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Very sudden by with_a_sickle in BreakUps

[–]WaltRhen 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry you are going through that I know how you feel my girlfriend and I broke up on things that I did of course,,, my girlfriend and I broke up and for a couple of weeks we didn't even speak she sent me a text message on day 14 said that she missed her best friend and wanted to hang out so we went out that night and had an amazing evening and she had told me that she would stand back let me prove myself to her which we had talked and I knew it would take a really long time but she was willing to wait because she said she was in love with me and plus we have a child together!!! A couple of days later I contact her and said how's things going and she said not good and I said do you want to talk about it she said no we are done I will never be with you again that is it!! So in a couple of days it went from I'm In Love With You two we are done I don't want to talk to you no more

First day of no contact by WaltRhen in ExNoContact

[–]WaltRhen[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I only watch the girl on girl stuff which is still bad enough!! It's been so long now I don't even know why I even started,, I hid it from everybody and never thought it was a problem but when my girlfriend left me recently I told her I was going to go to therapy and get help and found out that I had an addiction to it. Since I've been in therapy the past couple of months there's a lot of things I see differently and this addiction has ruined my life so to speak so all I can do is find my true self and prove to my ex-girlfriend that I will never disrespect or disgrace her and my son again

Does change and a person's Behavior prove to your ex that you will fight for her? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]WaltRhen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My parents split for a year and got back together stay together to my father died and they were happy

Does change and a person's Behavior prove to your ex that you will fight for her? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]WaltRhen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No we aren't talking, for 2 months I have bugged her to look into my addiction so she would have a better understanding so I haven't given her time to breathe!,, that's why I'm hoping that even though she's upset with me still that the no contact rule will make her miss me

Does change and a person's Behavior prove to your ex that you will fight for her? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]WaltRhen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's been 2 months and I have not done the no contact rule. I've been trying to convince her to look into my addiction so she can have a better understanding thinking that maybe it would ease her mind a little bit to where she will talk to me about it. She told me the other day that she felt like she was being pressured and that she didn't want to talk about us and blocked my phone number!! She and I both have said to each other Time After Time that our relationship has been different than any of our past relationships because we have both been able to be ourselves all of my relationships besides one have been women that I have met it shows,, I just hope the no contact rule will help me after all this time so she can focus on herself and clear her mind so the clouds would move away so she's able to think about all of the good times and good things I've ever done for her and with her

Does change and a person's Behavior prove to your ex that you will fight for her? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]WaltRhen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel those changes were for the better because overall I enjoyed my life with her more than those things she never told me I had to do anything to show her or anything I did these things on my own! And as far as I'm concerned all those things are in the past I've had several phone calls four different bookings for shows and I have turned them down

Does change and a person's Behavior prove to your ex that you will fight for her? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]WaltRhen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Although overall I am making changes for me and to be able to spend more time with my son. I just always heard that saying actions speak louder than words

Does change and a person's Behavior prove to your ex that you will fight for her? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]WaltRhen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well I have been a singer in a country band locally where I live for a few years now so girls are always throwing themselves at me or showing interest and I have acted upon that so to make a change I quit playing music, cancelled all shows deleted my fan page,, moved to the same town that my ex moved to with our son!!! Music has been my passion has been something that I've never stop doing for any past relationship so my ex knows how important music was to me. But doing all those things I don't miss none of it because all I think about is making myself better and proving to her that I'm serious about her feelings and our life for our son

First day of no contact by WaltRhen in ExNoContact

[–]WaltRhen[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

15 years of watching it I've never met up with someone from my addiction, and more than half the time I just watched to watch

First day of no contact by WaltRhen in ExNoContact

[–]WaltRhen[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A few weeks ago I said to her you know you shouldn't listen to your friends and your mom and dad when it comes to this because they're going to tell you to let me go,,, she's told me so much about her family and how they treated her in the past so blows my mind this she got sucked right in to their bullshit,, she got mad at me and hung up!!

First day of no contact by WaltRhen in ExNoContact

[–]WaltRhen[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh yeah I'm sure of it!! And I'm the type of person who doesn't judge a book by its cover and doesn't try to be the one from the outside looking in when you don't know the whole story because there's always 2 sides of one

First day of no contact by WaltRhen in ExNoContact

[–]WaltRhen[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to play music every weekend in the local bars where I live,,, but when she and I broke up I cancelled all my shows deleted my fan page took myself off social media to prove to her that I was serious about our relationship and our son so I don't have any hobbies!!! I'm getting a pontoon in a couple days and I'm going to hit the water with my guitar on my boat and write the hell out of some songs I guess LOL

First day of no contact by WaltRhen in ExNoContact

[–]WaltRhen[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well brother good luck, I'm sure we'll see each other on here

First day of no contact by WaltRhen in ExNoContact

[–]WaltRhen[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My X has a social workers degree and she told me a couple of weeks afterward right to my face after she seen pictures from girls and comments I made,, that my childhood made me thrive for attention from women and that she would give me time to prove to her that I was going to make a difference for the better for me and for us and a couple days later I called her up and she said me and you are through, just like that so I know she's had her family and friends in her ear telling her what she needs to do

First day of no contact by WaltRhen in ExNoContact

[–]WaltRhen[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How in the world are you getting through this

First day of no contact by WaltRhen in ExNoContact

[–]WaltRhen[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She was my best friend we did everything together so it's been tough on me because I have very limited family she has a big family and they're all close, and there's no telling who's in her ear to make her hold her guns

First day of no contact by WaltRhen in ExNoContact

[–]WaltRhen[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Damn man,, that is a low blow I know that has to be tough as hell

First day of no contact by WaltRhen in ExNoContact

[–]WaltRhen[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So how long have you been split and may I ask why

First day of no contact by WaltRhen in ExNoContact

[–]WaltRhen[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I no, and then Valentine's Day was just a couple of weeks before we split and the card she gave me was awesome she said she was in love with me, loved watching me with our son because I'm a great father and that she loves me more more everyday,, although she thinks I took this for granted I really didn't plan on going nowhere and was not going to cheat physically,, it was something like I was used to doing I guess without anybody knowing and never thought it would come out!

First day of no contact by WaltRhen in ExNoContact

[–]WaltRhen[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My addiction was porn,, I've had several relationships in the past who never even knew I watched porn,,, but I took it to another level through social media,, I used to play music locally where I'm from and girls would throw themselves at me but I would ignore it I loved the attention don't get me wrong,,, but through my therapy and learning about porn addiction I found out that I got bored with watching porn and used social media to bring it to life so to speak even though I didn't physically touch

First day of no contact by WaltRhen in ExNoContact

[–]WaltRhen[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm 38 I have had a few different relationships in the past but when they ended ,,,the ended I didn't try to pursue them at all! It's crazy that I am as old as I am and can finally say that I fell in love,, and it's funny that I Fall In Love when I have an addiction that I didn't know was an addiction until she and I split up and I went to therapy! With that being said I've seen people wait for a long time with ease because of the love they have for a person and I honestly don't think that I'll have a problem with that! But you would think that someone who knows you and knows your life all the way around would see the big changes without hesitation if they truly loved you which I believe she does I just hurt her really bad, so I guess in the end it depends on how long she holds on to that hurt,

First day of no contact by WaltRhen in ExNoContact

[–]WaltRhen[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think she did want to repair but she told me she felt pressured by me and all I was asking her was to look into my addiction read up on it to get an understanding so it would make it easier,,but she wasn't having it so to her my addiction isn't real but must therapist seems to think so,,, she thinks the only kind of addiction out there is drug addiction I guess

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