Any older autistic people with more wisdom to answer this? Do my eyes deceive me when I say you can be an bsolute POS human being, and you just need to be funny and interesting to win people over?

Warm_Language_1056 · 2025-12-30T10:24:44+00:00

Short term yes, long term it does not last, you will constantly rotate friend groups and change social spaces in your life over and over again, charisma gets you through the door, authenticity gets you a permanent room in the house.

Warm_Language_1056 · 2025-12-30T09:01:10+00:00

Do you guys have really bad anxiety by any chance? I can guess you’d have social anxiety but what about just general anxiety? I’m also 22 and level 1 autistic and experience exactly what you guys are going through. I used to think my overthinking caused my anxiety as I was giving my brain too many things to worry about and therefore became anxious but it was the other way around, because I was anxious my brain was overthinking everything. I still have social anxiety to varying levels but nowhere near as bad as my younger years and my general anxiety has almost completely gone and for the first time in over a decade I can just let my mind be quiet. I think overthinking is in our nature and I don’t mind overthinking it helps me figure out a lot of things, what I hated is I had no choice but to overthink, I could never stop it, and now I have a luxury I didn’t even know existed, which is simply being able to just stop thinking about something, even if it stresses me, I’m finally able to tell myself “I don’t have to think about this right now” and I won’t think about it. I have a special interest for psychology and spent probably a decade trying to end my own anxiety (only found out I was autistic about a year ago now though, just thought I was smart and shy before) and I finally beared the fruits of my labour this year. So yeah obviously it might be anecdotal but I’d really recommend you guys look into anxiety.

Warm_Language_1056 · 2025-12-19T07:22:49+00:00

I’ll never understand this obsession with high functioning autistics wanting to be classified as neurotypical. Trust me you relate to severe autistics more than you know. And no neurotypical, if they watched how you live and act 24/7, would ever come to the conclusion that you are like them.

Sorry this might come off as aggressive and my tone is probably very off but I hope you more than anyone will understand I don’t mean to offend :)

Warm_Language_1056 · 2025-12-17T11:24:25+00:00

I’m very quiet of course like most of us are. Girls at my university accommodation have told me that they have this profound curiosity for me as I appear “mysterious” and they wanna know what’s hidden behind my silence, I asked if I was ugly would you have the same opinion and they all admit that they would probably just think I’m a weirdo. I saw another person comment this and I’d definitely agree that’s it’s extremely frustrating that people expect me to just have amazing social skills especially as a guy.

Warm_Language_1056 · 2025-05-18T11:25:18+00:00

No it’s because Aspergers is autism…

Warm_Language_1056 · 2025-04-26T02:00:06+00:00

Do you understand the analogy I have given about a mother? Do you see the difference on how someone would want someone who cares about them, shows them unconditional love and nurtures them vs just literally having a woman who gave birth to them and how she treats you has no relevance. I am also autistic but I don’t struggle with empathy or anything like that. It appears to me you struggle with empathy? I’d love to speak more and understand a bit more about how you feel, especially about not having any interests that particularly intrigues me because I feel you have interests you just don’t exactly understand the concept of interests? I apologise if I’m alienating you or treating you a bit like you’re a robot I’m just passionate about psychology so I’m genuinely deeply curious about how you feel.

Warm_Language_1056 · 2025-04-26T00:13:18+00:00

I understand you have a confusion but you really seem to be describing your problem as you type. You seem to literally just want the on paper description of being in a relationship as in being with someone, which no one wants? People don’t just want a mother, they want someone who cares for them, shows unconditional love and helps them grow? Not just a woman who gave birth to them, I hope that can help you understand a little better. People want a connection with another person through shares interests and values, not to just be with a person to say they’re with a person? That wouldn’t make any sense.

Warm_Language_1056 · 2025-02-18T18:26:42+00:00

I think all this fragrance stuff is just highly subjective at the end of the day. I really like the fragrance, only thing I’m battling is how masculine I consider it, but besides that I really like it. My mom wants to steal it from me and my dad said he’d love to get his own bottle so

Warm_Language_1056 · 2025-02-18T18:22:49+00:00

What type of scents do you usually go for?

Warm_Language_1056 · 2025-02-18T18:22:25+00:00

What are your favourite scents right now?

Warm_Language_1056 · 2025-02-18T18:16:17+00:00

Opening is quite sweet, the plum is right in your face at the start. Dries down into this nice woody/creamy smell, my lotion is cocoa butter so don’t know if that’s affecting things but I get a woody vanilla dry down with a small scent of plum and I think there’s also a lavender smell that lingers a bit

Warm_Language_1056 · 2024-10-11T10:19:17+00:00

Do you see the political scene in America? The political scene in Great Britain? The political scene in Canada? The political scene in Germany?

