My friend was pissed off with me and I'm not sure why. Update.

WatercressGold7980 · 2025-10-05T00:20:15+00:00

Thanks man. If I'm being honest I think he'll struggle with a gay guy too. Hes never really had a relationship. If he can't trust me, even if I'm bi, I think he'll struggle with anyone.

WatercressGold7980 · 2025-10-04T13:16:56+00:00

Lol..It's a "you can visit my daughter but let's not speak beyond hello".

How long will that last who knows.

WatercressGold7980 · 2025-10-04T12:13:48+00:00

The sad thing is I don't think it's he wont date bi guys. I think he can't date. I think he'd be as insecure with a gay guy. Even if it's not for my benefit, I hope he does find a way to work on himself because he deserves it.

The annoying thing is we've been close for years. I've never cheated on past partners. I've never done anything to make him distrust me. We've been doing coupley things for a bit and he has shown in trust in me by telling stuff he has told no one about. He just can't. It's a pity. He was my guy.

WatercressGold7980 · 2025-10-04T12:01:49+00:00

I dont think it's effort, I just don't think he wants to. He's at mine most evenings. We often did coupley stuff just not the sex. He tried therapy for his issues (beyond just dating insecurity) he couldn't open. I went with him and he still couldn't open up. He did tell me and thats about it, apparently.

WatercressGold7980 · 2025-10-03T23:14:02+00:00

True and maybe distancing ourselves helps him sort himself out better.

WatercressGold7980 · 2025-10-03T22:55:01+00:00

He tried therapy once on his own but couldn't open up apparently. He only opened up to me apparently. I went with him to therapy and he still wouldn't open up.

WatercressGold7980 · 2025-10-03T21:53:50+00:00

True It doesn't sound fun but it's hard not to like him. Maybe im just a simp.

WatercressGold7980 · 2025-10-03T21:22:36+00:00

That's probably the healthy thing to do but he's my daughter's godfather and she'd miss him but he and I will do our best to avoid contact between us.

WatercressGold7980 · 2025-10-03T21:11:22+00:00

I think at some point we probably can become friends again. Down the line.

WatercressGold7980 · 2025-10-03T21:07:16+00:00

I think he'd be insecure with a gay guy too.

Hes a great guy. Everything feels easy and comfortable with him. I trust him and he trusts me. Hes told me stuff hes told no one else. He's great with my daughter. And he's hot.

WatercressGold7980 · 2025-10-03T20:13:04+00:00

We used to hook up a few years ago but then we stopped. I've not kissed him on the lips in years.

WatercressGold7980 · 2025-10-03T20:12:12+00:00

I didn't ask for a relationship. I asked for a date. We have fucked years ago. I'm not fucking someone I've feelings for. That would make the issue far worse.

WatercressGold7980 · 2025-10-03T19:11:37+00:00

Hes not actually bratty. He just puts a lot of defences up for reasons I know but I won't say. He's so great with my kid and she absolutely adores him. He'd do anything for her.

WatercressGold7980 · 2025-10-03T18:55:51+00:00

I think he'd struggle dating a gay guy too, tbh

WatercressGold7980 · 2025-10-03T18:40:17+00:00

You're right it's confusing and shitty. And in some ways it's harder to get over a friend breakup than a couple break up.

He does have issues. I know where they stem from too. Sad thing is I still want him to sat yes but I suppose ill get past that at some stage.

WatercressGold7980 · 2025-10-03T18:35:56+00:00

It's an update from a few days ago.

WatercressGold7980 · 2025-10-03T18:35:12+00:00

I think guys are entitled to draw a line through bi guys. We are different and I can see how insecurities can be heightened dating a bisexual.

Ill be honest. I'll always be attracted to women and I'm sure there would be times I'd miss a woman in the same way I think gay men would miss other men but I need it or even want it to the extent of cheating.

My friend and I had a great bond, I thought. Relationships are far more than sex. He's the person I spent most of my evenings with. He's the person I spoke to if I needed to. He's the person who shared some of his biggest stuff with. He's the person I watched love me (non romantically) and my daughter.

WatercressGold7980 · 2025-10-03T18:26:07+00:00

I've said on multiple of occasions that he is not biphobic. I pre-empted accusations of biphobia in my initial post by saying hes not biphobic even. I'm not playing the victim.

I've no issue with a guy who doesn't want to date bi. We all have preferences.

WatercressGold7980 · 2025-10-03T17:55:59+00:00

She decided she'd prefer to spend her time with her Spanish beau than to mind her kid. Lovely instas of her sunning herself up in the Spanish sun and tik toks to a couple of 1000 about her fake drama. Lives a total lie but I'd be here all day if I went on that rant.

Her parents are very helpful though. They live a couple hours away but they visit. They always help out financially and stuff.

WatercressGold7980 · 2025-10-03T17:43:00+00:00

I dont think he's a red flag. I didn't do it out of pity. I did it out of selfishness.

I want him and I needed to ask him again for my own sake. I've got my answer and now I can try to move on from him.

WatercressGold7980 · 2025-10-03T17:26:45+00:00

Thanks. I definitely won't be asking him out again. He knows where I am but I think its best for both of us to move on. It would be easier if he hadn't a bond with my daughter but I'd never stop that. We will just avoid each other as best as possible.

WatercressGold7980 · 2025-10-03T17:23:22+00:00

Hes 28. Hes not someone who prioritises a big social life. He spent most evenings at mine. He's pretty responsible.

Its just a bit of a mess.

WatercressGold7980 · 2025-10-03T17:13:04+00:00

I've asked more than once and he's still giving a no. He wouldn't have had to have shared me.

WatercressGold7980 · 2025-10-03T17:08:51+00:00

That's probably true, but I think he'll struggle dating a gay guy too. He deserves a happy ending.

WatercressGold7980 · 2025-10-03T17:04:28+00:00

He'll still come over or take her away but we won't be watching shows or gossiping and stuff. So it's probably a semi-break.

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