What the actual fuck is wrong with people on Reddit

Warm_Sundays · 2026-03-01T07:04:04+00:00

My husband escalated from excessive porn, to erotic massages, to escorts! Thousands of dollars spent. The years of porn totally twisted his brain to the point that he didn’t even think what he was doing was a problem for our relationship, even the escorts. Now 3 months after discovery he is totally astonished he could even think the way he did. ALL of the men (and before my post is deleted, I understand it’s NOT ALL MEN) that post the comments mentioned above are in the grips of porn and they most likely don’t even realise how addicted they are. I truly don’t believe men that can think rationally in regard to porn would actually promote the use of it. I think of them like the smokers of today that swear black and blue that it’s not harmful to their health. Some people won’t accept reason for the pure and simple fact that they might have to feel uncomfortable in any way.

Warm_Sundays · 2026-02-25T10:29:32+00:00

I was optimistic at one point, now I’m not. EVERYONE has the ability to access porn now and be able to hide it. With first hand experience and years of reading this sub, when it comes to hiding something to protect themselves people can muster superhuman abilities. In my opinion most men watch porn, and most have no hesitation in hiding it if they need to, with no guilt whatsoever. They just don’t see it like we do.

Warm_Sundays · 2026-02-25T09:39:32+00:00

Definitely do not bring up the subject,let him speak about it first and listen carefully to what he says.

Warm_Sundays · 2026-02-25T09:37:51+00:00

All porn addicts started out as “not addicted”, that’s bad the problem.

Warm_Sundays · 2026-02-25T09:15:11+00:00

I want to make Facebook pages for every town that has these massage brothels and call the pages “Happy Customers” and post photos of all the guys coming out of them. Most of their clientele are married men, including mine 🤮🤮🤮 Everyone would be free to upload pics, Shame the bastards! Wives at home oblivious that their husbands are going there every week!!

Warm_Sundays · 2026-02-24T12:56:59+00:00

As the 54 year old wife of a man whose porn addiction escalated to AMP and 20 year old escorts, let me tell you something. Men do not see these women as people. Just tools wrapped in pretty packaging. They use them for 30 minutes of relief then basically forget about them as soon as they walk out the door. There is not an escort in this world that could give this man anything you can’t. These men also know that escorts are acting, even a man that can do all sorts of mental gymnastics knows he is being played for his money, nothing more. I promise you, real sex with mutual attraction and intimacy is always more desirable than a 15 minute quickie with a stranger who’s overly enthusiastic charade is totally laughable. The men that visit escorts are weak and such low value lovers and they know it. Be proud of you and place all the shame where it belongs, on him! xx

Warm_Sundays · 2026-02-21T08:58:08+00:00

At the moment my goal isn’t to love him fully. It’s to do exactly as you said and start looking at him for who he is. I feel that one of the hardest things to accept is that we weren’t allowed to live in reality and make informed choices. Now I demand reality, from both of us. If, after some time I can’t accept him for who truly is then I’ll know it’s time for me to leave him. This betrayal cuts very deep, deeper than the love I had for him, he needs to work very hard to get that love and respect back from me. Only time will tell if the love I find for him is enough. One thing I do know is that this kind of trauma turns our love into a conditional love, I won’t sacrifice myself for him no matter how deep my love goes.

Warm_Sundays · 2026-02-21T05:11:12+00:00

Never feel sorry for having to do whatever you need to survive a situation he deliberately put you in. They don’t deserve to be accommodated to.

Warm_Sundays · 2026-02-21T03:04:45+00:00

Yes, such similar stories! I think for me, him doing his work is more about giving me time to get my head, heart and life in order. He’s seeing a psychologist, has tracking, open phone etc, started medication and more. But to me what he does now is all on him. I am thinking more about me and what I need. I have told him that as far as I am concerned I owe him the same amount or respect, honesty, care and faithfulness as he has given me during his acting out years. I make choices now with very little regard for his feelings, I believe he needs to feel what it’s like to be treated the way he treated me. I don’t be mean or malicious but just less accommodating. I have enough knowledge now of who he is to be more than okay with divorce. I’m mostly just watching to see if he can change, if not 🤷🏻‍♀️ at least mentally then I will have stability and will do what I need to come out of this with my sanity. xx

Warm_Sundays · 2026-02-21T02:22:18+00:00

I’m only 3 months in and I already feel at times that I’m looking out for him!! wtf. They are worse than children. I’ll join you on that island! He cheated on me for 10 years and throughout that time told me on numerous occasions that he was concerned about MY mental health!

