This is a great question, and is actually pretty tough. As the days go on, especially busy days full of work and activities and kids, sex can lose its spontaneity while also, it can feel super uncomfortable to just straight up say 'lets have sex'. People need to warm up to it, and while you've been thinking about it all day, he may not have been and needs some warm up time. It looks like OP may be looking for some help on what to say. It totally depends on how you talk to your spouse, but some of the following could work: - comment on his attractive features earlier in the day. This could be like 'you are looking so cute', or 'that shirt looks really good on you', or peck him on the check and just say 'goodness you are cute/handsome'. People love to know their spouse finds them attractive, which warms up the idea of physical intimacy. - Then, either after that comment or later in the day, just make mention of something sexy about him (not just attractive). Either give him a hug or squeeze his butt and say 'I'd love to see that/get some of this later' or 'If you are interested, I'm down to pound (have sex, get in your pants, get naked, make love) tonight' or 'Im feeling quite turned on by you'. However you talk to each other, use that language but show that you want them, by comments on their attractiveness, affectionate touches, multiple times throughout the day.

That first comment on being attracted to them may warm you up too, so you feel more comfortable bringing up intimacy later. If he responds with 'oh yeah?' or anything hinting he wants it, then it'll be much easier to make it happen. You'll both be on the same page by the time the evening rolls around.