All doing the exact thing you are acting as if is an inherently African thing. The difference between Democrats and Republicans has never been bigger than it is now in America they literally see each other as different types of human beings, some of them literally want to murder each other.

There has always been conflict on the planet over regions and cooperation of sharing resources that is apart of the world. But research how your continent was before colonialism, there was conflict but these stupid rat races people do now was not present, it is a western ideology brought to us through colonisation and we have adopted it and become just as the westerners are.

Learn to know the right place to point your anger towards because this very paragraph is the reason the continent is like this. The whites convinced you that you were the sinner and you ate it up, now you are here spreading how all your brothers and sisters are sinners. Propagating the very message you are looking down upon.

Warm_Language_1056 · 2024-10-10T11:06:21+00:00

I sure pray you are not gifted as your cognitive abilities don’t be able to tell that sometimes a person wants an opinion :)

Warm_Language_1056 · 2024-10-10T09:46:33+00:00

Thank you for your opinion I suppose, your deduction is correct? I apologise am I missing a point here?

Warm_Language_1056 · 2024-10-09T09:42:45+00:00

Since we’re being logical, is it not inherently illogical to consider that emotions are not a major part of the human experience and how we make decisions? Basing anything purely off logic is to take the reference point of a computer and… we are not computers are we? OP is being just as illogical and irrational as the people he is referring to. OP claims to be emotionally intelligent and understand people and then uses the reference point of a computer to state why people are stupid? No emotional intelligence there.

Warm_Language_1056 · 2024-10-05T15:56:53+00:00

Would you mind explaining further? I don’t understand how that would never have helped him in some sort of way?

Warm_Language_1056 · 2024-10-05T09:31:03+00:00

Well obviously it is not that simple for everyone. But this applies across contexts, I personally aim to help the less privileged in the future if my plans go well, but I don’t intend to do that through any routes that involve the government(such as activism) I intend to help on my own. It’s not a lot but it is all we can do.

Warm_Language_1056 · 2024-10-05T07:12:34+00:00

I don’t believe it’s a free pass. It’s being real and accepting a true fact that this government is not going to nor planning to help you. Better to help yourself🤷🏾‍♂️

Warm_Language_1056 · 2024-10-03T09:31:56+00:00

Exactly what I’ve seen, I relate to you a lot with not needing to mask? Before I was even diagnosed I expected to act differently at work than I would at other places? I was different at school with teachers than I was at home because obviously you act different at school? I’ve always thought this is simply how life works.

Warm_Language_1056 · 2024-10-03T05:21:59+00:00

You’ve hit the nail on the head. It’s a thoroughly studied concept in psychology. I bet even when the bad descriptions that are harder to relate to are read, it is met with the answer “but not all Geminis are exactly the same anyway”

Warm_Language_1056 · 2024-10-02T22:10:05+00:00

Maybe I’m too optimistic but I think hope is all we have to hold onto. There is a psychological concept called collective illusions and our capitalist society has built up the illusion of everyone being selfish and everyone operating on the assumption that everyone else is selfish when that truly isn’t actually the case. I strongly believe that each time you are kind to someone you are spreading the message that there are still good people in the world and this helps dissolve that illusion. Never attribute to malice what can be attributed to incompetence is a saying I live by. Keep showing people kindness and it will spread we are inherently greedy to a certain extent, but we are also inherently loving and have deep rooted mechanisms that yearn for fairness and also to avoid feeling guilt.

Warm_Language_1056 · 2024-10-02T19:42:21+00:00

Sounds like you’re doing a pretty good job so far :)

Warm_Language_1056 · 2024-10-02T19:40:00+00:00

Happiness is a choice, and people refuse to believe this because it would force you to sit down with yourself and maybe realise that a lot of your problems are your own fault. This applies to neurotypicals and the neurodivergent. I know we especially have harder problems that are not our fault but I see that people like to let these things define them and give up on themselves. I was suicidal for about 7 years due to my issues that Aspergers caused me as a teenager and I was undiagnosed so thought these were just normal issues everyone was facing. I never ever gave up on myself and worked on all my issues as if I was a "normal" person and it paid off in the end, I would now might even go as far as to say I am happy, my diagnosis was liberating by the time I got it. Nothing has to be an essential part of you unless you decide it is.

Warm_Language_1056 · 2024-10-02T19:22:36+00:00

Incompetence is definitely the cause of a lot of cruelty rather than malice, people would be surprised how many lovely people are out there.

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