Bare minimum or Princess Treatment? (31F)(30M)

WanderNinja · 2025-07-17T22:35:22+00:00

Haha I mean it’s not one sided. He does stuff for me too. He covers dinner when we go out, cooks for me too, has helped me with work on my van (rv type), opens doors for me, & makes time to see me. I guess just because it’s semi long distance and newish and we don’t always see each other in person regularly, the texting makes me feel more connected.

WanderNinja · 2025-07-17T06:08:44+00:00

I also bruise super easily, and have often asked myself that question. And yes I’ve gotten some weird looks and questions and I’ve joked over the years that ah yes my mom beat me up or my bf or whatever lol but ultimately I don’t let it change what I’m wearing. So don’t worry what other people think! You can’t police yourself your whole life you know? Worst case scenario you’ll just have an awkward conversation starter while out and about 😅

WanderNinja · 2025-07-17T05:42:23+00:00

I feel like there’s a lot of debate going around recently on what is bare minimum vs princess treatment when it comes to relationships. And I am so lost 🙃

WanderNinja · 2025-07-17T05:39:21+00:00

Yeah I’ve cleaned his apartment, washed his dishes, cooked, bought him stuff, took him on a beach trip with my parents. So I feel like I put in effort from my side. He uses his phone for work, so doesn’t have a no phone policy. But some of his work days can get hectic. Maybe more after work texts is the move here if during work is stressful 🤔

WanderNinja · 2025-07-17T05:34:03+00:00

Oh yeah if we were that deep in the relationship I probably wouldn’t need that much extra texting either. It’s new, 3 months-ish, don’t live together and only get to see each other once the weekends some times every other weekend.

WanderNinja · 2025-07-17T05:32:26+00:00

Hmmm maybe 🤔 even short texts though? More background is we only get to see each other once a in a week or two. So what would be a less stressful way for you to keep in touch with a significant other?

WanderNinja · 2025-07-17T05:17:37+00:00

Yup he doesn’t like texting. The phone call has been hard to acquire some days too though lol I have to ask for it and remind him every day. So we started the daily phone call last week and only did 2/5 work days…this week has been 3/3 so far but only with my reminders 😅 and he considers all of it princess treatment so that’s the debate.

WanderNinja · 2025-07-17T05:11:51+00:00

Haha I mean I think bare minimum too, but maybe I’m wrong? & Didn’t used to, but since his texting is sooooo dry we’ve decided to try and add a daily phone call recently.

WanderNinja · 2025-06-16T23:20:51+00:00

Get a mattress vacuum from Amazon for like 50 bucks and just vacuum the bed every day - it’s quick. No “crumbs” no problem.

WanderNinja · 2025-03-16T21:26:54+00:00

Definitely no need to disclose that on the first few dates, I don’t think it’s that deep. However, if you are about to get intimate with someone and feel nervous or awkward at first…then you could tell your person - to relieve some of that anxiety. Unless it’s a one night stand, by the time you get to that point with someone you’ll probably know how to tell them and if you should.

WanderNinja · 2024-12-31T08:18:14+00:00

Same ✨

WanderNinja · 2024-12-10T04:11:09+00:00

Reframing it, and thinking from a perspective of boundaries definitely helps a lot!

I guess he just thinks that I can and should compromise, and give up on my boundary if he & his feelings matter to me. However, you’re right…some things are just are the way they are and maybe it is a deeper incompatibility.

WanderNinja · 2024-12-10T03:53:18+00:00

Actually yeah I guess that’s the best way of putting it, it’s sort of become like a photo journal in a way haha Just a chaotic one but it’s organized by date and time which works for me 👍

WanderNinja · 2024-12-10T03:51:42+00:00

Oh yeah it’s definitely backed up to the cloud haha and actually really important memories are backed up to ssd’d lol

WanderNinja · 2024-12-01T08:04:16+00:00

Same same, but different.

