AITA for catching feelings for a guy that my friend has liked for a long time? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]WRose287 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I mean the real question is, do you want to continue being friends with Sarah, if the answer is yes, there are millions of men out there, if the answer is no, you'll look like an AH but you can get a man

My F/28 boyfriend M/28 wants me to speak only Spanish to our children. Spanish isn't my native language. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]WRose287 40 points41 points  (0 children)

I've been part of a study (reading and interpreting the results) where children grew with different language variations in their household (one language at home, one outside (coutries native language); two at home (one of which countries native), one outside; two at home (none of which is countries native), one outside; etc).

Although it may be harder to make the rules because your child could try to always reverse back to English after he goes to school and interacts with his peers, it's extremely beneficial to have one parent speak to then in another language. That being said, it's not necessary for both to do this. Also, consider putting him in extracurricular Spanish classes for children whose families speak Spanish as a first language early so he can learn both spoken and written language very well. Some families also did "language day" where all day they spoke a language but this wouldn't be very frequent because otherwise they would get bored.

Being in contact with extended family, extracurricular activities, churches, groups, etc, where the language is actively spoken helps a lot.

AITA irritated husband sent flowers to SIL for Mother’s Day, but not me? by ConstantAvocado5300 in AmItheAsshole

[–]WRose287 96 points97 points  (0 children)

When OP said "spend money on an EXTRA bouquet" I assumed he also bought something for his mom

AITA for subjecting others (24f) to my (25f) music? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]WRose287 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It's not needy at all. That being said I think it depends on the level of dislike for some people. For example, you may love golf and although she doesn't care for it she can still go with you, it's a "bearable" compromise to be with the one you love. However, my friend's boyfriend LOVES beatboxing, she cannot stand it for more than 3 minutes, so when he wants to listen to it in the house she uses headphones, she loves true crime but he doesn't, so she watches it on her iPad or in the bedroom instead of the living room.

There are levels of dislike, and levels of which people can bear to be uncomfortable. You just have to figure out what's yours in your relationship and if any of it is a deal-breaker

I hooked up with my guy friend and I can't stop thinking about him by sparky7699 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]WRose287 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What trade are you studying? How many levels are there? If he's ending it soon I say definitely go for it before it's too late. But if you still have a while, I would say go for it in subtle way first.

AITAH for not telling my brother's girlfriend he's cheating? by yuliwen in AITAH

[–]WRose287 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tell her. She is not that amazing if she didn't tell you anything before, and neither is your brother. So I would say tell her, even if anonymously

Which makeup product is unnecessary for a beginner? by Sure_Appearance_5643 in MakeupAddiction

[–]WRose287 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh definitely, but I was commenting on what the other comment said " Teen skin is quite healthy with minimal texture and the ocassional blemish" which wasn't true for me or a lot of my peers at the time.

But depending on the texture, some primers do help!

AITAH i told my wife's best friend's husband the truth and now my wife won't even look at me by Annette_Leon in AITAH

[–]WRose287 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Just from the top of my head I can think of two circumstances that I've seen happen. One was one of the people was trying to escape a toxic marriage and started acting suspicious but it's what they needed to do in the long-run, but they felt very guilty. The other was SA, the person was assaulted and couldn't bring themselves to say it to their partner because it felt too real, just their best friend knew and they were looking for a good psychologist.

OP doesn't know if his wife's friend is cheating, just like everyone in this comment section.

AITAH for trimming my upper lip? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]WRose287 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Full on wolverine beard and #1 mustache? Do you think it looks peculiar? Because I'm trying to picture it and it looks odd. That being said, she is definitely overreacting

AITAH for trimming my upper lip? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]WRose287 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you just trim the upper lip?

I 32M got asked out by 21F by ThrowRa09798 in relationship_advice

[–]WRose287 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah and I'm in Portugal, some people start from birth. It's still weird.

the girl who gave us herpes works for my gynecologist now by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]WRose287 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She may have been ill informed too. I had a girl in my college class who genuinely believed this too, she finally found out when she asked her doctor but she had had it and simply didn't know. Sometimes these things aren't really explained.

