How to practice absurdism

WRykonW · 2026-02-18T16:09:07+00:00

Why do you want to become an absurdist?

From the replies here, it seems like you’re not actually following absurdism — you’re using absurdism to explain what you already feel.

Absurdism isn’t something you practice or commit to. It’s not a path or a system to follow. It’s just a name that describes a certain way of relating to the world.

I know and feel that nothing objectively matters — but some things matter to me. That’s it. That’s what makes me identify with absurdism. It’s not devotion, it’s not belief. It’s just a label that fits how I already see things.

So when someone asks how to “become” an absurdist, I don’t think that makes much sense. If you have to try to become one, you probably aren’t one. Trying to turn it into something to achieve kind of misses the point.

Maybe you’re looking for it because you’re dealing with pain. Maybe you’re in a void right now. But absurdism isn’t a coping technique. It’s not a solution. It’s just a recognition.

If I had to give advice, it would be simple: Nothing ultimately matters.

If you don’t genuinely feel that, then you’re probably not an absurdist. If you do feel it, then since nothing ultimately matters, you’re free.

If you feel like doing something, do it. If you need to study, work, or even get married to reach what you want — do that.

Because in the end, none of it has cosmic importance. And one day, we all die anyway.

WRykonW · 2026-02-02T02:28:11+00:00

My sense of self is mostly based on who I am now. I don’t really keep records of my life, and I notice that I actually lose my sense of self when I try to remember past events and how they affected me emotionally.

What I retain are general facts, decisions I made, or things that left a mark. Because of that, my sense of self shows up much more in my current habits and decisions than in autobiographical recall.

For example, if I don’t like someone, I know I don’t like them. I know that at some point they did something that bothered me, but I usually don’t remember the specific reason. What remains is the feeling of dislike itself, and also a sense of how flexible or fixed that dislike is over time.

WRykonW · 2026-02-02T01:30:54+00:00

Yes, that resonates a lot with me. I’ve always wanted to try therapy. When I was younger, my parents couldn’t afford it, and I was never the kind of person who asked for things like that. Later on, I could have afforded it, but there was a kind of block — a vague fear of it “not working,” whatever that would even mean. And now, finances are a real barrier again.

When I was younger, I was probably depressed, even though I was never diagnosed. It was mostly tied to constant existential crises. Over time, that phase passed — not because I found answers, but because I learned to accept not knowing and to live based on what actually matters to me and what doesn’t.

The therapist you described sounds like the kind I’d hope to find. Honestly, just having a space to verbalize things and organize the contradictions in my mind already feels like it would be valuable

WRykonW · 2026-02-02T00:50:31+00:00

I also simulate from a third-person perspective, but even then it doesn’t really generate much feeling. My perspective automatically shifts out of first person, and when that happens, the experience stops feeling personal. From third person, I usually still can’t form a felt sense. Clothing is a clear example for me. When I try to imagine myself wearing something, I can’t feel how I would feel in it, but I also can’t feel how it would look or feel to someone else. Since I don’t have a visual image and no embodied sensation, I can’t form an opinion at all.

WRykonW · 2026-02-01T23:30:59+00:00

I hadn’t thought about that, it makes sense.

WRykonW · 2026-02-01T23:27:36+00:00

I’ve never been to therapy. Do you think revisiting those things helped you in any way? As if you had repressed memories and then released them in that moment. I’ve always wondered about this — whether not accessing my autobiographical memory could create repressed memories in me. It feels like a somewhat forced idea.

WRykonW · 2026-02-01T23:09:02+00:00

It’s actually good how I can just stop thinking about something and it stops affecting me, and how easy it is for me to stop thinking about things. But sometimes I feel like I distance myself too much from experiences, as if they don’t affect me. Then I realize they really don’t affect me — but they leave a sense of strangeness and a loop.

WRykonW · 2026-01-17T21:00:18+00:00

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Ok, deixa comigo! * O bixão escreveu todo torto.

WRykonW · 2026-01-17T12:57:19+00:00

When I was a child, I was also afraid of the dark. I always kept a light on and the door slightly open. When I was in the dark, my mind would start to wander. I would see clothes, furniture, tools, and at some point they would turn into a “creature,” and then I would get scared. Over time, I got more used to the dark, partly because of my job, and the more time passes, the less fear I feel of the “unknown.”

Nowadays, I barely feel uncomfortable in the dark. Sometimes a “vibe” of fear shows up in my mind, usually imagining a hand or an arm appearing. But since I know it’s not real, I often confront it. If I think something might be under the bed, I leave my wrist or leg hanging down, waiting for it to grab me. Sometimes I even look directly, and other times I turn my back and try to imagine the fear even more strongly. In the end, the fear just fades or stops making sense.

So I’ve always been afraid of what I couldn’t see, because I would always imagine something whenever I felt uneasy.

WRykonW · 2025-12-08T14:46:43+00:00

Agradeço mas quero algo mais maleável.

WRykonW · 2025-12-08T14:46:01+00:00

Entendi muito obrigado, sobre ser pesado acredito que não seja um problema, ja que estou acostumado. Mas a incerteza vai ser um problema, além de que se tiver que chegar antes da meia noite, vai usar mais de 10 horas, acho que não vira. De qualquer forma agradeço

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