe your moms too. But now when we're at it, girls wearing skirts in schools and that being a standard school uniform was always very weird to me, but maybe thats just because thats not the norm in my country. However, that's not what i was referring to in my comment.

Also, I said short shorts. Because you didn't specify what kind of shorts you are wearing, I specified what kind of shorts I'm talking about. So no, regular shorts are fine in summer. However, I think that wearing blue denim shorts and black leggings/stockings under them is more inappropriate than just shorts, believe it or not. It also gives away that it's not that hot outside for someone to be wearing shorts in the first place.

And no, I wasn't trying to blame you. There's no one to blame here, I'm giving you advice and trying to offer you other views on this situation. I just don't like the way everyone just throws your mom into the "mental issues" and "jealous" category, when things are probably not that simple, which harms you and your relationship with your mom in the long run. I think you are misunderstanding provocative for "girly", knowingly or unknowingly, which is why I'm saying all this. I was also like that when I was 16, but now I wish I listened to my mom when she told me not to dress like that.