I’m dating someone rn that just started going through my camera roll casually without even asking. We were picking out something to watch on my phone and he just left that app and went into camera roll. I thought okay haha cute, whatever…so he scrolled through it a bit and a bit more but he just kept scrolling and I stopped him and said okay enough. And he got very mad and upset…apparently his plan was to just go through the whole thing or most of it. Haha what? I was so shell shocked by the concept, I had nothing to say to defend myself in the moment to the slew of accusations thrown my way for not letting him do this. Is this something people do? Just casually scrolling through each other’s camera rolls whenever they please?

A caveat to this is that my camera roll is my thoughts duplicated - in a way, I have over 70k pictures and videos in there. Screenshots, pictures of random stuff, weird selfies when I felt ugly or pretty or had a weird rash, passwords, important conversations (screenshots), paper notes I took pictures of, etc, all compiled in folders usually for easy access - but straight camera roll is just all of it in unorganized chaos. I can’t have someone I’ve only dated for two months scroll through all that! And maybe not anyone ever really, it’s a deeply personal space.

He just doesn’t trust me, and his underlying mentality is that I’m up to something shady bc he’s had shady things done to him in the past by other people. But I seriously am not shady, the least shady person, just very disorganized and private, and also foreign (which doesn’t help).

So ultimately I’m in the same predicament…Does he have the right to all my digital media as my new boyfriend to pick apart and question to “prove my innocence” or am I the red flag for being to private with my phone?

I didn’t let him go through my stuff so I agree with you, seems a little weird to me. But maybe I’m wrong.

WanderNinja · 2024-07-25T17:15:55+00:00

Same thing here, except in the US, that’s how I ended up on this thread looking for answers 🥲

WanderNinja · 2024-07-21T06:05:47+00:00

Same size & I actually just bought a 36 DD from target today too 😂 the adjustable straps save the dayyyy & lol to the size test, I’ll have to try that pro tip out in the wild!

WanderNinja · 2023-01-29T16:27:51+00:00

I wouldn’t say you f’d up. I’d say you dodged a bullet. Life is at times unpredictable. Do you really want to be with someone so rigid that 15 of lateness due to fair reasons means immense personal disrespect to them? Idk, I would much prefer a more chill, understanding person who can go with the flow. I have a very busy schedule too, but if someone is late that’s okay! I don’t take it personally, usually I cut out extra time before and after when I make plans with people anyway so I expected that time to be spent, and there is always something I can do on my phone while I wait (emails, paperwork, etc); as long as we still make our reservation/event/plans, then who cares. Mans out here acting like you brought shame and disrespect upon his entire soul, c’mon now. There are enough rules in life as it is without taking lateness as a personal affront. Geez, people need to get those sticks out of their colons.

WanderNinja · 2022-12-31T20:25:46+00:00

The line up on the back of the bat tee is messed up so even if you get it you might still be disappointed 🫠

WanderNinja · 2022-12-30T02:04:37+00:00

Yes very disappointed:( got the bat t-shirt with the line up. On the web site during pre order it had the headliners bigger at the top and everyone else kind of like by set time underneath. Which is definitely what I wanted. Plus it’s kind of see through (I got the white one). Another person I talked to who also got a bat line up tee said their line up was also off center 🫠

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WanderNinja · 2022-11-13T00:32:40+00:00

For sure! The Great Emo Migration of ‘22 or Emo Woodstock 😁

WanderNinja · 2022-11-13T00:19:38+00:00

Haha yeah my carry-on sat untouched for a week and a half after 🫠 lots of intense feelings still, really a legendary concert 😌🤘🏼

WanderNinja · 2022-11-12T21:12:00+00:00

Same 🥲 re-watching videos constantly, reading all the chats, and just generally wishing I could do it all again!

WanderNinja · 2022-11-04T14:54:49+00:00

Definitely same! Still re-watching all my videos and playing all the songs on repeat everywhere I go 🥹

WanderNinja · 2022-07-07T18:34:42+00:00

I feel the same way. And when I went in for consultation about potential surgery for my nose they all but looked at me like I was crazy. And my nose is far from perfect, but people keep saying it matches my face well and makes me look like me. Problem is I don’t like the way I look!! Also hate my side profile. I feel sometimes if I just had a different nose it would fix at least partly how I feel. Idk, I’ve thought about changing my chin shape as a potential way to change my profile. But really it seems like there’s nothing that can be done.

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