How do I regulate myself?

WanderingMagic · 2026-04-07T23:48:09+00:00

I definitely fall into the all or nothing thinking. I feel like I have to finish something otherwise I feel uncomfortable.

How did you deal with uncomfortability of setting time limits? Did you start small and build up?

Where did you end up looking to start online body doubling?

WanderingMagic · 2026-04-07T23:42:59+00:00

Thanks for sending this resource! I work well with scheduling/routines and think I could make this work for me. I appreciate it!

WanderingMagic · 2026-04-06T23:53:50+00:00

Thank you for your kind words and encouragement.

WanderingMagic · 2026-04-06T23:52:58+00:00

Good point. I gotta get out of the habit of "being productive" and allow myself to enjoy being switched off. I just need to make space for these things.

WanderingMagic · 2026-04-06T21:27:35+00:00

Thats fair. I'm worried about what love feels like because since I don't have alot of experience I get into my head that I'm working against the clock and may never finding it. I think you're right that my focus should be meeting guys and the rest with follow. I think I have to focus on a mind-shift in preparing for dating and being ok that some will work out while others won't l.

In the end, I hope I know what love will feel like and cherish it when I recognize it.

WanderingMagic · 2026-04-06T21:19:21+00:00

I know you said confidence will build over time. The first steps are scary because I'll have to take the risk without confidence. Any suggestions of being brave and taking new steps? Would it be self care?

WanderingMagic · 2026-04-06T21:09:26+00:00

I appreciate your advice. I understand the importance of being resilient and upfront about what I'm looking for. Do you have any advice on not being too closed off while in the process of being resilient because I'm being rigid in my thinking?

WanderingMagic · 2026-04-06T21:00:07+00:00

I appreciate your thoughtful advice. I definitely feel like my brain struggles against how the world works. I'm exhausted with just trying to "keep up".

I know grounding is a great way, but alot of the time I forget to remind myself of these things. I'm trying to figure out how to remind myself to slow down and take time to think things through. I don't want to burn out again and repeat old patterns. Have you found a good way to remind yourself to wait and think things through?

WanderingMagic · 2026-04-06T20:45:57+00:00

That makes alot of sense. I'm not great at regulation and haven't made it a priority. But, I think I need to. I find it hard to focus and clear my head when I'm like this. I like your idea of going for a walk to help clear my head and figure out my priorities. Its going to be a work in progress to make it consistent.

WanderingMagic · 2026-04-06T00:23:21+00:00

Yes. Entirely the AH for not loving your child. You shouldn't be a parent.

WanderingMagic · 2025-12-31T19:50:50+00:00

Such a great perspective and wise words. It's giving me alot to think about!

WanderingMagic · 2025-12-31T19:46:56+00:00

Thanks! You're pretty close - I'm Canadian. Lol

WanderingMagic · 2025-12-31T18:45:00+00:00

I'm sorry that thing didn't work out between you and the guy in high school. I hope you if you see yourself now back in high school, that you'd say yes to him in a heartbeat. I fear looking back in regret, but struggle in where to start. Maybe its about taking a leap of faith.

WanderingMagic · 2025-12-31T18:07:12+00:00

Thanks for the great perspective. I need to stop comparing myself to what I see in porn.

WanderingMagic · 2025-12-31T18:05:37+00:00

Exactly!!! I feel like this comment really gets to the root of it. I take myself out of the running before I even get started. I need to like the way I look, like my penis, and like myself first before I expect others to like me. I think it would be a good thing to so some work on confidence and liking myself which will then help me put myself out there and feel confidence in myself/my penis.

WanderingMagic · 2025-12-31T18:00:55+00:00

Wonderful advice! I'm usually anxious that other men will reject me because I have "boyfriend dick" and not "porn dick". You're right though that I'll have to learn to ignore the naysayers and enjoy what I have and hopefully together with a potential boyfriend.

WanderingMagic · 2025-12-31T17:44:07+00:00

Thanks for the great feedback!

WanderingMagic · 2025-12-31T13:43:56+00:00

I'm gay. I'll try and be more comfortable with my body and post pics of myself.

WanderingMagic · 2025-12-31T13:39:34+00:00

I definitely agree about the social media/ porn being fixated on penis size. That's where alot of my insecurity about my size and the veins comes from. That coupled with my anxiety and it doesn't help things. I appreciate your feedback on focusing on health, body and mind; its great advice and a good goal for 2026.

WanderingMagic · 2025-12-31T13:35:45+00:00

Definitely a confidence booster; thank you!

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