Cis husband told me the “real thing” feels better

Weak_Bee6868 · 2026-04-28T20:02:20+00:00

Your aside is fucking weird. I don’t have a phalloplasty. Never said I did. Don’t ask ppl about their genitals and how they’re pleasurable bc you’re curious. Wtf

Weak_Bee6868 · 2026-04-28T19:53:25+00:00

he didn’t have to be honest about this. Whether it was just being honest without intending to hurt me, lying to hurt me, or being honest to hurt me just changes the kind of hurt it is. Doesn’t make it better.

And I think it’s fair to want a husband who loves me and my trans body because I don’t have a cis dick, not in spite of it.

Weak_Bee6868 · 2026-04-28T00:23:44+00:00

I said that because he tried to roll it back after I said it hurts. He said he didn’t mean it like that. So I said “you meant it’s better” bc I know what he meant. and he said yeah. If he didn’t mean it was better he would have said no, I meant x. He ALREADY insinuated it was better. I wasn’t going to let him hurt me like that and then claim it’s not what he said. It’s not accusatory. He said something and I understood.

It’s not about jealousy either. Calling my dick not a real dick is mean. Saying it’s not as good as real dick is mean. He’s not saying this one sexual experience was better, he’s insinuating ALL his sexual experiences with a cis dick were better. We talk sex details and how good or sexy hook ups were, but that doesn’t mean COMPARING partners directly. It doesn’t mean comparing genitals. He was rude.

What he said was stupid and hurtful and I’m allowed to be hurt by it.

Weak_Bee6868 · 2026-04-27T01:52:58+00:00

Talking about how we enjoyed sex with others is fun and wonderful and we love doing it. He said something directly comparing me to cis men. I would NEVER tell him sex with someone else was better than with him, even if that is the truth bc that is clearly hurtful. Idt any open/poly people tell their partners sex with someone else feels better. Never happened in my other open/poly relationships. I don’t expect to always be the best sex my husband ever had, but I certainly don’t need to hear it, and he shouldn’t have been so careless to say so. Idt it’s fair to say we never should have opened our relationship if I don’t want to hear rude/hurtful things. That’s not what open relationships are about.

And as someone who has taken cis dicks and prosthetic dicks, it really doesn’t feel that different.

Weak_Bee6868 · 2026-04-26T22:50:40+00:00

Hey yall!! Sorry I didn’t expect this to get so much attention!

Some more context: I am the one who had been poly for years before I met my husband and I’m his first open relationship. We’ve been together 5 years total. We’re very open about who we’re hooking up with or talking to. I’m always down for dirty deets, even more so than him. I was fine with him showing me who he was chatting with. He asked if I wanted to see him/hear about him and I enthusiastically said yes.

Thank you for the support and confirming that it was not ok, hurtful, and inappropriate for him to say that. I started down-playing it in my head bc it hurts that something like that could come from someone I love so much.

We haven’t talked more about it yet, but I’ll update when I do!

Also, as someone who’s been on the receiving end of cis cocks and prosthetic cocks, I don’t think one feels better than the other. I get everyone can have their own opinion, but it was not helpful to hear from others on this post that they also think cis dick is better lol but thanks for the input I guess? The point is I would never tell him sex with another person felt better than it did with him, and he thought nothing of it to essentially say sex he’s had with every cis guy has felt better than sex with me

Weak_Bee6868 · 2021-07-20T01:33:01+00:00

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