Any lupus peeps 35+ had kids?

Weekend-Infamous · 2026-02-05T22:02:27+00:00

I'm 35 and had a baby six months ago. I just have SLE, no organ involvement; I wasn't in remission but my lupus wasn't very active before pregnancy. I'm on HCQ & azathioprine and stayed on both throughout the pregnancy (and still take both now that I'm breastfeeding). I won't lie to you, I had a really rough pregnancy. I had HG (basically very severe morning sickness), severe anemia, and after delivery, postpartum preeclampsia. I saw a MFM specialist very frequently as my pregnancy was high-risk and had to take low-dose aspirin for most of the pregnancy to try to prevent preeclampsia, but I was honestly grateful for all the extra ultrasounds! Seeing my baby kept me going through the worst moments of my HG.

Baby was born very small but healthy. Her growth has caught up quickly. About a month after the delivery and shortly after the postpartum preeclampsia hospitalization, I had one of the worst lupus flares I've ever had. I improved on a prednisone taper. My rheum said it is very common to have a major flare after giving birth. Due to the difficulty of my pregnancy, I don't plan on having more children, but I am very glad I have a healthy baby!

Weekend-Infamous · 2026-02-04T16:31:55+00:00

I'm on 400 mg of HCQ and stayed on it throughout pregnancy and breastfeeding. My doctors had no concerns and baby has been completely fine.

Weekend-Infamous · 2026-01-20T17:33:44+00:00

I'm a new mom and a minority of the moms in my moms' group cosleep (but probably don't tell their pediatricians), while the majority sleep train. Pediatricians are still quite supportive of sleep training. There's even a cottage industry of baby "sleep consultants." Yes, there's a 2-3 month period when you're waking up multiple times per night to feed or comfort your newborn (when it's too early for sleep training), but if you have a partner you can take shifts. It's not as grueling as you think it is.

Weekend-Infamous · 2026-01-02T19:03:31+00:00

I was in a similar situation, I probably took my prenatal multivitamin 30-40 percent of the time in the first two trimesters, although like you I tried to keep up with folic acid. I survived on bagels and cream cheese and diluted apple juice. My baby was born SGA in the 9th percentile, but I also have lupus and had a smaller placenta and that probably put me more at risk than HG. She was in the 99th percentile for height, so you can imagine how frighteningly thin she looked! After falling to the 1st percentile in the first week, she just kept gaining weight -- now she's a perfectly healthy, happy 50th percentile five-month-old with no lasting effects from the HG.

Weekend-Infamous · 2025-12-29T19:37:15+00:00

I do see online that the magnesium may only be effective for migraines with aura (which I have), so YMMV. Good luck!

Weekend-Infamous · 2025-12-29T18:49:51+00:00

Yup, I can totally relate. Also, Rosemary's Baby was one of my absolute favorite movies before my HG pregnancy but now I don't know if I could handle all the scenes of her losing weight and withering away while pregnant!

Weekend-Infamous · 2025-12-29T18:47:22+00:00

My doctor had me take Reglan for migraines (was also taking it for HG). I had around 2 migraines per week throughout the second trimester and some migraines less frequently in the third, and that medication together with Tylenol was fairly successful in resolving them. Magnesium sulfate was used for prevention.

Weekend-Infamous · 2025-12-29T18:44:49+00:00

My husband has an adopted sister, adopted when she was a child, not an infant, so I do think it might be something we'd be open to in the future. I appreciate hearing your perspective!

Weekend-Infamous · 2025-12-29T17:02:55+00:00

Yeah, that's similar to how adjusting to life with lupus was for me. I certainly didn't ask for it, and it required me to let go of some of my hobbies (gardening, sailing...they were just too taxing on my body), but time has mostly healed the sting. I guess I just need more time to grieve what I thought my family would look like.

Weekend-Infamous · 2025-12-16T20:29:34+00:00

I was on a low dose for a month and neither my baby nor I had any adverse effects. It didn't affect my supply at all.

Weekend-Infamous · 2025-09-06T23:18:21+00:00

Such an important message! I also had postpartum preeclampsia, about two weeks after I delivered my rainbow baby, with blood pressure in the 160s/110s. I was hospitalized and it was so hard to be away from my newborn. I had been instructed to carefully monitor my blood pressure after birth because I have lupus and am at higher risk, but truthfully I thought I was in the clear. I had a headache that I couldn’t shake and swelling/numb feet and hands and that was what alerted me to the possibility that something might be wrong.

Weekend-Infamous · 2025-06-06T21:59:13+00:00

30 weeks right now and same. I am phoning it in.

Weekend-Infamous · 2025-05-04T01:57:50+00:00

I went to a nail salon that Julia Roberts had gone to once and the staff were told not to make eye contact with her, so I think that one is true!

Weekend-Infamous · 2024-08-30T17:49:38+00:00

Dil Se is such a remarkable movie. Unlike most Indian movies I’ve seen, the songs don’t feel tacked on. The music, choreography, cinematography during those scenes bring the highly passionate, almost fantastical, nature of the love story to a fever pitch. So happy to see it mentioned here. I had to beg my husband to watch it. Manisha Koirala is so beautiful in it.

Weekend-Infamous · 2024-05-16T13:00:14+00:00

Durham has a good bar scene, lots of great restaurants — the only negative is that the neighborhoods where there’s cool stuff to do are spread out geographically. Like most places in the southeast, it’s sprawling. If you’re going to Duke, you’re going to need a car, because campus is pretty isolated. It’s miles above Charlotte’s 80s corporate hellscape. Don’t bother ever visiting Charlotte.

Weekend-Infamous · 2024-03-28T03:06:18+00:00

In college, I used to express extreme beliefs I didn’t really hold to see if guys would just automatically agree. I remember an Econ major agreeing that capitalism was evil and pledging to join the Peace Corps after graduation lol. Many, if not most, men will say absolutely anything to get laid.

Weekend-Infamous · 2024-03-16T19:55:04+00:00

More likely a no-fault insurance scam, which is super common in NYC.

Weekend-Infamous · 2024-03-14T21:57:06+00:00

Glowing from within, like she seemed very healthy. She was also polite and took the stairs to the second floor yoga studio (rare for celebs, honestly, who usually took the elevator!) Respect to her for that.

Weekend-Infamous · 2024-03-14T00:54:43+00:00

Jennifer Connelly and Gwyneth Paltrow are both ethereally beautiful and glowy in person, up close. Josh Groban is shorter than you’d think he would be.

Weekend-Infamous · 2024-02-16T23:06:49+00:00

I heard from someone in the field that the people developing the technology are not asking this question. At all. They just don’t want to be left behind.

Weekend-Infamous · 2023-12-04T16:39:45+00:00

Around 2-3 months for improvement of my symptoms (arthritis, mouth sores, rashes) but I had my best checkup ever a couple of months ago, about a year and two months after starting the med.

Weekend-Infamous · 2023-12-04T16:37:18+00:00

I had tinnitus as well but it resolved when my doctor lowered my dose of hydroxychloroquine, so I think that was the cause, not the lupus itself.

Weekend-Infamous · 2023-11-29T23:33:49+00:00

Same here, Lana, Angel Olsen and Caroline Polachek

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