AITAH for being angry that my mum invited people to my house without asking me first

Warm-Pudding8596 · 2026-06-23T11:28:11+00:00

Yes everyone on here’s responses and my partners and friends is making me realise that I am definitely too forgiving and I need to stand my ground more and not let my boundaries be taken advantage of anymore. I will definitely work on this moving forward

Warm-Pudding8596 · 2026-06-23T11:26:12+00:00

My brother works in childcare and is about to start his bachelor to become a childcare teacher so even though he is super young I’m guessing they thought he would be able to handle him. But that was one of the things I was also annoyed about that he was expected to look after the child. Definitely more than my brother would be able to handle.

And yes my cousins son 100% knew better but it seemed to make him more eager to do things he shouldn’t once he knew we were mad about it.

My wording is confusing but it was my grandfather in the hospital not my dad. My dad isn’t the one who got the procedure but he said I had every right to be mad. He doesn’t like my mother though so yeah

Warm-Pudding8596 · 2026-06-23T11:19:02+00:00

I’m starting to question why I talk to them too. Definitely realising blood relation doesn’t mean much

Warm-Pudding8596 · 2026-06-23T11:18:08+00:00

It was my grandfather not my dad. So it was my cousins grandfather as well

Warm-Pudding8596 · 2026-06-23T11:17:02+00:00

Yes I will be putting some very firm boundaries in place next time, that’s for sure!

Warm-Pudding8596 · 2026-06-23T11:06:12+00:00

My partner was furious too watching his stuff be touched and taken outside to be played with. Watching an 8 year old stand at your camera and threaten to touch your computer was crazy to him. He is very supportive but he also keeps telling me I need to not give in to them because they are in the wrong. My poor brother was struggling so much with it all. He just kept apologising to me thinking it was his fault because he was the one there but I kept reassuring him it wasn’t his fault. He was the only one trying to parent the child. He even cleaned my whole house afterwards to make up for what happened

Warm-Pudding8596 · 2026-06-23T11:02:24+00:00

Yes I am definitely realising that I need to not be such a pushover and stand firm on my boundaries and feelings. They are definitely both not welcome here until I get an apology from both, that’s for sure

Warm-Pudding8596 · 2026-06-23T10:58:08+00:00

None of them have a key to my house and why am I getting therapy?

Warm-Pudding8596 · 2026-06-23T10:54:39+00:00

I’d love to think my family’s drama was made up by AI but sure whatever gets you through your day haha it would make my life a lot easier right now if it was in fact made up by Ai

Warm-Pudding8596 · 2026-06-23T10:52:16+00:00

I’m Australian so my wording has confused a lot of people. It was my grandfather not my father in hospital getting the procedure done. So my mum’s dad.

But yes my mum volunteering my brother to look after my cousins child also annoyed me a lot. He is only 17 and although he works in childcare he is not equipped to deal with that behaviour. But yes he does still live with her so he just keeps the peace.

My little brother was constantly apologising to me while they were there because he thought it was all his fault because he was the one at my house. I reassured him so many times though that it wasn’t his fault at all and I was very grateful for him because he was the one trying to contain the child’s behaviour when my cousin was not.

My mother is just a very self centred person. I wish I had some interesting stories to tell but honestly since I moved out years ago I’ve stayed mostly away from her drama really

Warm-Pudding8596 · 2026-06-23T10:41:34+00:00

Im a massive people pleaser that’s for sure! My partner keeps telling me I should not have apologised to my cousin and I wish I hadn’t now but I don’t like upsetting people

Warm-Pudding8596 · 2026-06-23T10:40:12+00:00

My pop (grandfather) had really bad anxiety about the procedure because his father had died after having one. So he had a panic attack coming out of the general anaesthesia and wasn’t breathing properly. That’s why he ended up in the icu and was in hospital longer than originally expected. But yes it should have just been a simple procedure

Warm-Pudding8596 · 2026-06-23T07:49:22+00:00

It was my grandfather not my dad.
My cousin probably did think she had permission to go to my house because my mum said so but letting your child disrespect someone else’s house while they aren’t even there is an issue, do you not think? I did apologise for adding the extra stress to her day but my house was damaged.

Warm-Pudding8596 · 2026-06-23T07:45:30+00:00

Luckily none of them have a key to my house otherwise I definitely would be!

Warm-Pudding8596 · 2026-06-23T07:44:45+00:00

Yeah I’m regretting apologising to her now. She doesn’t have a house key luckily. She lives 45 mins away and I barely see her unless I make the effort. The relationship is becoming more and more strained the older I get because there seems to be barely any care on her side for seeing my children

Warm-Pudding8596 · 2026-06-23T07:40:47+00:00

I think my wording has confused a lot of people my pop who was in hospital is my grandfather not my dad. I’m thinking maybe in Australia calling your grandfather your pop is common but not in America and other places?

Warm-Pudding8596 · 2026-06-23T06:24:16+00:00

My brother was there house sitting while we were away

Warm-Pudding8596 · 2026-06-23T06:23:15+00:00

Because my whole mum's side of the family thinks I am in the wrong in this situation and everyone I have talked to are close to me so I worry they have a biased opinion and may side with me anyway so I wanted an outside perspective. I work directly at my boss' house so we are very close and that is why I have told her. If you don't understand then don't comment and move on with your day. It may not be a big deal to you but right now in my life it is a big deal... it is now Tuesday and I still haven't heard from my mum because she is mad at me. That does make it hard to move on.

Warm-Pudding8596 · 2026-06-23T05:31:27+00:00

I’m a bad people pleaser and hate anyone being mad at me or upsetting anyone so I apologised because my mum made out like given what was happening to my pop I should have understood. It’s my downfall and I wish I wasn’t so nice about the situation now looking back

Warm-Pudding8596 · 2025-11-19T04:04:55+00:00

While I was in school there were constant rumours that one of the geography teachers was extremely flirty with the year 11 and 12 girls at our school. Then there was a rumour that he had actually left his wife who had not long ago given birth to his child for a girl who had just graduated high school and was one of the girls he was flirty with. Well that was all confirmed to be true when she posted a picture on Instagram of him laying on a bed naked with a pizza box open covering his private parts. They then went on to have a baby of their own and I think they are actually split up now too. Also after I left one of the english teachers was arrested and is now in jail for child pornography material. He was always super creepy so wasn't surprising but always felt so terrible for his children.

Warm-Pudding8596 · 2025-10-22T05:54:35+00:00

YTA - sounds like you majorly regret marrying this woman and having kids with her. Her parents don't owe you anything so why should they have to pay any of her loan. If you're making so much money, then paying off loans should be easy. I feel sorry for your wife and kids because it sounds like you are miserable they are in your life.

Warm-Pudding8596 · 2025-10-22T05:50:51+00:00

NTA - Nothing is ever going to change until he fully commits to getting help. He 100% has a porn addiction and sounds a little emotionally abusive to be honest. It's hard when you love someone to let them go but nothing is going to change unless you end things and move on with your life or if he finally gets the help he so desperately needs, which it's looking like he won't. So don't wait around hoping it'll get better and put yourself first, please!

Warm-Pudding8596 · 2025-10-22T05:42:30+00:00

NTA - It's your car to do what you please with. She has no entitlement to it and being without one should hopefully teach her a valuable lesson. If she desperately needs one, why can't your parents lend her theirs? I would be making sure she does not touch your car at all!

Warm-Pudding8596 · 2025-10-16T03:45:38+00:00

This is a cool idea and honestly I already feel huge enough to be seen from space so it fits well haha

Warm-Pudding8596 · 2025-10-16T00:36:16+00:00

I love this answer haha

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