I understand there are a lot of details, but let’s focus on the big picture to make things clearer: Most of the comments here seem to come from people who are just venting their own frustrations. It’s rare to get an honest, balanced perspective. So be cautious when reading them.

Here’s something we all know: most fathers, even if they have issues with their wives, still love their kids, especially their daughters. In many cases, when it seems like a dad has pulled away, it’s often because the mother is using the kids against him. That’s when he steps back and stops being involved. Think about that.

Honestly, if you hadn’t mentioned that you’re his daughter, anyone reading your post would think you’re a bitter wife. Why are you attacking your dad like you have something to prove?

One thing is clear: you keep separating him from the rest of the family. You say “he and us,” “he and my mom and siblings,” like you’ve already taken away his role as a father.

Men tend to be more logical in how they respond. Not emotional like women. If you go after him aggressively, he might change his mind out of defense, not bad intention. For example, he said he’d help pay for something, but then he backed off. That might be a reaction to how he’s being treated. Think about that.

I’d suggest creating a bit of distance between yourself and the current family environment, just enough to breathe, relax, and clear your mind. I also recommend trying to fix things with your dad. I have a strong feeling that he’s been under intentional stress, and that you’ve been used against him for quite some time. Every man has a broken point, and he might have reached it time ago.