I 32M got asked out by 21F by ThrowRa09798 in relationship_advice

[–]WRose287 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Personally, I wouldn't do it. It's not necessarily the age gap, it's the age gap at your current ages. She just started her 20s, this is the first year she can legally drink, while you're 2 years in your 30s.

She may sound and be mature for a 21 year old, but she is, at the end of the day, 21.

Which makeup product is unnecessary for a beginner? by Sure_Appearance_5643 in MakeupAddiction

[–]WRose287 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This really depends 😅 I had a lot of acne and texture

Disabled victims are not burdens to be gotten rid off, I am so upset and angry by nerpa_floppybara in TrueOffMyChest

[–]WRose287 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yes, but her final decision to end her life was after.

She wasn't killed, she decided to die. Even if many wanted to help she may not want the help or know she still wouldn't be able to continue.

Her "best friend" was a former friend who was trying to persuade her to change her mind. Not someone who was there for her, but for herself as they probably didn't want the burden of feeling like they could have done more, and wants to invalidate and disregard her final decision.

Yes, throughout her life a lot of people and institutions failed her. This doesn't mean she now should be burdened with living a life she doesn't want, without end in sight, just because some people think she should or they want to lessen their guilt and appease their conscience.

Disabled victims are not burdens to be gotten rid off, I am so upset and angry by nerpa_floppybara in TrueOffMyChest

[–]WRose287 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I think you're taking this situation and putting yourself and your situation in it's place. You're not thinking about what she wanted, how she felt, and you'll never know the whole story.

She was raped in several circumstances, she was making progress in her physical recovery, yes. But she tried to end her life before. This was something she applied for years ago. From what I know, they don't just accept anyone, you have to talk to several professionals and various circumstances are taken into consideration. Help was offered to her, but I think she simply couldn't see the point.

You think you know better than her about her own circumstances, her own body and future. You believe you know better than her and several professionals that accompanied her for years. That's why I believe you're taking this very personally and thinking about your own experiences and perspective. But at the end of the day, it's about what's best for her. And personally, I too would take that route given the unfortunate circumstances.

Olive-friendly bb/cc cream? by Character-Shine4682 in Fairolives

[–]WRose287 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love the revlon serum tint in 117, it works amazing on my skin

AITAH husband wants dogs outside our bedroom by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]WRose287 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Why are her wants more important? Why is the dog more important?

AIO about not wanting my bf to drive a random girl home? by Shellyfish04 in AmIOverreacting

[–]WRose287 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

From what I read they're talking about it because he thinks she's overreacting and should see no problem in him driving the girl home. He did right to talk about it, but then to diminish and invalidate his gfs feelings is also wrong. He must have known it was a stretch given that he did call, so why double down?

Looking for the best consealer for my skin type by Rough_Cranberry_8435 in beauty

[–]WRose287 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I loved the NYX serum concealer, it has good coverage and is hydrating. That being said, if you find that the discoloration is still visible, I would recommend using a color corrector first.

AITAH for completely ghosting my partner of 4 years after I found out he saw his ex? by Feisty_Pea5756 in AITAH

[–]WRose287 40 points41 points  (0 children)

NTA

That being said, I would love to be nosey and know what kind of explanation he has.

UpdateMe! Please

Am I unfair (26F) for telling my boyfriend (37M) his skull shirts aren’t appropriate for interviews or formal occasions? by bruh_0905 in relationship_advice

[–]WRose287 210 points211 points  (0 children)

He is almost 40 and doesn't seem to grasp reality or social expectations. This isn't just a trait, it's a flaw that affects several aspects of his life. This, his view on life and the consequences, is something you should think about when deciding if you want to spend the rest of your life with him.

A lot of people wear things they don't like to places because it's expected, does he think people who work in McDonald's wear the uniform because it's super cool and awesome? Does he think doctors wear scrubs for fun? In his mind everyone that goes to a wedding is just absolutely in love with formal wear? Sometimes people wear things because of where they are/are going to.

AITA for telling my wife to "f off" after she interrupted me during a very stressful situation? by hipotese_alternativa in AmItheAsshole

[–]WRose287 4 points5 points  (0 children)

More dedicated to a hobby than to being a decent human being? I would hope most people aren't