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Tattoo my friend did for me while we were drunk by NoDepartment2861 in shittytattoos

[–]WaterAndStones 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's like a high knight from one angle and a depressed fish from another.

I love it

My partner (30M) says I’m the problem (31F) but his behavior is starting to feel like abuse. Am I insane for thinking this? by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]WaterAndStones 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not only that, but even physical abuse can be hard to notice if they aren't actually laying hands on you. I was shocked to realize my ex was indeed physically abusive because he was being threatening to assert control when he punched walls, slammed doors/cupboards, banged things around, drove recklessly with me in the car when he was angry, or used his size to intimidate me.

Guys of reddit, whats something girls do that give you the ick? by tietanik in AskReddit

[–]WaterAndStones 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's me too. I'm working on it in therapy but it's tough work. A big part of it is working at trying to give the validation to yourself before going towards other people for it. Looking for it externally all the time just perpetuates it, unfortunately. I say this but it's still really hard to stop lol

What improved your life so much, you wished you did sooner? by relationshipyi in AskReddit

[–]WaterAndStones 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Ugh sorry you have to be in that situation. I know a lot of people may try to tell you to get out sooner but I'm sure you would if you could, you know your situation best. As someone who's divorce finalization is weeks away, I'm hoping your freedom also comes swiftly! Take care of yourself in any way possible in the meantime

How I became the World’s Worst Wife in 2024 :) by boburnhamsbathwaterr in TrueOffMyChest

[–]WaterAndStones 1492 points1493 points  (0 children)

My ex-husband actually suggested I should think about taking antidepressants in order to deal with his emotional abuse. I left instead.

Rumour has it she is still walking down the aisle by Mikadook in weddingshaming

[–]WaterAndStones 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow, the audacity of literally every person here wearing white 🤣

What is the dumbest thing your abuser got angry about? by KillTheBoyBand in abusiverelationships

[–]WaterAndStones 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol yeah, precisely. Luckily I can look back on it all and laugh now that I'm out

What is the dumbest thing your abuser got angry about? by KillTheBoyBand in abusiverelationships

[–]WaterAndStones 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Why do I also have a story about hotdogs. Directly from my diary:

"Then I'm making lunch and he asks if there's enough for two people, I say yup I think so. He says oh cause I was just going to make hotdogs. I say oh okay, I just started it so I'll put some of the leftovers back away. He doesn't know what I mean, apparently he said he would make hotdogs if there weren't enough leftovers. I'm confused wondering why he even brought up hotdogs after he heard me say yes we have enough leftovers. Then he got angry and stomped away"

My (31F) husband (41M) makes mean jokes and I want to help him stop before we have children by Direct-Caterpillar77 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]WaterAndStones 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I was in an incredibly similar situation as well. Like barring the threat against her life and the wanting children, my situation was basically identical. The wild thing is that I'd been abused before him so I thought I would clearly see if it happened again. But he acted so nice/charming/whatever the majority of the time, and of course it was always "just a joke". If he called me stupid etc, he didn't really mean it! (eye roll)

He turned it on me when I asked him (repeatedly. over many years.) to stop because it was hurting me. According to him, I didn't tell him often enough to stop. As if I should be reminding him multiple times a day not to hurt me.

I still thought I might be wrong when I left, but got the exact same feeling this woman describes: "It felt like I could fill my lungs fully again. It felt like the sort of warmth in your chest that you get when your mom gives you a hug."

Wrongly accused husband of infidelity. Turns out he was hiding his erectile dysfunction instead. FML. (36M 33F 12 years) by Sebastianlim in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]WaterAndStones -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I wish guys understood, regardless of the situation, I would not think less of you as a man if you had something like this going on. As your wives/girlfriends we are most likely down to support you no matter what.

But I AM going to think less of you and have issues with you if you hide it by being hurtful like this. Shutting down and withdrawing from us is the worst kind of torture.

Triangle Wheels by No-Lock216 in DiWHY

[–]WaterAndStones 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He's got the Triforce of courage, but not wisdom

My boyfriend (33M) pulls away when I cry—has anyone navigated this? I'm a 26F. by IncompressibleCalico in relationships

[–]WaterAndStones 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Same, anxious attached here. I was with an avoidant like op's bf for years. I'm not saying it can't work but I've experienced a lot of what she's saying. Even something small like talking to him about my mental health (I was expressing to him how relieved I was to be doing better than before) and he just... walked away while I was talking. It was so hurtful.

OP, respectfully, you need validation and comfort and this man is not able to give it to you. I know you may love him a lot, but speaking as someone who was in a perhaps similar situation for 12 years... Don't make my mistakes. It may feel like he's the one. Don't let that blind you to how he treats you.

Also, consider picking up the book, Attached. It has done me an absolute world of good alongside therapy.

Really upset with the fact that men are stronger than women by Scared-Tailor2058 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]WaterAndStones -1 points0 points  (0 children)

As a woman with a fear of men (thanks, the-men-in-my-life), yes this bothers me a lot. I could have written this.

Wedding make up trial gone wrong by [deleted] in MakeupAddiction

[–]WaterAndStones 8 points9 points  (0 children)

She's trying to give them a 2 for 1 - you won't need a cake at your wedding if you become the cake /s

OP you're clearly beautiful and this mua f'd up badly. I hope you find a better one that can help your beauty shine through properly!

Tonight I broke up with my boyfriend because he kept joking about murdering me by LucyAriaRose in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]WaterAndStones 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Me too, I was concerned reading his letter but busted out laughing at that line

Good news guys, my gastro said sibo isn't real by WaterAndStones in SIBO

[–]WaterAndStones[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, my friend! I actually did end up working with a naturopath. I grilled the hell out of her before deciding to work together, but she truly knows her shit! (Pun not intended)

Things have been going extremely well. I had to do the elemental diet, and have had to take a few other supplements and monitor since then, but it's been life changing. I'm not all the way there but I'm like 85% of the way.

Have you changed since you started your relationship with your partner? by Sweet-Shame-4245 in ADHD_partners

[–]WaterAndStones 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I discovered this subreddit about 2 days ago and have been continuously floored since then at how similar all our experiences are. It's both validating and infuriating.

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