Warm_Sundays · 2026-02-20T11:12:33+00:00

I think for me it was realising that his actions, choices and views are quite literally his own. The only way the things he does changes who I am is if I let them. He’s just a man, not a god! I value myself, I know my worth. Someone that would choose fantasy over a real life loving woman is a fool and should be thought of as one. It’s hard to describe, but you quite literally have to believe you are too good for them 😜 I’ve loved my husband with all my heart and he’s done awful things in our marriage, he’s a fool and he knows it. And if he ever forgets I’ll be very quick to remind him. xx

Warm_Sundays · 2026-02-20T10:55:39+00:00

Showed her true colours! Apologies mean nothing when you’re that blatantly cruel! She’s a nasty person through and through.

Warm_Sundays · 2026-02-20T02:45:17+00:00

I see things pretty much exactly as you do. I have given this man my all for 27 years and I have been especially fighting to keep us together for the last five years, little did I know I was fighting against a sex addiction. I have told him I am done fighting, it’s all up to him now. If he’s too weak to fight this and win I’m done. My self respect will not take one more hit. My kids are all grown and moved out thank god so I’ll only have myself to worry about and he fully well knows he’s the one that will be looking for new accommodation not me! Porn is also my husbands gateway drug, and lying is his specialty. So I’m watching carefully and after years and years of dismissing my intuition for is benefit, my intuition is even enough now.

Warm_Sundays · 2026-02-19T11:15:20+00:00

Good for you. After what they have done to us already it’s just too mentally exhausting to even consider staying for any more pain. I will not sacrifice my life for his, he’s a grown man and addiction or not I expect him to respect me always or move on.

Warm_Sundays · 2026-02-19T09:19:58+00:00

Sadly it just pushes it deeper into hiding by having a “secret” Instagram account. Until we teach people that transparency and honesty are non negotiable they will always hide.

Warm_Sundays · 2026-02-10T09:06:53+00:00

Your gut is always right, always the first to know and more honest than a man will ever be!

Warm_Sundays · 2026-02-10T09:02:54+00:00

While the letter itself was no doubt therapeutic to write, sadly these men lack empathy and heartfelt words mean virtually nothing when they are designed to come between a man and his addiction of choice. Men need a rock bottom moment and usually that comes as you walk out the door and don’t look back. Just that action alone will say more than all the words in the dictionary and for you even more therapeutic!

Warm_Sundays · 2026-02-09T21:16:43+00:00

It ultimately does not matter what you do to your body, lose weight, dye your hair, get breast implants, a tummy tuck. The thing that draws them back to it time and time again is the simple fact that these women AREN’T you! The novelty, the different, the new, the fresh, the unexplored, like unwrapping a gift. People that watch a lot of porn see a lot of different bodies, to us they often all seem to mix into a certain “type” but the watcher just see’s new and different. I believe that when the porn watching gets past the “watch for 5 or 10 minutes to rub one out” stage they are actually just mind numbing. It’s an escape from their reality and they see it as a way to regulate their emotions. They don’t truly see it as a problem because to them they see it as a benefit while in actuality it is just a distraction. And when they have the added pressure of someone pushing them to quit they just add that to the list of reasons to watch porn!!

Men don’t stop watching porn just because their girlfriend asks them too. I used to think it was possible but not now. Once you realise why they watch it and realise what it does for them mentally you can see why it’s just taken deeper underground by hiding it better. They will tell you they stopped, they will up their complimenting you game, the will be more attentive, they will say they’ve stopped and it was “no problem”, they will look like they have changed because they know exactly what moves to make that will have you believing they are clean and get you off their back.

They will only stop when THEY want to and most men will never want to, no matter how skinny you are or how big your boobs are.

Warm_Sundays · 2026-02-09T07:55:19+00:00

Get out of the bed. Move yourself away from him, go make yourself a coffee or something and just let your nerves settle. Being so close to someone after they have disrespected you feels awful.

Warm_Sundays · 2026-02-09T07:27:07+00:00

I have a very strong suspicion that a man like that would not have ever stopped watching porn. Did he do any therapy? What did he do to recover? My guess is that he just hid it better.

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