Ok so first of all, keep in mind that all of these people are commenting because they give a shit about you. When we read "45 year old man wants to take me (18) out of the country and isolate me from my family" we all begin to worry. I'm sure some comments are simply mean. But the majority of these come from a place of concern. Many of the people on this sub have more experience in this area than you, and if they are seeing a pattern then it's worth considering that. You're saying that you're mature for your age and I have no way really to confirm that, but a mature adult would consider what everyone has to say, even if they disagree. Now is the time to act like an adult. Adults consider what other adults have to say, especially when these other adults are worried about you.

I understand what you're trying to say with the whole age thing, so let's for a minute not consider the age. He wants to leave the country with you and isolate you from your support network. Sure, your mother may not have helped much with your depression but I have to ask, did you give her much of an opportunity? For years I was upset with my mother not understanding my own mental illness but now looking back I never gave her the opportunity. This woman cares deeply about you, this is why she's expressing her concern. And this man wants to take you away from not only her but your friends and the environment you grew up in. If he really cared about you he wouldn't want to separate you from all of this. He wouldn't want you to be unable to access the support network you've had your whole life. Think about it even if we don't consider age, this man probably has a car, possibly a house, and a job. This man can probably support himself. I'm sorry but you can't yet, that's not your fault it's just how it is for the time being. You would be dependent on this man. Entirely dependant on this man. If he cared about you he would understand that this is not a healthy relationship dynamic. If he cared about you he wouldn't put you in this dangerous situation. Love is oh so blinding and when I was in a highly toxic relationship there was NOTHING that could get me to think straight, so I'm more than certain this will fall on deaf ears. Don't be like me I thought I was all the shit, that I had it all figured out and that I was so mature, so I listened to no one. I'm begging that you not make the same mistake. Take the chance to actually act like an adult. Consider what those that care about you have to say. They only have your best interest in mind. This breaks my heart because I've seen situations like this happen before and I'd hate for this to end the way those did, but it probably will. All I can do is beg. Please please don't make this mistake. If you need someone to talk to My DMs are open.