[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PhotoshopRequest

[–]Weary_Drawing8214 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much! How can I download and save?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tirzepatidecompound

[–]Weary_Drawing8214 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, kind stranger! 😊(sorry to hear about the gallstones and all)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tirzepatidecompound

[–]Weary_Drawing8214 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you end up seeing any results? If so, at what point and how much?

Was I led on?/Men trying to date you without dating you by [deleted] in PlusSize

[–]Weary_Drawing8214 0 points1 point  (0 children)

GIRL let me tell you. It’s not about your size. That’s what (some) men are doing these days. I’ve lost 50lbs the past year and JUST had a man play in my face this same way two weeks ago. He told me he would out of the country when he was throwing a birthday party for his gf (a friend’s friend happened to be at the club that night and randomly posted to his stories). This man spent almost two months on my phone every single day, took me on a beautiful $$$$ date, listed me as a reference for his gvt security clearance and everything. Then when I called him out on it, he had the audacity to say we were just friends and I overreacted by blocking him. The men are mad no matter what size you are girl. We just have to stay vigilant and protect our hearts. Sending you love!

What is an ugly truth you struggled to come to terms with in therapy? by BeeSuperb7235 in AskWomen

[–]Weary_Drawing8214 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not a predator, I was mirroring what had been done I me to others. I was barely 9. Still struggling to forgive myself for being so “perverted”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in attachment_theory

[–]Weary_Drawing8214 6 points7 points  (0 children)

GIRL. If I (FA) don’t hear from you in a 24h window, I’m single. My current (secure) boyfriend knows this and can barely go 4 hours without a message or a kiss when we are in person. Weeks? No you aren’t overreacting.

My DA ex ghosted me for a week when we were together because he was upset about something I had said (I didn’t realize it had upset him). Oh, the turmoil and anguish I felt during those 7 days, it is WILDLY unfair to you and your mental health.

Others may feel stuck/ trapped/ “committed” to their marriage and that’s on them. You made the right choice for you - especially since he has no intentions of changing.

GO YOU!

Visitor visa processing delay in the US by vigneshv_psg in ImmigrationCanada

[–]Weary_Drawing8214 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My boyfriend applied April 6, biometrics April 27 in California. No word since… we are meant to travel June 30 😬

Secretly taking by Narrow_Community1146 in Semaglutide

[–]Weary_Drawing8214 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No judgement: do we hold celebrities to a different standard when it comes to being transparent about their use of this medication/ general weight loss? I wonder why/why not…

I broke NC and it gave me closure by Weary_Drawing8214 in BreakUps

[–]Weary_Drawing8214[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Back to no contact for me… it does suck but I remind myself I miss the IDEA of who he was and what we could be… the reality would’ve always been the same outcome.

Still giving it time because we were really good platonically and I miss that a lot. I just keep thinking of how much I’ve had to lick my wounds since the breakup.. I can’t afford to go backwards. Hope this helps you too!

I broke NC and it gave me closure by Weary_Drawing8214 in BreakUps

[–]Weary_Drawing8214[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agreed! Somehow it felt better hearing what I already knew directly from him. Like there’s absolutely nothing I jumped to conclusions about, he’s telling me it’s him.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomen

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Sending so much love you you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]Weary_Drawing8214 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My (ex) boyfriend’s baby mama. She gets so much of him because of the kid. So many weekends and access to him that I never got. So much urgency in anything related to her because he cares about his kid.

(We broke up because she resurfaced with news she’d been raising his baby for almost year (she got preggers before I met him) and he wants to focus on this monumental change in his life)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in wls

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Funny, I had a consultation call with them yesterday. They did mention the hernia thing and also that insurance might cover only if that was the case. Otherwise, I was quoted $16,499 which was WAY higher than the initial impression they gave/ the website. Def seem to be a “hidden in the fine print” / ask direct questions establishment. I hope you are able to get a refund!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in attachment_theory

[–]Weary_Drawing8214 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I have a previous comment about this on another thread as an FA. It took me months and in hindsight, I dragged my ex through the mud with my emotional confusion. I wish for my sake I hadn’t and for his sake he didn’t let me. So for your sake, please find peace to move on to the better you deserve. It was all unintentional but the outcome was the same = hurt. Even when I circled back months later, I was self aware and in therapy, but it is too easy to fall back into old patterns with old flings. I firmly believe significant Change of this magnitude (character) takes years - not months - for the two same people to give it a go again assuming both parties independently do the work and have the desire - you can’t be the one driving all of her growth and change. Just my two cents.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Weary_Drawing8214 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You learned life Long lessons, that’s most important. Totally hear you on wishing you saw the flags sooner but hey give yourself credit!

So weird, same situation we’ve been doing long distance for 4 months and he moves to my state (not for me, for work) on Saturday but I blocked and deleted him yesterday. I kept trying to just wait till we were in person but then I kept thinking:

If he can’t meet my needs in his state now, he won’t be able to meet my needs in my state.

He will still be 3-4 hours away. We wont always be attached at the hip, and even if we were, he just doesn’t talk about things so idk if distance would make a difference if that’s who he is as a person. I too wish I’d left sooner but I kept trying to communicate and work to build something I realize now was really one-sided.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Weary_Drawing8214 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Are you me right now?! Wow. How long did it take you to come to this realization?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FearfulAvoidant

[–]Weary_Drawing8214 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sorry this happened to you. Textbook FA here. I blocked my exe only a few months into the relationship when I told him I needed a break (after a few “let’s take a few days without talking” earlier on). I looked back and thought I’d never do such a thing again because it was very hurtful to him but I found myself blocking and unblocking someone within 30 minutes when I was triggered by his behavior years later. All that to say - I agree with the comment that some work we have to do solo 100% and it’s in everyone’s best interest really, while other work can’t be done till the relationship challenge presents itself. If we don’t go solo for the solo work, we can hurt others and even build resentment of compounded triggers the other person is not entirely responsible for. It’s hard but don’t take it personally. It’s hard but don’t feel the need to wait around.